Parenting the Tween, Teen and Young Adult

1. Parenting the Tween, Teenand Young Adult Parenting Class Part 5

2. Why the schoolmaster? Gal 3:24-35 • So our children grow to understand what God values

3. Why the schoolmaster? Gal 3:24-35 • So our children grow to understand what God values • So our children grow to understand that temptation & sin are a reality

4. Why the schoolmaster? Gal 3:24-35 • So our children grow to understand what God values • So our children grow to understand that temptation & sin are a reality • So our children grow to understand that sin has consequence

5. Why the schoolmaster? Gal 3:24-35 • So our children grow to understand what God values • So our children grow to understand that temptation & sin are a reality • So our children grow to understand that sin has consequence • So our children grow to understand they have asin requires repentance

6. Why the schoolmaster? Gal 3:24-35 • So our children grow to understand what God values • So our children grow to understand that temptation & sin are a reality • So our children grow to understand that sin has consequence • So our children grow to understand they have asin requires repentance • So our children grow to understand the power of forgiveness

7. What common changes do we see in teenagers?

8. What changes do we see in teenagers? • Independence • Influence of Culture & Increase in Temptation • Hormonal/Physical Change • Complex Social Dynamics

9. What do we want from our teens?

10. What do we want from our teens? • Personal relationship with God • Strength and Determination • Love for God’s People & Mission • Personal Visions for Life & Ministry • Revelation of God’s Gifting

11. Three types of Parental Approaches to Teens The Permissive Parent The Controlling Parent The Moderate Parent

12. Permissive Parent A Permissive Parent incidentally let’s the world raise their child

13. Permissive Parent A Permissive Parent incidentally let’s the world raise their child … a parent who is perhaps unawareof the harms of the world.

14. Permissive Parent A Permissive Parent incidentally let’s the world raise their child … a parent who is perhaps unawareof the harms of the world. … a parent who is perhaps overlyconfident in their children’s ability to navigate the world.

15. Permissive Parent A Permissive Parent incidentally let’s the world raise their child … a parent who is perhaps unawareof the harms of the world. … a parent who is perhaps overlyconfident in their children’s ability to navigate the world. … a parent who often does not have a strong relationship with their child so they display their love by giving excess liberty.

16. Permissive Parent A Permissive Parent incidentally let’s the world raise their child … a parent who is perhaps unawareof the harms of the world. … a parent who is perhaps overlyconfident in their children’s ability to navigate the world. … a parent who often does not have a strong relationship with their child so they display their love by giving excess liberty. … isn’t very good at discipline because they have a hard time seeing and perceiving their children’s sin.

17. The Controlling Parent A Controlling Parent is afraid of the world.

18. The Controlling Parent A Controlling Parent is afraid of the world. … is a parent who is overly restrictive.

19. The Controlling Parent A Controlling Parent is afraid of the world. … is a parent who is overly restrictive. …is a parent in danger of stunting the development of their child

20. The Controlling Parent A Controlling Parent is afraid of the world. … is a parent who is overly restrictive. …is a parent in danger of stunting the development of their child … is a parent who is potentially breeding fear into their children

21. The Controlling Parent A Controlling Parent is afraid of the world. … is a parent who is overly restrictive. …is a parent in danger of stunting the development of their child … is a parent who is potentially breeding fear into their children … is a parent who is potentially undermining God’s mission for their children.

22. Controlling Parent A Controlling Parent is unaware and oblivious … is a parent who is overly restrictive. …is a parent in danger of stunting the development of their child … is a parent who is potentially breeding fear into their children … is a parent who is potentially undermining God’s mission for their children. … is a parent who perceives they are very close with their teen but are actually pushing them away

23. The Moderate Parent A Moderate Parent leads by truth and grace with the mission in mind.

24. The Moderate Parent Proverbs 1:1 The proverbs of Solomon the son of David, king of Israel;2 To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding;3 To receive the instruction of wisdom, justice, and judgment, and equity;4 To give subtilty to the simple, to the young man knowledge and discretion.5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels: Receive the instruction of wisdom - be teachable

25. The Moderate Parent Proverbs 1:1 The proverbs of Solomon the son of David, king of Israel;2 To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding;3 To receive the instruction of wisdom, justice, and judgment, and equity;4 To give subtilty to the simple, to the young man knowledge and discretion.5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels: Receive the instruction of wisdom - be teachable

26. The Moderate Parent Proverbs 1:1 The proverbs of Solomon the son of David, king of Israel;2 To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding;3 To receive the instruction of wisdom, justice, and judgment, and equity;4 To give subtilty to the simple, to the young man knowledge and discretion.5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels: justice - learn to be fair minded, temperate and objective

27. The Moderate Parent Proverbs 1:1 The proverbs of Solomon the son of David, king of Israel;2 To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding;3 To receive the instruction of wisdom, justice, and judgment, and equity;4 To give subtilty to the simple, to the young man knowledge and discretion.5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels: judgment - learn to be fair and draw sensible conclusions.

