6 Ways To Get Your Child Listen To You

1. 6 Ways To Get Your Child Listen To You 1. Don't start talking until you have your child's attention:- Connect before you start speaking. That means you can't bark orders from across the room and expect to get through. Instead, move in close. Get down on your child's level and touch him lightly. 2. Don't repeat yourself:- If you've asked once and not gotten a response, don't just repeat yourself. You don't have your child's attention. Go back to Step One, above. 3. Use fewer words:- Most of us dilute our message and lose our child's attention by using too many words. Use as few words as possible when you give instructions. 4. See it from his point of view:- If you were busy with something you liked doing and your partner ordered you to stop doing it and do something else that was not a priority to you, how would you feel? Might you tune out your partner? Your child doesn't have to share your priorities, he just has to accommodate your needs. 5. Engage cooperation:- No one wants to listen to someone who's giving orders; in fact, it always stimulates resistance. Think about how you feel when someone orders you around. Instead, keep your tone warm. When possible, give choices. 6. Stay calm:- When we get upset, kids feel unsafe and go into fight or flight. In their effort to defend themselves or to fight back, they become lesseffective at listening, and lose sight of our message. If your priority is getting everyone in the car, don't waste time and energy lecturing them about why they didn't listen to you and get ready when you first asked. That will just make everyone more upset, including you. S o u r c e : w w w . a h a p a r e n t i n g . c o m w w w . t h e b a d d a d d y . c o m