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Positive Guidance

Positive Guidance. Purpose. T o protect and prepare children to survive and thrive in the kind of society in which they live. In our current democratic society, children need to have:. Responsibility Decision-making ability rather than obedience Problem solving skills

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Positive Guidance

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  1. Positive Guidance

  2. Purpose • To protect and prepare children to survive and thrive in the kind of society in which they live

  3. In our current democratic society, children need to have: • Responsibility • Decision-making ability rather than obedience • Problem solving skills • Cooperation skills (teamwork) • Courage to try…fail…and try again

  4. Reasons for Misbehavior • Environment: The child is uncomfortable in or does not understand his/her environment. • Doesn’t Know Better: The child has not been taught the concept he/she is dealing with.

  5. Unfulfilled Needs: The child’s needs are not being met and she/he is acting out in order to try to get his/her needs met. • Stage of Growth: the child is behaving in a normal manner for the stage of growth he/she is in (power, attention, revenge)

  6. Most common reason for misbehavior:

  7. Guiding Positive Behavior

  8. 1. Positive Statements • Clearly states what is expected, then help them get started • When guiding children, phrase all requests in a positive manner • Talk to children at their eye level when giving directions • Example: say, “Let’s walk to the blocks,” rather than, “Don’t run to the blocks”

  9. Examples • “Stop screaming!” • “Don’t punch your brother.” • “Don’t leave your shoes in the middle of the room” • “You can’t play until you’ve picked up your toys”

  10. 2. Redirection • Most children can be easily distracted, get the child to focus on something else • Example: if he is angry at the blocks area, lead him to a different area of the room and introduce a different activity http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8eCfnrGu5xo

  11. 3. Limited Choices • Do not give him an unlimited choice unless he can really have what is chosen. • Only give choices that are available. • Example: “Do you want juice or water for a drink?” rather than, ‘What would you like to drink?”

  12. 4. Reverse Attention • When a child’s behavior is inappropriate, focus on a child who is displaying the appropriate behavior and make a positive comment • Ignoring the negative, reinforcing the positive • If the first child changes his behavior, he should be immediately reinforced with a positive statement.

  13. 5. Positive Reinforcement • Behavior can often be molded by rewarding positive behavior. • Examples?

  14. Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior • Unintentional Misbehavior should not be punished • Dropping a glass of milk that was too heavy. • Wasting food on their clothes • Use Punishment Effectively • When using punishment, make sure the child knows what they are getting punished for.

  15. *Reminders* • Give warnings (when applicable) • Simple language • Speak calmly and in a quiet, relaxed tone • Be firm • Be consistent • Model • Listen

  16. Negative Reinforcements Consequences Loss of Privileges Time Out

  17. Natural Consequences Logical Consequences • Occur without interference, child can see the result of their choices • Cannot be used if the consequence will cause harm to self, others or property, or too far in the future. • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4QcQzgGAYYs • Should be relevant to the misbehavior • Short in duration, not imposed in anger • Example: if Sally spills the paint, she must clean up the mess that is made

  18. Loss of Privileges • What are privileges you could take from . . . • A 2 yr old? • A 7 yr old? • A 12 yr old? • A 17 yr old?

  19. Time Out • Use a place where there are no distractions or positive reinforcers • When a child has disobeyed a rule, she will be sent to a predetermined place to distance herself from the problem and gain composure. • Limit using this option!!

  20. Time Outs • Short (1-15 minutes) • Child in same room as you • Child is seated (it’s not meant to be uncomfortable) • Time starts when the child is quiet. Time re-starts if the child talks or leaves the area. • Can do timeouts in levels if necessary.

  21. Poor Disciplinary Measures • Bribing • Giving kids something so that they will stop misbehaving. Candy, toys in the store, etc. • Making children promise to behave • Sometimes makes children lie so they don’t disappoint their parents • Shouting or yelling • Usually frightens the children and a lot of time has no effect whatsoever. • Physical Abuse • Shaming or belittling • Lowers their self esteem

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