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Session five. Asking. Recap on last weeks homework. Think of something you could ask someone for that would be a stretch not a big stretch that would freeze you up, just a teeny weeny stretch Ask for something you want.
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Session five Asking
Recap on last weeks homework • Think of something you could ask someone for that would be a stretch • not a big stretch that would freeze you up, just a teeny weeny stretch • Ask for something you want.
Take some of your action steps that are growing out of this session and be prepared to talk about them next week! • In preparation for next week make a list as long as you can of all the messes and incompletes in your life that need to be handled
Messes and Incompletes • Leave you feeling overwhelmed • Unconscious feelings of incompetency
Divide your list into little things and big things • Commit to tackling the little things by the months end • Commit to tackling the big things by the end of the summer • Look at which goals you will need to ask for help with
Asking for what we want Write down on the form I am about to give you all the things in your life that you would like to ask for…. • Assistance • Acknowledgement • Someone to stop • Time out Based on your list of goals, or anything else that comes to mind
In pairs take turns to answer the questions at the bottom of the form in relation to something you want to ask for • Look for any patterns in how you stop yourself from asking for what you need • Practise session ‘ asking for what we need’
Pick one thing off your list of messes and incompletes… • Apply the MTO to this goal • Is it possible to delegate this goal? • Decide who to ask for support from to achieve this goal… • i.e. your sister, your friend, yourself! • When are you going to ask them?
In pairs you need to articulate what you wrote….i.e. • The mess you are going to clean up • Why it is important • Who, if anyone is going to help you • What timeframe have you set yourself
homework • ask for at least on thing on your form • Make some progress on getting a handle on one of your incompletes