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Chapter 9 Review. Communication and conflict. Conflict and communication. What is an example of an image conflict? Value conflict? Relational conflict? What is an example of symmetrical escalation? What is Pursuit-Withdrawal
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Chapter 9 Review Communication and conflict
Conflict and communication • What is an example of an image conflict? • Value conflict? • Relational conflict? • What is an example of symmetrical escalation? • What is Pursuit-Withdrawal • On the explanatory process model, what is the difference between proximal outcomes and distal outcomes? • What are the four parts of the four part model for understanding conflict? • Skits
Close relationships Chapter 10 lecture/recap
Relationships and Interpersonal communication • How are they related? • Communication • Indicates close relationships • Develops close relationships • Interpersonal relationship same as interpersonal communication?
Types of relationships • Role relationships vs. Close Relationships • Close relationships = unique communication patterns: • Can the two overlap?
DEFINING/Framing close relationships • Cultural Performances • Cognitive Constructs • Relational scripts (narrow vs. broad) • Basic vs. Complex constructs • Linguistic Constructs • Labeling • Culture • Relational culture • Your examples (AE #11) • Examples: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XFpVrkcJc0k&feature=fvst • Remember Meredith and Cristina? • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sa9wfqYyw7U • Gender
Types of relationships • Friendships • Role of Gossip • Healthy Friendships vs. Unhealthy Friendships • Example: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XxCzApUQXcI • Romantic relationships • Families • Defining family • What’s your definition? • Family stories • Example: The Cosby Show • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YWXjwTRh0rg • What does the clip say about their relational culture? • Rituals (everyday interactions, traditions, or celebrations)
Communicating in close relationships • Systems Theory • Dialectics Theory • Social Exchanges Theories • Stage Models
Systems Theory • Relationships as living systems • 6 part system • Wholeness • Interdependence • Hierarchy • Boundaries or openness • Calibration or feedback • e.g. communication • Equifinality
Dialectics theory • Autonomy vs. Connection • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O4VvAU1OJFg&feature=related(3:20 mark) • Novelty vs. Predictability • For example: romance and surprises • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ES2Dkh82ZJk • Judgment vs. Acceptance • Affection vs. Instrumentality • Public vs. Private • Ideal vs. Real • Where do you fall within each “category” in terms of your best friend? • On the back of your AE#11, pick one of the dialectics and apply it to your close relationship • Questions to consider: • How much are we together/apart? • Are we allowed to judge each other? Are there boundaries? • Do we just provide affection for one another? Or does our friendship serve an instrumental function? • Reflect and discuss.
Social exchange theories • Social exchange (costs vs. rewards) • Theory of Interdependence • When costs outweigh rewards • Comparison level • Comparison level of alternatives • Relative power position
Knapp’s stage models Coming Together Coming Apart Differentiating Possible conflict? Circumscribing Stagnating Avoiding Terminating • Initiating • Short-term attraction vs. Long-term attraction • Experimenting • Small Talk • Intensifying • Integrating • Bonding
How To communicate To Begin To maintain and/or repair To maintain Preventative Maintenance (assurance, openness, positivity, sharing tasks, social networking) Support Using Humor To repair Corrective Maintenance Meta-Communication Apology • Networking • Offering • Approaching • Sustaining • Affinity seeking
Application Exercise #12 (30 pts) • Complete the handout on my faculty webpage (in chart of Application exercises) • Number responses; type • Will discuss in class
Catfish! • Watch the film; will discuss (part of grade) • For application exercise #13 (10 pts) you will: • Jot down notes to aid you in our discussion. • After the film, respond to the following: • What does the film illustrate about the possible connection between technology and interpersonal relationships? • What did the film teach you about the bright side vs. dark side of technology? • What examples do we find of healthy and/or unhealthy relationships? 1 to 2 paragraphs OR number responses
For class next week (Monday/Tuesday) • Discussing technology; will debate • Bring laptops and/or research on impact of technology on interpersonal communication