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3. Rules of Engagement: Agape Love Model A – Always create a safe place to talk (by setting ground rules ahead of time)G – Gather your thoughts and feelingsA – Accept responsibility for your role in the conflictP – Produce effective communicationE – Eliminate negative talk (speak the truth in love) L – Listen carefully and repeatO – Openly discuss the problem involved in conflict (one at a time)V- Vow to resolve the issue and Follow up ( at least one week for smaller issues or an agreed upon time for larger issues)E – Experience the power of the Holy Spirit through prayer #heartofmarriage @iluvbeinmarried

4. RECOGNIZE THE 4 HORSEMEN • Criticism • Defensiveness • Stonewalling • Contempt #heartofmarriage @iluvbeinmarried

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6. Not enough energy Stress at work Lack of sex Angry at spouse Kids won’t go to sleep early enough Spouse and I just haven’t been getting along Really don’t feel sexy after the baby Exhausted Don’t feel connected to my spouse, physically, emotionally, spiritually #heartofmarriage @iluvbeinmarried

7. RANK YOUR TOP THREE CONCERNS 1. 2. 3. #heartofmarriage @iluvbeinmarried

8. VOW TO RESOLVE ISSUE AND FOLLOW UP #heartofmarriage @iluvbeinmarried

9. EXPERIENCE THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT THROUGH PRAYER #heartofmarriage @iluvbeinmarried

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