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This article explores the involvement of fathers in matters of faith and their experiences. It discusses the different rituals and decisions related to faith, as well as common patterns and typologies of fathering in faith. The challenges faced by fathers in maintaining their own faith while parenting are explored, along with the frictions that can arise between fathers and the church. The article also emphasizes the importance of supporting fathers in their faith journey through mentorship, building on strengths, and effective men's ministries.
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Involved Fathering and Men’s Experiences of Faith Rob Palkovitz University of Delaware Newark, Delaware, USA
Differences Fathers Experience • Rituals related to the birth: Circumcision, baptism, dedication • Decisions regarding early training in matters of faith: church attendance, Sunday school • Questions from children regarding God, faith, behavior of self & others • These each lead to values clarification regarding issues of faith
Common Change Patterns in Fathers’ Faith • No change • Religion always central • Negative experience made disinterested • Other life experiences (alcohol, etc.) • Changes • Fathering initiated: brings to forefront • Enhancements: provided boost needed • Seekers: now see importance of exploration
Typologies of Fathering in Faith: A Continuum • Discouraging • Disinterested • Provider • Disciple Maker (Generative)
Common Challenges for Fathering in Faith • Consistent life style (avoiding hypocrisy) • Vitality of own faith • Biblical or doctrinal knowledge • Faith as a gendered venture
Father/Church Frictions • Criticisms • Comfort levels
Supporting Fathers in Faith • Hebrews 10:24 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. • Transition times important- especially transitions WITHIN fathering and transitions WITHIN faith • Finding teachable moments • Building on strengths • Need for effective men’s ministries • Mentorship and friendship, not criticism