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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, TRAUMA & RECOVERY. Tonier Cain P.O. Box 175 Arnold, MD 21012 ca4toni@aol.com. BECAUSE HE LOVES HER. WHY ARE YOU CRYING?. He just loves me too much!. Age:6. I believed verbal and physical abuse was love. I watched my father beat my mother everyday .
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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, TRAUMA &RECOVERY Tonier Cain P.O. Box 175 Arnold, MD 21012 ca4toni@aol.com
BECAUSE HE LOVES HER WHY ARE YOU CRYING? He just loves me too much!
Age:6 I believed verbal and physical abuse was love. • I watched my father beat my mother everyday . • She’s at the hospital again. • He’s gone? Why? He loves her!
She found love… • Her new boyfriend beats her, he loves her. • If It’s love why does she scream and cry? • She’s gone to the hospital again. • He’s gone, why? He loves her!
Trauma felt at 9 years old. • Verbal and physical abuse from mother • Molestation • Left to care for siblings • Started drinking alcohol
TERRIFIED ELEVEN • Removed from mother • Placed in foster care • Dysfunctional family
HOPELESS FOURTEEN • She loves me, she wants me back. • How do I live without her. • Attempted suicide
19 years old and beyond • Drug addiction • Introduction to Criminal Justice System • Mental Institutions
MARRIED CHILD • He beats me, does he love me? • She moved in with my little sisters. • Abuse from him and her.
RETRAUMATIZED • Arresting Officers • Correctional Officers • Drug Addiction Counselors • Seclusion and Restraints • Over-medicated • Hospitals • State Agencies
After Trauma Treatment • Drug and alcohol free • Secure attachment with daughter • Medication free • Advocate • Board Member • Council member • Homeowner and more
What if…………… • At age 9 someone recognized my trauma • I embraced trauma treatment then • School employees, hospitals, state agencies, rehabs., arresting officers were all trained in trauma
Isn’t it possible that the results could’ve been this………. • This child, to this woman, to this mother without the destruction • A THOUGHT, HUH?