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Explore the impact of habits on success with a breakdown of ineffective vs. effective habits, urging proactive behavior to shape your destiny. Learn to prioritize and set meaningful goals for a fulfilled life.
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Who am I? I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command. Half the things you do you might just as well turn over to me and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.
Who am I? I am easily managed—you must merely be firm with me. Show me exactly how you want something done and after a few lessons I will do it automatically. I am the servant of all great individuals and , alas, of all failures, as well. Those who are great, I have made great. Those who are failures, I have made failures.
I am not a machine, though I work with all the precision of a machine plus the intelligence of a human. You may run me for a profit or run me for ruin---it makes no difference to me.
Take me, train me, be firm with me, and I will place the world at your feet. Be easy with me and I will destroy you.Who am I?
I AM HABIT. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CXOyaIqtw6U 3:33 • Hab-it. noun: An acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary:
7 habits of highly DEFECTIVE TEENS??? • In order to understand effective habits lets first look at defective ones… **Do any of your bad habits Fall into these areas?
Habit 1: REACT • Blame all your problems on your parents, stupid teacher, boyfriend, girlfriend. Be a victim. Take no responsibility for your life.
Habit 2: Begin with No End in Mind • Don’t have a plan. Avoid goals at all cost. Never think about tomorrow. Don’t worry about the consequences of your actions.
Habit 3: Put First Things Last • Whatever is most important in your life, don’t do it until you have spend sufficient time watching reruns, tweeting, updating Facebook, lounging around, playing X Box. Make sure the things that don’t matter always come first.
Habit 4: Think Win-Lose. • See life as a vicious competition. Your classmate is out to get you, so you better get him or her first. Don’t let anyone else succeed at anything because if they win, you lose.
Habit 5: Seek First to Talk, Then Pretend to Listen • Your were born with a mouth, so use it. Make sure you talk a lot. Always express your side of the story first. Once you are sure everyone understands your views, then pretend to listen to others.
Habit 6: Don’t Cooperate • Let’s face it. Other people are weird because they are different from you. So why try to get along with them? Teamwork is for dogs. Be your own island.
Habit 7: Wear Yourself Out • Be so busy with life that you never take time to renew or improve yourself. Never study. Don’t learn anything new. Avoid exercise like the plague. Eat only junk food. Stay away from good books or anything else that may inspire you.
BE PROACTIVE I am the force. Take responsibility for your life. Being proactive is more than taking initiative. It is accepting responsibility for our own behavior (past, present, and future) and making choices based on principles and values rather than on moods or circumstances. Proactive people are agents of change and choose not to be victims, to be reactive, or to blame others.
2 types of people….. Reactive People: Proactive People: Are not easily offended. Take responsibility for their choices. Think before they act Bounce back when something bad happens. Always find a way to make it happen. Focus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they can’t. • Easily offended • Blame others • Get angry and say things they regret later. • Whine, complain • Wait for things to happen to them • Change only when they have to.
How would you solve this problem: • You are trying to save more money for college and you noticed that you do not have many hours on your work schedule for next 2 weeks… • Reactive? Proactive?
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind “Control your own destiny or Someone Else Will.” • Define your mission and goals in life. All things are created twice – first mentally, second physically. • Individuals, families, teams, and organizations shape their own future by creating a mental vision and purpose for any project. They don’t just live day to day without a clear purpose in mind. They mentally identify and commit themselves to the principles, values, relationships, and purposes that matter most to them.
Imagine if WHS had no formal grades or calendar year… • No grading qtrs, semesters, due dates. • No 9,10,11,12 classes…. • If you just had a list of classes that had to be completed- and it was up to you to get them completed. • upon completion you would get your diploma in the mail. • How far would you be right now???
Habit 3: Put First Things First • Prioritize, and do the most important things first. • Putting first things first is the second or physical creation. • It is organizing and executing around mental creation (your purpose, vision, values, and most important priorities.) • The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.
Freshman Statistics • 30% to 40% of college students eventually drop out before they earn a degree. • http://colleges.usnews.rankingsandreviews.com/best-colleges/southern-illinois-edwardsville-1759/rankings
Habit 4: Think Win-Win • The Stuff That Life Is Made Of • Have an everyone-can-win attitude. • Thinking win-win is a frame of mind and heart that seeks mutual benefit and is based on mutual respect in all interactions. It’s not about thinking selfishly (win-lose) or like a martyr (lose-win). In our work and family life, members think interdependently -- in terms of “we,” not “me.” Thinking win-win encourages conflict resolution and helps individuals seek mutually beneficial solutions. It’s sharing information, power, recognition, and rewards.
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood • You Have Two Ears and one Mouth • Listen to people sincerely • When we listen with the intent to understand others, rather than with the intent to reply, we begin true communication and relationship building. Seeking to understand takes kindness; seeking to be understood takes courage. Effectiveness lies in balancing the two.
Habit 6: Synergize “Work together to achieve more” • Synergy is about producing a third alternative – not my way, not your way, but a third way that is better than either of us would have come up with individually.
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw • It’s “Me Time” • Renew yourself regularly physical social/emotional mental spiritual It’s the habit that increases our capacity to live all the other habits of effectiveness.
Habits of Wealthy.. • http://finance.yahoo.com/news/daily-habits-of-wealthy-people-143505884.html • 3:31 “wealthy” as earning at least $160,000 annually and holding at least $3.2 million in assets.
Evaluate your habits: Did any of these habits describe you? EXIT SLIP--- 1)Which habit(s) of effective teens could you improve upon? Why? 2)What habits do you have that will help you be successful?
To Realize The Value of Time...(author unknown) • To realize the value of one year: Ask a student who has failed a final exam. • To realize the value of one month: Ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby. • To realize the value of one week: Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper. • To realize the value of one hour: Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet. • To realize the value of one minute: Ask the person who has missed the train, bus or plane. • To realize the value of one second: Ask a person who has survived an accident. • To realize the value of one millisecond: Ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics. • Time waits for no one. Treasure every moment you have. You will treasure it even more when you share it with someone special.