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Discover how love, both given and received, can heal and transform in the face of stress and change. Learn to build a new normal with grounded love and connect with internal and external resources. Support yourself and others through the power of presence, acknowledgement, and empowerment. Take action steps and utilize tools for survival and recovery. Embrace the infinite capacity of love to make a difference in your life and community.
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The Art of CompassionDr. Janet Childs, AAETS DiplomatDirector, Bay Area CISM TeamCentre for Living with Dying program of Bill Wilson Center
43 percent of U.S. adults suffer adverse health effects from stress, according to an American Psychological Association (APA) study.
Love, given and received, An antidote to stress.
Internal External resources
Love Can Heal! OOC: Out of Control Isolation In Control In Team/Community
Change creates trauma/stress Stress is the natural response to any change or loss Emotional trauma is similar to physical injury
Stress and Change 3 types of landminesTriggered by Senses, Time or Memory
PTSD now is PTSI Post Traumatic Stress Injury With response, can be Post Trauma Growth
Stress Individual and unique Normal, universal human experience Natural response to any loss or change - even positive change Unpredictable waves The body remembers No timetable
Stress Dynamic Crash Wall Tired/Wired Stress Baseline for Responders/ Spiritual caregivers
RESPOND Fight Flight Freeze
Types of Stress Acute Delayed Cumulative Occupational
What’s in your Backpack ? Present Stress
Stress and Change Magnitude of change Transformed by CISR…
What does this mean for you the responder? Infinity of giving and receiving.
The Earth is Your mother and your child ……..Your heart and your community
New Normal Build a new normal with grounded love.
Perceptions & Beliefs • Stress: 80% perception, 20% event • Beliefs: • I will make a difference vs. I can make a difference by my presence • Building the new normal • Changing and adjusting world view • Love power can help!
Love is ACTION Love and Loss hold Both & And in equal measure
Daily Gratitude • Connect with the earth • Seven Senses • Sight, sound, touch, taste, smell, intuition, connection with Spirit/Creator/All • Be in present moment • Honor your truth • Be gentle with yourself and with others…
How to supportNeed Don’t Need Honesty Acknowledgement Listen Presence Choice Space Validation Empowerment Pity Advice Judgment/critique War stories Platitudes/cliches Ignored Fix-it Personal Power taken away
Walk Talk • Moving Forward. Breathing. • Equal Relationship:Balance of power. • Out in Nature/Fresh Air. • Neutral Environment. • Less ‘Counseley’. More natural.
Support Tips Stay in the present moment Reassure stress response is normal Focus on most difficult issue RIGHT NOW Assess what is needed RIGHT NOW No easy way over stress, but moment by moment, we get through and build the NEW NORMAL
Tools for Survival Acknowledgeimpact of stress Expressdetails Act – take steps to create as much meaning & completion to the stressful event Reconnect to what’s good in your life
Action Step Plan Identify elements Meaning Making Group involvement?
Grounding: Internal Resources The body never lies The ‘Village Within’ Personality Types: What do YOU need?
Internal Resources The Village Within Your Support Team
Connect with The wise one The ancestor The innocent
Recovery Triage • Breathe. • Drink plenty of water. • Move. • Eat. • Give yourself a break. • Ground in the present moment. • Identify. • All in the energy of love.
Remember Be easy with your own process. We have today. Savor what’s good in your life now. Your presence is powerful. You can make the choice for you!