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Ten Tunes to Play Life

Ten Tunes to Play Life. Social Etiquette Public Seminar. Define Life……. One Tool to Play Life Right. Define Trial…. Trying to take something away from somebody else Reflected in competition Where results are often sharply focused Where freedom may be lost Where money may be taken away

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Ten Tunes to Play Life

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  1. Ten Tunes to Play Life Social Etiquette Public Seminar

  2. Define Life……..

  3. One Tool to Play Life Right..

  4. Define Trial…. • Trying to take something away from somebody else • Reflected in competition • Where results are often sharply focused • Where freedom may be lost • Where money may be taken away • When the world starts coming after you

  5. Destroying Attitude Patterns • Denial Fail or resist to see WHAT IS • Making initial assumption Fail to test for truth or accuracy • Inertia Paralysis caused by fear • Deceptive masking Wear a mask & forgetting your real needs

  6. Right or Happy No good time, no better time It is Right Now

  7. Life Ten Tunes to Play It Right • You either get it, or you do not • You Create your own experience • People do what works • You cannot change what you do not acknowledge • Life rewards action • There is no reality only perception • Life is managed, it is not cured • We teach people how to treat us • There is power in forgiveness • You have to name it before you can claim it

  8. Tune One: You either get it, or you do not Strategy Become one of those who gets it Break the code of human nature find out what makes people tick Learn why you and other people do what they do, and do not do what they do not.

  9. What is “IT”….. • Code of life • Is it relationship? • Is it self-management? • Is it career competition? • Is it emotional life?

  10. To Get “IT” • Be prepared with necessary information • Be prepared with required skills • Pay attention • Make adjustment • Do not miss the time • Will to learn to make better choices

  11. To Get “IT” recognize the EDGE • Existing • Instinctual • Involuntary • Reactive self preservation • Primary goal from one day to another • Living • Exercise of certain learned skills • Attitude • Abilities

  12. To Get “IT” Keep a Primary Goal • Have a quality of experience • Keep unique and rewarding experience • Skills needed are “Understanding” & “Controlling” • Make it “Happen” the way you “Want” • Learn “Why” & “How” you do what you do • Do not “Do” what they do not “Do”

  13. “knowledge” if you want to Get “IT” • Knowledge gives you an incredible edge • Knowledge makes you the one to control • Knowledge makes you “The One” every ones “Follow” • Knowledge makes you enjoy special peace of mind • Knowledge make you confident • Knowledge makes you know the buttons • Knowledge makes you predict • Knowledge is POWER

  14. Hardest Part of Knowledge • In learning something new, is unlearning the old way of doing it……. • You must be careful and discriminate about where and from whom you accept input….. • Know the fact, but do Know the Ropes…… • Get the Map, Plan and Time Table if you want to Know….

  15. Your Life Strategy & Involving People • Overcome their resistances & excuses • Get them to accept your view of the world HOW? • Let them find similarities between you and your values and their own • Find similar things, both of you can deal in with

  16. Tune Two: You create your own experience Strategy Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life Understand your role in creating the results that are you life Learn how to choose better so you have better

  17. You are Accountable…. • If you are successful or unsuccessful • If you relationships are on the rocks • If you are happy or sad • If life is fair or unfair

  18. To be Accountable…Ask Yourself • What is the life circumstance that I do not like? • What did I do to arrange the situation so that it happened in the way that it happened? • What did I do to make the result possible? • Did I trust foolishly? • Did I miss important warning sings? • Did I fail to be clear about what I wanted? • Did I choose the wrong person? • Did I choose the wrong place? • Did I have the wrong reason? • Did I fail to take needed action? • Did I fail to require enough of myself? • Did I need to start certain new behaviors?

  19. You are a Victim……… You are not a Victim………..

  20. I Own the Problem…….. The Problem is in ME

  21. I am a Victim…..Because What happened to me as a child

  22. Child Does not have the knowledge Does not have the power to choose Reacts Powerless Cannot choose the source Adult Has the knowledge Has the power to choose Acts Powerful Can choose the source Difference Between Child & Adult

  23. How to Create your own Experience? When you Play, you Pay……

  24. When you Choose? • When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences • When you choose the thoughts, you choose the consequences • When you choose the thoughts, you choose the physiology

  25. Real World Choices…You Choose…. • Where to be • How to act • What to say • What to do • Whom to be with • What to concentrate on • What to believe • When to go along • When to resist • Whom to trust • Whom to avoid

  26. Tune Three: People do what works Strategy Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior and that of others Control the payoffs to control life

  27. What is wrong with me? Why in the world do I keep doing that? Because I am like others Because at some level they work Why/What ……. Because

  28. Choose Behavior Repeat Behavior Do not repeat behavior Change the behavior Get Result Get Desirable results Results are not desirable Different results Choose …….. Get

  29. Know what you need to do Behave positively Stop behaving in ways You cannot eliminate your negative behavior Know what buttons to push Know how to do it Know what is necessary to have what you want That interfere in having what you want Without understanding why you do it to begin with To get the desired change Steps Forward

  30. Concept of Payoff It is a crucial ingredient in shaping all sorts of behavior

  31. Tune Four: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge Strategy Get real with yourself about life and everybody in it Be truthful about what is not working in your life Stop making excuses and start making results

  32. You won’t Change if….. Unwilling to acknowledge • A thought • A circumstance • A problem • A condition • A behavior • An emotion • Your role in the situation

  33. Tools to Acknowledge….. Examine and Questions • Every belief • Every position • Every pattern in your life • Afford the luxury of lies

  34. Denial • Kills dreams • Kills hope • Kills YOU

  35. Self-Protective Mechanismperceptual Defense • It is a mechanism that protects us from those things that our minds at some level, determine we cannot handle or which we do not want to face • That takes effects during over-whelming traumatic situations

  36. Perceptual DefenseIf Negative ….. • Prevent your picking up warning signs; which could prompt you to take important and timely coping steps • Keep you from recognizing the warning signs of a serious disease, that, if detected and treated early, could be contained or cured • Keep you from seeing the warning signs of any number of negative behaviors in your children, such as depression, addiction etc

  37. To Acknowledge…Speak OUT • Your Needs • Your Fears • Your Pains • Your Failure • Your Success • Your Confusion You cannot heal what you do not acknowledge

  38. Tune Five: Life rewards action Strategy Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger Learn that the world could not care less about thoughts without actions

  39. Life Reward Actions • If you do Nothing you get Nothing • People do not care about INTENTION • The road toHell is paved with Good Intentions • Good Intention without Actions, leads you nowhere but DOWN • People care about what you DO • Child do not care that you “Meant” to fix dinner • What determines the Script of Life, is what you DO • Measure Yourself Based on Results • Results, is how the World is Measuring YOU • Results, is your Basic Out-Come

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