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LETS NOT! TALK ABOUT SEX BABY

LETS NOT! TALK ABOUT SEX BABY. From a Maori Prospective. Ko Jenny Manuera Taku ingoa. Ngati Kahu / Nga Puhi/Welsh/fijian/spanish/french Private Practice – Manuera Life Development Services 17 years as a Counsellor STNZ Therapist / member of STING

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LETS NOT! TALK ABOUT SEX BABY

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  1. LETS NOT! TALK ABOUT SEX BABY From a Maori Prospective

  2. Ko Jenny Manuera Taku ingoa • Ngati Kahu / Nga Puhi/Welsh/fijian/spanish/french • Private Practice – Manuera Life Development Services • 17 years as a Counsellor • STNZ Therapist / member of STING • Work in Tamaki Makaurau(Auckland) & Kirikiriroa (Hamilton)

  3. Why is it difficult for most Maori to talk about anything sexually. never mind dysfunction in a therapeutic environment? Consider the following • Mana: high status/pride/esteemed high – effective for Tane / Wahine – ensure Mana always • Tika: our guidelines / ethics the right way • Pono: integrity / true to self / honesty – transparency • Tapu: sacredness / forbidden • Aroha: love /compassion/concern – underpins all of these concepts

  4. Whakapapa • This is the essence of who we are MAORI – (our Ethos) • Presently: We are in this age - sex driven to maintain Whakapapa lines • KO WAI AU - Who am I • Those who have come before us (Tupuna) • Those who will journey on from us - future generation Tamariki/Mokopuna

  5. Beginning of dysfunctionColonisation effect • LOSS OF: • Whenua – Land • Moana/awa - Our waters • Te Reo - Our language • Taonga - Treasures • Identity

  6. EFFECTS – for us as Maori • The inability to resolve conflict - Korero to each other • Unable to create an positive atmosphere to address issues – as a couple • Isolation for us as Maori - Urbanisation • Disconnected from our Marae / Hapu / Iwi • Effect of Diseases e.g. diabetes/heart etc • Substance abuse • Lack of healthy balance of Hinengaro(Mind), Tinana(Body)Wairua(Spiritual/emotion) and Whanau • All of this sets up environment for total Sexual Dysfunction

  7. TAWHITO – Old Maori World • Dystinctive roles - for Wahine / Tane • Equality for both gender - separate responsibility • TOHUNGA - Priest/expert/counsellor – own therapist • Practiced Te Whare Tapa wha – holistic balance • Dealt with all levels of health • Provided rongo • Mythology - our own stories – Sexual stories – in a Narrative way • Display of genitals within our carvings / waka as a sign of MANA • He upheld the importance of Wahine Toa – esteemed her high • Karakia

  8. Ist story - Hine nui te Po • Hine nui te Po – Great lady of the night • First part of sexual encounter : beginning • Tane meets Hine-ahu-one – first women of Maori Mythology • Tane ejaculated his sperm all over her – to produce whakapapa • First born: - Hine Ti-tama – He had sexual intercourse with her (daughter) – Dysfunction within maoridom occurred • She ran out of shame – that overwelmed her- Whakama • CHOICE: - Run back to him and face shame-pull in to trauma/depression or? • Go forward: descend into darkness to become • Maori Goddess – changed her name to Hine nui te Po be empowered • Nik Minute: • Maui – (Hero dude captured the SUN) wanted to trick/defeat her • Turned himself into a worm to climb into her vagina while she was sleeping • To gain immortality “WRONG”! • Manu (bird) laughed – woke her and she crushed him to death between her thighs

  9. Te Ao Hau – (New world) • Where are our Goddesses? • Where are our Warriors ? WE HAVE: Dysfunction: High stats in Prisons A & D issues Domestic violence within whanau Abuse of our children BIGGEST ISSUES ARE: Our disconnection from our whakapapa - our Identity of who we are Maori Not understanding that we were “Once Warriors”!! Not knowing our stories of ole that empower us Understanding and implementing “Te whare tapa wha”! Impact of “Whakama”! – Shyness to shame - 38 plateus Forgotton how to “whitiwhiti korero” - Talk about sex baby SO!!!!!

  10. Te Ao Hau BIGGEST ISSUES ARE: Our disconnection from our whakapapa - our Identity of who we are Maori Not understanding that we were “Once Warriors”!! Not knowing our stories of ole that empower us Understanding and implementing “Te whare tapa wha”! Impact of “Whakama”! – Shyness to shame - 38 plateus Forgotton how to “whitiwhiti korero” - Talk about sex baby SO!!!!!

  11. Formula for dysfunction • Reclaim who we are as “Maori”-know our stories • STEP:1 • Start with Positive statement/ whakatauki / Karakia – If ok with them • STEP : 2 • Practice Manaakitanga - ensure MANA – hospitality of the highest • STEP: 3 • Whakawhanaungatanga - connection – tell Maori who you are where you are from - (Takes 1 minute) • STEP: 4 • Set up environment – Marae atea - 3 levels fo space / Tapu – another Korero

  12. Whakatauki – Maori Proverb • He aha temeanui I teAo What is the greatest thing in the world Maku e Ki Atu I tell you He Tangata He Tangata He tangata Hi It is people it is people it is people

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