Move Your Family From Struggle to Cooperation

1. It is our goal to strengthen families with the knowledge, skills and insightthat can move parents and their children forward in actualizing their full potential. Move Your Family From Struggle to Cooperation www.ThePlaceInTheGrove.com

2. There isn’t a parent out there that wouldn’t answer “Yes” to the question “Do you want your child to grow up responsible?” Move Your Family From Struggle to Cooperation www.ThePlaceInTheGrove.com

3. Parenting Approaches Permissive Parenting Authoritarian Parenting Breakthrough Parenting Move Your Family From Struggle to Cooperation www.ThePlaceInTheGrove.com

4. Permissive Parenting • This approach assumes that, if left to figure things out, children will find their way. • Advocates of this method let children decide how to behave and learn from the consequences of their behaviour. Move Your Family From Struggle to Cooperation www.ThePlaceInTheGrove.com

5. This rarely succeeded for the simple reason that few children are naturally self-directing. Children need routines, structure, predictability and boundaries, and they do not come by these naturally. Move Your Family From Struggle to Cooperation www.ThePlaceInTheGrove.com

6. Authoritarian Parenting • The oldest and most widely used approach. • Parents assume the majority of responsibility to control their children from birth to adulthood until their children become independent. • This method has parents using their power and authority to take charge and punish their children in order to teach them what to do. Move Your Family From Struggle to Cooperation www.ThePlaceInTheGrove.com

7. Breakthrough Parenting • Now we get to another way of raising our children that is neither permissive nor authoritarian. • Breakthrough Parenting differs from the others in that the responsibility for solving problems is shared between parent and child. Move Your Family From Struggle to Cooperation www.ThePlaceInTheGrove.com

8. The child is not given permission to decide not to be responsible nor is the child told exactly what to do. Asking what their plan is lets them know you expect them to assume responsibility but allows them to develop their critical thinking and problem-solving skills. Move Your Family From Struggle to Cooperation • www.ThePlaceInTheGrove.com

9. It is up to the child to decide when and how to do the job. If their plan works, great! If not then the problem-solving process occurs between parent/child. (Will be covered later). Whose room is it? Whose problem is it? THEIRS Move Your Family From Struggle to Cooperation www.ThePlaceInTheGrove.com

10. What is the parent’s job? To help the child attain mastery of their responsibilities by allowing them to assume an increasing amount of responsibility for it. Move Your Family From Struggle to Cooperation www.ThePlaceInTheGrove.com

11. The parent/child engages in problem-solving until both of them agree on how the child is going to take care of that particular responsibility. This approach continues until it is no longer necessary for the parent to mention the task. Move Your Family From Struggle to Cooperation www.ThePlaceInTheGrove.com