Conflict Management, Decision Making, and Bullying

1. Conflict Management,Decision Making, and Bullying

2. What is conflict? • Conflict – a disagreement between people with opposing view points, ideas, or goals. • They occur because.. • Difference of opinion • Relationships • Space • Property • Etc…

3. What is conflict? • Conflicts can be an exchange of words • Group confrontations can be ongoing • Conflicts that involve weapons can be serious

4. What is conflict? • Interpersonal conflicts are between two or more people • Internal conflicts take place inside your own mind • Judging a school talent show, PE game, etc… • The more time you spend with someone, the more chances there are for disagreements • Family, friends, room mates, etc…

5. Bullying • Bullying – a more powerful person who picks on a less powerful person or group of persons. • Forms of bullying • Including physical threats or violence; name-calling and teasing; ostracism; and social attacks on someone’s reputation • People can bully others directly, in person; indirectly, such as by gossiping or ‘badmouthing’ by voice to others; or through any form of communication technology including talking on the phone, writing, texting, emailing, tweeting, facebook (and other social media), and recording

6. Conflict vs. Bullying • Conflict is a normal part of most relationships because people have different perspectives and priorities • People can also be hurtful to each other because of thoughtlessness, annoyance, poor boundaries, and experimenting with negative uses of their power without realizing the impact

7. Conflict vs. Bullying • Learning how to take charge of your own emotional and physical safety, how to act safely and respectfully towards others even if you feel frustrated or upset, how to set boundaries and respect the boundaries of others

8. Cyber Bullying Steps to reduce cyber bullying • Do not respond or reply electronically • Save the evidence • Tell a trusted adult • Report the issue to the cite

9. Peer Pressure • Positive vs. Negative Peer Pressure • Grades, getting a tattoo to be a part of a group, sneaking out with friends, using cool language around peers, being asked to do something you know is wrong, etc…

10. Communication Skills Effective verbal and non-verbal • connection with others • body language • tone of voice • express feelings through words • Proximity • Skype, face to face, phone, text, email, etc…

11. Refusal and Negotiation Skills • Say no in a firm voice • Tell why not • Offer other ideas • Promptly leave

12. Effective Conflict Management or Resolution Strategies • Take a time out • to calm down and think through my anger. • Allow each person to tell his or her side • then paraphrase the other persons position. • Let each person ask questions • in order to view the issue from the others point of view. • Keep brainstorming solutions • either to find the middle ground or creative solution

13. Decision-making skills • Identify the problem. • (Identify, ask yourself questions, what choices do you need to make and who else if anyone is involved) • What are the persons choices? • (List everything, ask for suggestions and make sure they are safe.) • Gather information. • What information should a person gather that would be helpful to know before making a decision? • Consider the outcome/values. What would be the result of the decision? • (honesty, respect and trust) • (Consequences of each options Healthful Ethical Legal and Parent approval) • Make a decision and act. • (Ready to take action, choose a course that supports your values, the impact of all choices on self and others and ask a trusted adult if unsure.) • Evaluate your decision • (Reach expectations, how did it affect others, how you feel about yourself and what could you do differently)