Protecting God’s Children ™ Responsible Relationships in Ministry

1. Protecting God’s Children™Responsible Relationships in Ministry Please be sure you sign in and pickup the handouts at the table by the door. DIOCESE OF PATERSON

2. Protecting God’s Children™Responsible Relationships in Ministry DIOCESE OF PATERSON (Insert your name) Facilitator

3. Welcome & Introduction • Sign in Sheets – VERY IMPORTANT! • Welcome & Introduction • Opening Prayer • Facility Layout - Restrooms • Relaxed, Casual atmosphere • Breaks • Cell phones on vibrate

4. Welcome & Introduction • Handouts-Participant Workbook • Evaluations • Why am I here? What is my Role? (handout) • Practical advice for parents (handout) • Quick Reference Guide

5. Outline & Timeline • Welcome 10-15 mins • Video: A Time to Protect God’s Children 35 mins • Small Group Discussions 10 mins • Large Group Discussion 20 mins • Break 10 mins • Video: A Plan to Protect God’s Children 35 mins • Large Group Discussion of Five Steps 30 mins • Abuse reporting procedures 10-15 mins • Evaluation Total time: 2 1/2-3 hours

6. Key Points for a “Time” to Protect • Child sexual abuse can happen anywhere to anyone • Abuse is devastating to a child and sometimes the scars of abuse can last a lifetime • Child molesters skillfully groom children, parents and communities to accomplish their goals. • Child molesters rely on their power over children to control children and convince children not to tell. • Child molesters often convince themselves that they love the children they molest. • Child molesters look for jobs or volunteer opportunities that give them access to children • Child molesters also use internet technologies to gain access to children.

7. Video: “A Time to Protect God’s Children” Note: Video content can be difficult & uncomfortable

8. Types of Molesters/Grooming Molesters • Preferential - • Prefer sexual interactions with children. • Prefer particular age and gender 2) Situational • Seem normal, have age appropriate relationships. • Situation causes them to turn to children 3) Indiscriminate/Random Grooming • Physical • Psychological • Community

9. Small Group Discussion • By yourself, answer questions in the participant workbook listed under ”A Time to Protect God’s Children-Group Discussion” on page 1, 2-3 minutes, • Break into groups of 4 or 5, Discuss the question in participant workbook, 7-8 minutes

10. Large Group Discussion • What were your reactions to the video? • How did the abuse affect the victims? • What don’t children tell anyone about sexual abuse • How common is child sexual abuse? • What did you learn about the molesters?

11. Myths & FactsPage 2 • Myth: Strangers are responsible for most child sexual abuse • Fact: Most child molesters are people the parents already know and trust • Myth: Child abusers can be identified solely based on their physical Characteristic • Fact: Child abuser can be or look like anyone • Myth: Most sexual abusers are homosexual • Fact: Most child molesters are heterosexual • Myth: Children usually lie about child sexual abuse • Fact: Children very rarely lie about sexual abuse. These then 5% of allegations are false • Myth: Priests abuse children because of their vow of celibacy • Fact: Celibacy doesn’t cause anyone to become a child molester. The few priests who do perpetrate abuse molest children for the same reason that other people do.

12. Break 10 Minutes

13. Key Points for a “Plan” to Protect • We are not helpless to prevent child sexual abuse • We must know the warning signs of a potential abuser in order to protect children • We must carefully screen who has access to our children • We can protect our children by closely monitoring all programs • We must be aware of what is happening in the live of our own children • We must communicate when we have concerns about inappropriate behavior or suspected abuse

14. Video: “A Plan to Protect God’s Children”

15. A Plan to Protect God’s Children • Step One- Know the Warning Signs • Step Two- Control Access • Step Three: Monitor all Ministries & Programs • Step Four: Be Aware of Child & Youth Behavior • Step Five: Communicate your Concerns

16. Mandatory Reporting - State Suspected Child Abuse or Neglect • New Jersey Statute:9:6-8.13 • Everyone is a mandatory reporter. • Any person having reasonable cause to believe that a child has been subjected to child abuse or acts of child abuse shall report immediately to the Division of Child Protection & Permanency • Anyone making a report is immune from civil or criminal liability provided a report is made in good faith.

17. Mandatory Reporting - State Suspected Child Abuse or Neglect To immediately report an incident in accordance with the “Memorandum of Understanding” with the County Prosecutors, please contact: Division of Child Protection & Permanency (CP&P) 1-877-652-2873

18. Mandatory Reporting - State Suspected Child Abuse or Neglect The County Prosecutor: Morris County – (973) 285-6200 Sussex County – (973) 383-1570 Passaic County – (973) 881-4800

19. Mandatory Reporting - Diocese Suspected Child Abuse or Neglect The Diocese of Paterson is committed to the prevention of child abuse and to assisting those who are affected by incidents of child abuse. The diocese is also committed to complying with legal requirements for reporting child abuse. The Diocese of Paterson is committed to ensuring a safe environment for all.

20. Mandatory Reporting - Diocese Suspected Child Abuse or Neglect Contact the Diocesan Response Officer: (973) 777-8818 ext. 248 and/or Victim Assistance Coordinator (973) 879-1489

21. Protecting God’s Children™Responsible Relationships in Ministry DIOCESE OF PATERSON