NCMM Summit Rendezvous ’08 Meeting Minutes

1. NCMM SummitRendezvous ’08 Meeting Minutes November 11 – 13th 2008 Minneapolis, MN

2. Tuesday, November 11th (PM) • Dinner and Fellowship • Welcoming comments from David Delk • History of NCMM • “We can do more – together” • Worship by Tim Lemmens • Comments from Bethel University Vice President Ralph Gustafson • Leary Gates welcome message • Area pastors and leaders will be attending on Thursday morning • “We need each other” • Plenary Session with Dr. Leith Anderson • Leading men – Battle of Gettysburg • Challenges of leadership • Leadership characteristics • Figure out what you need to do…and do it! • Live Christian. Lead with your vulnerability and transparency. • Have mentors. Dead or alive, but know them well. • Leadership context – adapt to those that you lead. • Cutting edge. Be the second wave – not first and not last. • Trust in God for the long term. Be the Warren Buffet. The best ideas are in years 7 – 9.

3. Tuesday, November 11th (PM) Ministry Updates: • Don Patterson CSB Ministries • Dave Brown WACCM (Washington, D.C.) • Bill Moyer National Fellowship of Catholic Men • John Bishop Living by Design • Rick Lindsay Encourage Men to Pray • Rod Handley Character that Counts • Chris Van Brocklin Men with a Purpose • Jeff Abramovitz Family Life/Campus Crusades for Christ • Larry D’Apice Iron Sharpens Iron • John Mentus Men of Hope (Rhode Island) • Art Remington Men at the Cross • Bill Terry IPHC Men’s Ministry • Mike Young Noble Warriors Small group exercise: What one thing can NCMM do to make your ministry more effective? What one thing can you do to make NCMM more effective? (See slide 11) Draft Ministry Plan (handout) Small group prayer

4. Wednesday, November 12th (AM) • David Delk Welcome. “There is no “them”. WE are it. It is up to us.” • Leary Gates BoldPath Life Strategies • NCMM – our 6th annual summit • Live courageously – assessment of men’s ministry via survey • Ralph Gustafson Bethel University • Welcome to local area pastors and ministry leaders. • Session 1: Dr. Patrick Morley discusses his newest book, Pastoring Men • What do men want? What do men need? • Men are looking for your to lead them. Pastors have a huge influence. • The Great Commission: “Go and make disciples of men…” • Why are we here? Evangelism without discipleship is cruel. • How are men doing? What do men want? Cause. Companion. Conviction. • Most men think that money will solve their problems and that success will make them happy. Also that they can have the best of “both” worlds. • What keeps men from getting what they want? What do men need? • Session 2: Dr. Patrick Morley on “The Senior Pastor is Key to Everything” • Three main findings/success factors: Vision. Determination. Sustainable strategy. • Small group breakout/discussion. • Prayers for the local pastors and ministry leaders.

5. Wednesday, November 12th (PM) • Session 3: Dr. Patrick Morley discusses the No Man Left Behind model • Portal priority • Man code • Three strands of leadership • Wide/Deep continuum • Hurting men • The Engine • Create Value/Capture Momentum and Sustain Change • Next steps: Read Pastoring Men. Access Disciplemen.com for resources. • Small group discussion: What’s next for NCMM and Christian men’s movement? • Challenges and Opportunities • NCMM to denominational heads to broaden men’s ministry applications • A safe place for ministers to be ministered to. • Move to fully funded position to work expansion of NCMM • Men at NCMM love it so much and want to hold on to it – be careful not to squeeze it to death • Small group discussion/presentations: • 1. Field network/field ministry • 2. Membership drive/enhancements • 3. Serving denominations • Prayer and ministry to each other • Dinner and fun at the Mall of America

6. Wednesday, November 12th (PM) • Ministry Updates: • Tom Cheshire Relevant Practical Ministry for Men • Ken Church Cornerstone Men’s Ministry (IPHC) • James Steiner/Jim Grassi Men’s Ministry Catalyst • Rick Kiekintveld Discover Life Resources • Dr. Chuck Stecker et al A Chosen Generation • Roy Abbott Focal Point Ministry • Leary Gates BoldPath Life Strategies • Phil & Paul Downer Discipleship Network of America • Chris Van Brocklin Iron Sharpens Iron • Mike Pratt New Life Church • Bernie Ritterbush Life Coaching on Demand • Marty Granger Stand in the Gap (WACCM) • Chuck Schneider Ignite (CCN) • Al Lenio Man in the Mirror

7. Thursday, November 13th (AM) • Welcome – David Delk, Ralph Gustafson • (Awesome) worship with Tim Lemmens • Plenary Session: Dr. Jay Barnes on “Men of God” (see handout) • What does it mean to be a man of God? Fruits of the spirit. • Traveling through life – character quality, vital friends and accountability. • Manage yourself – Be President vs. Do President. Know thyself. Marriage challenges. • “We are God’s plan to reach the world. There is no “Plan B”. “ • Ministry Updates • David Delk – NCMM 2009 Assumptions • Members are the customer – not the church or the men. • Leverage and make more effective, the ministries at NCMM • NCMM should enhance and help what God has called each ministry to do. • Self-interest is okay but seek Him first. • Incubate new ministries. • Connection between members and churches. • Easier access to resources (ex: Disciplemen.com). • Visibility for members and the cause of discipling men. Ex: each NCMM ministry could include the NCMM name and logo along with their identify.

8. Thursday AM, November 13th (con’t) • David Delk – NCMM in 2009 • New Leadership team is formed to work with Board of Directors • Monthly email newsletter • Bi-monthly conference calls • Incubate new ministries • Revised due structure: • Different dues for different sized ministries: • $75 for individual/church/part-time ministries • $150 for small to medium size ministries • $300 for large ministries • Plan to recruit President and/or Executive Director • Leaders conferences (1 or 2 like this?). Design Team meeting (make these initiatives a reality) • No training super-conference currently planned • Submit “what can NCMM do for me?” and “what I can do for NCMM?” (see summary slide 11) • Event Survey • Closing prayer and worship Self select

9. Small Group Case Studies/Group Discussions • What services should NCMM provide its members? • Calendar/Regional map • Speakers bureau…bios/2-minute video • NCMM bulletin board and monthly e-newsletter • Web strategy • How-to’s, whereto-go-for _____ etc. (downloadable video ice-breakers) • Provide environment to build relationships • Valet parking at NCMM events • How can NCMM help raise up more ministry leaders in the field? • Need national presence (such as Focus on the Family exposure) • Write and communicate “success stories” of members who have been able to get involved in ministry full or part-time. • Intentionally reach out to other ages/demographics • Assemble start-up manual • Presence at other events/gatherings • Endorse men’s-related films, books, etc. (PR and marketing needed) • Partner with other ministries – women’s (MOPS), youth, etc. • “missionary” emphasis whose unreached people group is men • Name change? • Become a mission-sending agency – coaching and training strategies • Calling men into manhood • Ministry – Management – Money – Marketing strategies • “Recruiting conference” to be held on East coast in 2009 (Marty Grainger and Mike Young)

10. Small Group Case Studies/Group Discussions • How can NCMM better serve denominations? • Help break control and fear issue – it is a MUST! • Establish anew the need for reaching men • Offer (free) services to [sic and] come to denominational events • Build relationships with denominational leaders (national and regional) • Break through the “blockage” to meet the real need • Bridging of resources • Receive the benefits • If in doubt or need of an enthusiastic response, call Bill Terry. Be sure you have unlimited long distance calling. May God bless him and more like him!

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