EXTERNALLY FOCUSED CHURCH LEADERSHIP TRAINING

1. EXTERNALLY FOCUSED CHURCH LEADERSHIP TRAINING Million Leaders Mandate Curriculum by JOHN C. MAXWELL Notebook Three Christ, the Great Communicator Lesson 3

2. Improving Your Communication Skills by Imitating the Master “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit” Proverbs 18:21

3. Power of Triangle- Robert Dilenscheider Communication Recognition influence

4. Publius Syrus “Speech is a mirror of the soul. As a man speaks so he is.

5. Question Today’s Matter book states that YOU WILL never change your life until you change something you do daily Do you have effective communication skills? If so how are you using it? What would you need to change in order to IMPROVE on your communication skills?

6. 1. Simplify the Message Matthew 13:3, 10-13 It’s not what you say, but how you say it. The Educator – takes something simple and makes it complicated The Communicator – takes something complicated and makes it simple Winston Churchill’s Rules of Communication • Strong beginning • One theme • Simple language • d. Familiar pictures • Clear objective • f. Heart response

7. James 4: 13-17 “Look here, you people who say,” Today or tomorrow we are going to a certain town and will stay there a year. We will do business there and make a profit.” How do you know what will happen tomorrow? For your life is like the morning fog – it’s here a little while, then it’s gone. What you ought to say is, “if the Lord wants us to, we will live and do this or that.” Otherwise you will be boasting about your own plans and all such boasting is evil.

8. 2. Know The People Matthew 13:1-2, 9 It’s not what you say, but how you hearit. • Public Speaker • Puts the message before the people • Asks: “What do I have?” • The key is techniques • Content-oriented • Goal is to complete the message • Communicator • Puts the people before the message • Asks: “What do they need?” • The key is atmosphere • Change-oriented • Goal is to complete the people

9. Perspective of a Leader Practical people know how to get what they want Philosophers know what they ought to want Leaders know how to get what they ought to want.

10. Definition of success Success can be defined as the progressive realization of a predetermined goal. This definition tells us that the discipline to prioritize and the ability to work toward a stated goal are essential to a leader’s success.

11. 3. Seize The Moment Matthew 13:2, 14-17, 57-58 It’s not just what you say, but when you say it. • Questions to ask . • Unclear Purpose. What is the point? We can identify content but not purpose. • Don’t just inform. Persuade!!!! • So much information that the subject becomes too broad • Poor Finishing. Boring

12. 4. Show The Truth Matthew 13:54 It’s not just what you say, but how you show it. • Everytime you speak your audience is quietly • asking: • Why should I listen to you? • Can I trust you? • Do you care for me? • Do you know your subject?

13. 5. Share The Passion Matthew 13:53-57 It’s not just what you say, but why you say it. • Tips on speaking with passion: • Speak on themes that you own for yourself. • Be impact-conscious rather than image-conscious. • Be authentic. Lock on to a pair of eyes with each point. • Paint pictures in their hearts. • Know what your goal is when you speak. • Prepare with prayer and let God build a fire inside you.

14. Left brain thinking Logical Rational Analytical Objective Sequential Right brain thinking Intuitive Instinctive Synthesizing Subjective Random

15. Questions for discussion How do you rate your ability to communicate with others? Is communication a priority for you? Can you inspire and motivate people? Do you express your vision in such a way that your people are able to understand, internalize and implement it? When you talk to people one on one, are you able to connect? How about with groups?

16. 6. Seek The Response Matthew 13:51 It’s not just what you say, but how they respond to it. • Tips on helping people respond to the truth: • Have a clear objective for your listener to act on. • Reduce it to a simple phrase and write it down. • Use a “hook” the listener can grasp and remember. • Give them a point for their head and a picture for their heart. • Provide a vehicle for them to use to respond. • Ask for what you want them to do.

17. Steps to Reduce Your Anxiety • Prepare extensively. • Memorize your first burst. • Speak to friendly eyes. • Dress comfortably for the audience. • Take deep breaths before you begin. • Visualize yourself being effective. • State your goal to yourself before you begin. • Use visual aids. • Come to the meeting room early. • Pray, pray, pray!

18. Develop platforms for communication. Control communication killers. Encourage honesty and transparency in conversations. Adopt a positive communication style. Communicate Continually

19. Perceptions of People Visually – How we appear 55% Vocally – How we sound 38% Verbally – What we say 7%

20. Voice and Speech Evaluation Voice Production Support of tone -------Good ------Needs Improvement ---weak 2. Proper Breathing 3. Vocal Quality (harsh, nasal, breathy etc ) 4. Resonance 5. Overall vocal energy

21. Voice and Speech Evaluation Producing the sounds 1. Sharp articulation 2. Flexible lips, jaw and tongue 3. Clear and correct punctuation Diction using long and short vowels sounds

22. Voice and Speech Evaluation Vocal Variety 1. Volume 2. Pace or rhythm 3. pitch 4. Inflection -nuance, modulation, intonation, shade, tone 5. Attitude 6. Shading and word emphasis 7. Use of the pause