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Discover the crucial aspects of preparing for marriage based on biblical principles, emphasizing self-growth, knowledge about marriage, and partner selection. Learn the importance of thorough preparation for a successful lifelong covenant.
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The Family & the Home Lesson 3: Preparing for Marriage
Marriage Preparation • The two most important decisions a person can make in life is (1) to say “I believe…” - become a Christian, and (2) to say “I do…” - get married • “Look before you leap!” is still good advice • Preparation for any important endeavor in life will determine the success or failure of that endeavor; marriage is no different
Marriage Preparation • Marriages often fail because of a lack of preparation; many people spend more time and money preparing for the wedding (rings, dress, flowers, music, food, etc.) than they do the marriage • The wedding ceremony is over within a few minutes; the marriage covenant is to last a lifetime
Marriage Preparation • Marriage preparation should always begin with a study of God’s marriage manual; slow down and take your time preparing; don’t forget that marriage is honorable (Heb. 13:4) • Marriage is good and from the Lord (Prov. 18:22)
Marriage Preparation • Self-preparation: “I’m truly ready (scripturally) to be married?” Before you find the right person, you need to be the right person! • Study preparation: “Do I know all that God says about marriage and the family?” • Selection preparation: “Is the person I am interested in truly ready (scripturally) to be married?”
Marriage Preparation • It begins early with parental teaching and a proper childhood up-bringing (Eph. 6:4) • Pray for a godly spouse (1 Thess. 5:17) • Begin early to establish a good name or character (Ruth 3:11; Prov. 22:1; Eccl. 12:1) • Learn and know God’s NT law of marriage (Mt. 5:31-32; 19:3-9; Mk. 10:1-12; Lk. 16:18; Rom. 7:2-3; 1 Cor. 7:10-15, 39)
Marriage Preparation • Learn all that you can about everything related to marriage and family (Eph. 5:22 – 6:4; Col. 3:18-21; 1 Tim. 2:15; 5:14; Tit. 2:4-5; Heb. 12:7-11; 1 Pet. 3:1-7) • Watch your environment; seek out a faithful Christian that you truly know from among good company (1 Pet. 3:7) • Don’t marry a stranger (S.S. 2:10-14)
Marriage Preparation • Be old enough to be mature (Gen. 2:24) • Maturity is needed in serving the Lord together • Maturity is needed in fulfilling marriage/parent roles • Maturity is needed in working in and out of the home • Maturity is needed in raising children
Review Questions 1. What do many people spend more time preparing for, the wedding or the marriage? 2. When, where, and how does marriage preparation begin? 3. What kind of things should be considered while preparing for marriage?