28. The Moderate Parent Proverbs 1:1 The proverbs of Solomon the son of David, king of Israel;2 To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding;3 To receive the instruction of wisdom, justice, and judgment, and equity;4 To give subtilty to the simple, to the young man knowledge and discretion.5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels: equity - learn to be fair and impartial

29. Winning Their Heart While Keeping Authority The Moderate Parent …is a parent who is devoted to winning their teens heart.

30. Winning Their Heart While Keeping Authority The Moderate Parent …is a parent who is devoted to winning their teens heart. … is a parent that sets boundaries but gives their teen freedom within those boundaries.

31. Winning Their Heart While Keeping Authority The Moderate Parent …is a parent who is devoted to winning their teens heart. … is a parent that sets boundaries but gives their teen freedom within those boundaries. … is a parent unafraidof their children failing and are determined to help them when they do.

32. Influences The Moderate Parent … is a parent unafraid of the influence of other godly people … is a parent unafraid to let them influence lost people BUT guard and teach students to not have intimate relationships with the world • time - too much exposure • vulnerable situations - sleep overs, late night conversations • indoctrination - if you are aware that a worldly friend is rubbing off on your kid then they restrict that friendship.

33. Parenting the Tween, Teenand Young Adult PT. 2 Parenting Class Part 5

34. REVIEW Three Types of Parents

35. REVIEW Three Types of Parents - Permissive

36. REVIEW Three Types of Parents • Permissive • Controlling

37. REVIEW Three Types of Parents • Permissive • Controlling • Moderate – Prov. 1:1-8

38. REVIEW Three Types of Parents • Permissive • Controlling • Moderate – Prov. 1:1-8 • Winning Their Heart While Keeping Authority

39. REVIEW Three Types of Parents • Permissive • Controlling • Moderate – Prov. 1:1-8 • Winning Their Heart While Keeping Authority • Influences

40. Modeling The Moderate Parent … is a parent models a seamlesslifestyle.

41. Modeling The Moderate Parent … is a parent models a seamlesslifestyle. … is a parent who models the four goals of discipleship

42. Modeling The Moderate Parent … is a parent models a seamlesslifestyle. … is a parent who models the four goals of discipleship … is a parent who reflects the fruit of the Spirit

43. Discipline The Moderate Parent … is a parent who knows their teens spiritual and physical state (maturation) and disciplines according to their needs

44. Discipline The Moderate Parent … is a parent who knows their teens spiritual and physical state and disciplines according to their needs … is a parent who knows when to let God do the disciplining.

45. Parenting Class Series Pt. 6: Guarding Against the Wiles of the Devil Parenting Class Part 6

46. The Enemies Demands 1 Kings 20:1 And Benhadad the king of Syria gathered all his host together: and there were thirty and two kings with him, and horses, and chariots; and he went up and besieged Samaria, and warred against it. 2 And he sent messengers to Ahab king of Israel into the city, and said unto him, Thus saithBenhadad, 3 Thy silver and thy gold is mine; thy wives also and thy children, even the goodliest, are mine.

47. Personal Sacrifice for the Sake of His Family 4 And the king of Israel answered and said, My lord, O king, according to thy saying, I am thine, and all that I have. 5 And the messengers came again, and said, Thus speakethBenhadad, saying, Although I have sent unto thee, saying, Thou shalt deliver me thy silver, and thy gold, and thy wives, and thy children; 6 Yet I will send my servants unto thee to morrow about this time, and they shall search thine house, and the houses of thy servants; and it shall be, that whatsoever is pleasant in thine eyes, they shall put it in their hand, and take it away.

48. Counsel of the Elders 7 Then the king of Israel called all the elders of the land, and said, Mark, I pray you, and see how this man seeketh mischief: for he sent unto me for my wives, and for my children, and for my silver, and for my gold; and I denied him not. 8 And all the elders and all the people said unto him, Hearken not unto him, nor consent.

49. Righteous Determination - Willing to War 9 Wherefore he said unto the messengers of Benhadad, Tell my lord the king, All that thou didst send for to thy servant at the first I will do: but this thing I may not do. And the messengers departed, and brought him word again. 10 And Benhadad sent unto him, and said, The gods do so unto me, and more also, if the dust of Samaria shall suffice for handfuls for all the people that follow me. 11 And the king of Israel answered and said, Tell him, Let not him that girdeth on his harness boast himself as he that putteth it off. 12 And it came to pass, when Ben-hadad heard this message, as he was drinking, he and the kings in the pavilions, that he said unto his servants, Set yourselves in array. And they set themselves in array against the city.

50. We must be very circumspect as it regards the enemies advances.