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How Husbands Cope

How Husbands Cope. It ’ s a “ guy thing ”. Bobbit Suntay The Carewell Community The Ca ncer Re source and Well ness Community. How husbands cope “ I did it, myyyyyy wayyyy… ”. Personal and unique No “ best way ” No “ rulebook or manual ” No “ roadmap or guide ”

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How Husbands Cope

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  1. How Husbands Cope It’s a “guy thing” Bobbit Suntay The Carewell Community The Cancer Resource and Wellness Community

  2. How husbands cope“I did it, myyyyyy wayyyy…” • Personal and unique • No “best way” • No “rulebook or manual” • No “roadmap or guide” • Different strokes for different folks

  3. Don’t be a Hero! • You can’t do it all alone • Ask for help/Seek out help • Counseling/Support Group • Relief from school/work • Reach out to family and friends

  4. Communicate… • Constantly • Clearly • Accurately • Honestly • Compassionately • …with the person ill with cancer • …with loved ones and friends

  5. Your “new normal” • Explore it • Establish it • Live it • Do your best… • …believe you are doing your best

  6. Care for yourself • “Put your oxygen mask and life vest on before assisting others” • Getting sick and/or burnt out makes things harder • You need to be at your best (or as close to it) in order to care well

  7. Let go and let God • Be in “the now” – don’t look back and regret, don’t worry too far ahead. • Name your fears and face them • Forgive • See God’s hand at work • Trust that your own way of coping will see you through

  8. Don’t rush to be “OK” • Let things run their course • “Grace abounds the long way around” • “Don’t rush to solve the problem; allow the problem to solve you” • There are no schedules and timetables • Trust the process • Don’t allow “adaptive” coping to become “maladaptive”

  9. Coping through Caring • Making meaning • Bringing healing • Coping through Carewell

  10. TheCarewellCommunityTheCancerResourceandWellnessCommunity • Opened our doors in 2006 • We provide psycho-social support • Dedicated to all persons affected by cancer • Resources and services provided free of charge • Volunteer-driven • Rely on contributions and collaboration • The Wellness Community and Gilda’s Club Worldwide (The Cancer Support Community)

  11. TheCarewellCommunityTheCancerResourceandWellnessCommunity • Support Groups and Counseling • Medical Consultations and Referrals • Library and Resource Center • Wellness and Fun Activities • Respite Weekends and Field Trips • Talks and Workshops • Community of persons with cancer and their loved ones

  12. TheCarewellCommunityTheCancerResourceandWellnessCommunity • www.carewellcommunity.org • info@carewellcommunity.org • 751-0242 • 815-1294 • 6th floor of S & L Building • Dela Rosa corner Esteban Streets • Legaspi Village, Makati City

  13. TheCarewellCommunityTheCancerResourceandWellnessCommunity • Cure Magazine 2011 Cancer Resource Guide • Caregiving for your loved one with cancer, CancerCare, 2005 • The Total Cancer Wellness Guide, Kim Thiboldeaux, 2007 • Cancer, Coping, Carewell, Robert Suntay, 2010 • Cancer care for the whole patient, National Academy of Sciences, 2008

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