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Getting Married. Communication. “The greatest problem in communication is the illusion that it has been accomplished.” Daniel W Davenport. Ways we Communicate. Words Facial Expressions Body Language Silence.
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Communication “The greatest problem in communication is the illusion that it has been accomplished.” Daniel W Davenport
Ways we Communicate • Words • Facial Expressions • Body Language • Silence
“When a man speaks, he gives you a piece of his mind, when a woman speaks, she gives you a piece of her heart.” From ‘Mars and Venus Together Forever’ by John Grey
Managing Finances • Be realistic – most of us spend 10% more than we earn! • Beware of plastic money • Make sure lifestyle fits your budget • Be honest – never hide the truth • Decide who will be responsible for monitoring finances • Make regular time to talk about them • Agree realistic budget & review bank statements together regularly
Conflict is inevitable, combat is optional!
Disagreements….DON’T.. • Forget the issue • Be historical • “You always..” “You never…” “Yes, but.” • Involve others • Criticise partner in public • Use insults, blame.. • Deny being partly responsible
Disagreements… DO… • Pray • Be ready to back down • Resolve differences lovingly before sleep • Be first to say “sorry” not “Sorry but…” • Remember the awesome power of forgiveness • Find right time to talk – 10pm rule • Stick to the issue • Choose words carefully • Non-confrontational phrases • Hear your partner out • Try to understand the meaning & feeling behind words