Difficulties in the Relationship

1. Difficulties in the Relationship Arm Wrestling with My Father How Playing Country Music… • father needs to feel superior, dominant • father can’t show emotion • father lacks consciousness • father has poor communication skills • father believes in gender stereotype • father can’t recognize son as an individual • father is competitive • father has weak ego, lacks self-esteem

2. Factors in Their Reconciliation Arm Wrestling with My Father How Playing Country Music… • son evolves mentally & emotionally • son becomes independent, less competitive & rebellious • son feels compassion & gratitude for • father • father becomes weaker & vulnerable • father evolves emotionally • father evolves behaviorally • father gives approval

3. Body Paragraph 1: Discuss the main problem in each parent/child relationship. 1. The main problem in the parent/child relationship is similar in all three stories.2. The main problem in the parent/child relationship is different in all three stories.3. There are important similarities and differences in the main problems of the three parent/child relationships.

4. Main Idea: _______________________________________________________ ___________________ is the main problem in Arm Wrestling For starters, EVIDENCE: In contrast, Likewise, ______________________ is the main problem in Only Daughter EVIDENCE: On the other hand, Similarly, ____________________ is the main problem in Playing Country Music EVIDENCE:

5. Body Paragraph 2: Discuss how the child contributes to the reconciliation in the parent/child relationship. • The child’s contribution to the parent/child reconciliation is similar in all three stories. • The child’s contribution to the parent/child reconciliation is different in each story. • There are important similarities and differences in the children’s contributions to the parent/child reconciliations.

6. Main Idea: _______________________________________________________ Brad’s ____________________________ leads to reconciliation in Arm Wrestling To begin, EVIDENCE: In contrast, Likewise, Sandra’s __________________________ leads to reconciliation in Only Daughter EVIDENCE: On the other hand, Similarly, James’ ____________________________ leads to reconciliation in Playing Country Music EVIDENCE:

7. Body Paragraph 3: Discuss how the father contributes to the reconciliation in the parent/child relationship. • The father’s contribution to the parent/child reconciliation is similar in all three stories. • The father’s contribution to the parent/child reconciliation is different in each story. • There are important similarities and differences in the fathers’ contributions to the parent/child reconciliations.

8. Main Idea: _______________________________________________________ the father’s _________________________ leads to reconciliation in Arm Wrestling To begin, EVIDENCE: In contrast, Likewise, the father’s __________________________ leads to reconciliation in Only Daughter EVIDENCE: On the other hand, Similarly, the father’s __________________________ leads to reconciliation in Playing Country Music EVIDENCE: