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PERSUADE! Nine Strategies for Getting What You Want. Persuasion. Creating a change in someone’s feelings , thoughts and behaviors. H3. Head Heart Hands. Feeling Good. We do what we think will make us feel good WII-FM. Empathy. “The essential rule
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PERSUADE! Nine Strategies for Getting What You Want
Persuasion Creating a change in someone’s feelings, thoughts and behaviors
H3 • Head • Heart • Hands
Feeling Good We do what we think will make us feel good WII-FM
Empathy “The essential rule when trying to convert someone is DON’T at least not at first just listen” Dennis Ross The Missing Peace
Empathy What do you need to know about the other person?
1. Credibility • Character • Competence • Caring • Confidence
1. Credibility “I’d like to give more time and money, but . . .” 84% said they doubted their donation would be put to good use. USA Today Survey
1. Credibility “If people anywhere are to willingly follow someone . . . They want to assure themselves that the person is worthy of their trust.” Kouzes & Posner
1. Credibility “In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.” George Orwell
1. Credibility “Motivation is getting people to do something out of mutual advantage. Manipulationis getting people to do what you want them to do primarily for your advantage.” Fred Smith
2. Comparison • Everybody is doing it • Bandwagon • Line experiment • Pink ribbons • Livestrong bracelets
3. Community • Relationships – Home-based sales parties • Likability – Joe Gerard • Attractiveness – Celebrity endorsements • Similarity – Me too
4. Commitment • Foot in the door • Start small • Test drive • Free trial offer • Fence • Marriage proposal
5. Control • Reactance • Don’t tell me what to do • Inoculation – Great nurses
6. Connection • Relevant • Choose your audience • You can’t persuade everyone
7. Clarity • Simple • Concrete • Curse of knowledge
8. Color • Vivid – Paint a picture • Detailed – Be specific • Unexpected – Miller Time • Story – Giving and statistics
9. Christmas Cards • Reciprocity • Go first • Seek first to understand . . . • It’s not about you
9. Christmas Cards “In order to have influence, you must first be influenced.” Stephen Covey
9. Christmas Cards “You can have everything you want in life if you only help enough other people to get what they want.” ZigZiglar
Resources • Influence Cialdini • Made to Stick Heath • Blink / Tipping Point Gladwell • How to win friends . . . Carnegie
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