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--Husband and Wife-- Teamwork in the Marriage Cockpit

--Husband and Wife-- Teamwork in the Marriage Cockpit. Chapter Seven. Introductory Comments. Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

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--Husband and Wife-- Teamwork in the Marriage Cockpit

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  1. --Husband and Wife--Teamwork in the Marriage Cockpit Chapter Seven

  2. Introductory Comments • Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! • Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 • And the Lord God said, “it is not good that man should be alone, I will make him a helper comparable to him.” • Genesis 2:18

  3. Discuss • Read the Story of Continental Flight 713 (pg 145-48) • “Sometimes life reminds me of flying a plan. Not just any plan, but a massive 747. My wife and I are up front in the cockpit. Right behind the cockpit door in first class are our three kids, one great-grandmother, two sets of grandparents, assorted uncles, aunts, cousins, nieces and nephews, and some close friend.” (p. 148) • Who is currently in your “plane” that is depending on your competent piloting?

  4. Montana-Rice Principle • Name some of the great duos in sports… • What made them great? • Share some great marriages that you have been able to observe firsthand and what you observed made these marriages great… • What are some Scriptures that describe what a Biblical duo in marriage should look like?

  5. Loving Your Wife Sacrificially • Ephesians 5:25-31 • Willing to die for her, willing to protect/sanctify her, willing to live for her, willing to lead her • Philippians 2:1-8 • Willing to humble yourself for her • What are some practical ways that we can demonstrate sacrificial love to our wives • Daily • Monthly • Annually • Other…

  6. Loving Your Wife With Understanding • 1 Peter 3:7, “…dwell with them in an understanding way…” • What does this verse tell us we MUST do? • What are some common ways that we misunderstand our wives? • What are some common ways that we fail to follow God’s command in this passage to understand our wife?

  7. Loving Your Wife with Verbal Praise • “Verbal praise is a rare commodity in our world. That’s why Mark Twain sad he could live for sixty days off one complement…” • You may deeply appreciate your wife, but when was the last time you told her? • If you are having difficulty praising your wife because of unresolved conflict take time after this study to meet personally with one of the men from this class who can give you some help in restoring your relationship with your wife…

  8. Loving Your Wife with Mutual Accountability • The vast majority of men have wives who want their husbands to win…Gentlemen, your wife is a strategic gift to you! She has eyes that see what you don’t, a mind that assimilates information from a different perspective, a heart with sensitivities you do not possess, and a personality with strengths that offset your weaknesses…That’s why you must tap into her perspective as you lead your family

  9. Loving Your Wife with Mutual Accountability • Share at least one strength, quality , or gift your wife has that you do not. How has God used that to make your relationship better? • Read Proverbs 18:22 and 31:10-12: What are some of the things these verses tell us about God’s perspective on our wives? • What are some ways that you dismiss, discount and disregard your wives input? What do you think this does to your wife? How can you change that in the future?

  10. The Intimidation Factor • One way that some men keep from being mutually accountable is through intimidation…A high control husband can easily…run his home the way he wants, and he doesn’t want suggestions from anyone—especially his wife. After all, he may think, it’s her “job” to submit to his authority (p. 163-64) • Have you every observed a home where the husband used “intimidation” to run his home? What did that home look like? Does that describe your home?

  11. Understanding Mutual Submission • Let me be clear. Mutual submission does not mean that the husband and wife take turns being the head of the home…It means, gentlemen, that you take the lead in your submission to Christ to such an extent that you become a model for your wife…I have yet to meet a Christian woman whose husband provides this kind of leadership who has difficulty with the idea of biblical submission” (p. 166-67)

  12. Understanding Mutual Submission • Are there authority figures in your life you’re having a difficult time submitting to right now? Why? • If your wife sees you “bucking” that person’s authority, what kind of effect might that have on her willingness to submit to you?

  13. Understanding Mutual Submission • Most of us would admit that one of our greatest fears about submitting to each others is that it may mean we’ll be treated unfairly or taken advantage of. What does 1 Peter 2:18-24 say about that? • What did Christ rely on that allowed him to submit when He knew he would be abused? • How can that help us as we submit to the authorities in our lives?

  14. Homework Assignments • Complete Chapter 7 & 8 (Reading and review study questions and be prepared to discuss) • Have a personal time with God in prayer and Bible Study at least 5 times this next week • Have a family time with God 3 times this next week. • Pray with at least one other man in this Point Man group over the next week!

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