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Good Evening. Good Afternoon. Good Afternoon. Good Afternoon. Good Evening. Good Morning Morinville Welcome to our Lunch and Learn Program. Connelly-McKinley Funeral Homes Presents :. Today We Find Out How Many of Our Ducks are Really in a Row. When Life Changes Will You Be Ready?.
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Good Morning Morinville Welcome to our Lunch and Learn Program
Having the Talk of a Lifetime! In This Workshop We Will: • Learn about tools and resources available to help in end of life planning • Learn about what matters most to you and your loved ones • How to keep memories alive even after death • How to plan a meaningful memorialization • Discuss things we need to think about and prepare for • Form a Plan for a better reflection of the life you are living now to help your family in their grieving journey when you leave
Congratulations on attending our Workshop It is Better to Look Ahead and Prepare, than to Look Back and Regret How Do You Want to Be Remembered?
At the end of our days, it will be the memories that we will leave behind
End of Life Planning • What if we get sick or cannot make our own decisions? • What if we are faced with the Long Term Care Decision? • What is Palliative Care? • What is Hospice? • What is a Green Sleeve? • What is a Goals of Care Designation? • What is a Supported Decision-Making Designation? • What is an Enduring Power of Attorney? • What is a Personal Directive?
End of Life Planning - Death • What happens when we die? • Who is in charge of final arrangements? • Who pays the funeral bill? • What happens after the services? • What role does a will play? • What are the responsibilities of your Executor? • Will You require Probate? • What will happen with all your investment accounts?
Documents We Need in Alberta • Goals of Care Designation • Supported Decision-Making * • Personal Directive • Enduring Power of Attorney • Properly Executed Will
Documents Used Before We Die or Face a Medical Emergency • Goals of Care Designation • Supported Decision-Making *** • Personal Directive • Enduring Power of Attorney Information on all of these are included in the package you have received today. We encourage you to talk to professionals regarding your personal choices to ensure you are making decisions that meet all current laws and considerations
Goals of Care Designation Goals of Care Designations are instructions that guide your healthcare team about the general focus of your care, and where you might want that care. After speaking with you and/or you and your agent, a doctor or nurse practitioner will write your Goals of Care Designation as a medical order. Figuring out your goal of care is not just about finding out what your wishes are, but also about getting to know you better as a person. • Medical Care • Resuscitative Care • Comfort Care • All of this information will be put in your Green Sleeve ***This does not replace your Personal Directive
Supported Decision Making This would be an adult that can and does make their own decisions but would like some help They can complete the form on the AHC site allowing their supporter to access things that are now protected under privacy laws This would be for personal non-financial decisions This will be signed and witnessed so that your supporter will have access to information required to help you make decisions This does not replace your Personal Directive but may also be the person designated as your Personal Representative but is definitely someone you trust explicitly
Additional Website for Information https://www.alberta.ca/decision-making-advance-planning
Personal Directive • Document your plan in a personal directive. • In Alberta, the legal document for this is called a personal directive. In a personal directive you choose an alternate decision maker to be your agent—that is, the person who you’ve chosen to speak on your behalf if you can’t. • You can also write down any other information about your wishes and values related to healthcare in your personal directive. • The personal directive only comes into effect if you’re ever not able to make decisions about your healthcare. It can help reduce conflict or distress and bring comfort to those who are close to you, because it clearly states who your healthcare decision maker is and that this person is following your wishes.
Personal Directive • Allows for all decisions except financial • You can name one agent or more • Must be witnessed • You can name a primary and alternate • You can name joint agents • You can register this with the Government of Alberta and then health care professionals have access • Is not required to be done by an Attorney but it is wise to discuss with one to ensure you have everything covered
Power of Attorney • Looks After Financial Decisions • A lawyer should write up a Power of Attorney • A POA will act on your behalf • A General POA ends if you become incapacitated • A specific POA ends at the end of the task • An Enduring POA ends when your death occurs • You can appoint more than one attorney • You should always have an alternate • Trust companies or public guardians charge fees • Your POA cannot change your will • At death your Executor is in charge but has zero authority before then
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While death is still considered to be a taboo subject by many cultures, it is becoming more and more common place for people to plan their own funeral for a variety of reasons. There’s no need to feel shy about it and start talking about final wishes and funeral plans with your family It is important to know your options before you need a funeral home
Sadly, the western culture is one of the only cultures where death is rarely spoken about or where families are not following rituals and customs as in other cultures. It is becoming private and hidden. Something to pretend never happened And the loss felt alone by the survivours The peace and comfort that families could count on by outpourings of support and love from family and friends is gone. Psychologists and grief councillors are seeing more and more people who cannot get over the death as there was no tangible place to start and they felt alone and abandoned. As a society and as people we need to start thinking about the ramifications of our actions and what we leave our loved ones in our death.
Final Arrangement Planning The Purpose of Funerals • When we experience the death of someone we love, a funeral service fills several important needs. • Funerals helps us acknowledge that someone we love has died. • Funerals allow us to say goodbye. • Funerals offer continuity and hope for the living. • Funerals provide a support system for us, friends, family members and the community. • Funerals allow us to reflect on the meaning of life and death.
Let’s See if We Really Do Have Any of our Funeral Ducks in a Row Some of the information we will be discussing may be stressful but unless we speak in the terms of reality, we will never take the steps to make choices for our loved ones peace of mind It’s 4 am and you wake up from a nightmare in a cold sweat. Something is wrong. You can feel it. Then you remember that your spouse died last night. Your heart is broken and you are waking up in a new reality. This death could have been from a long illness, or it could have been one of the 40% of sudden and unexpected deaths. Most likely you are one of the 76% of wives whose husband has died first To make it worse, you never talked about this and you are left to make all of the arrangements on your own What do you do? Who do you call?
Lets See if We Really Do Have Any of our Funeral Ducks in a Row Your next steps will depend on where, when and how your loved one has died. If she/he died at home, and it was an unexpected death, you will be calling 911. This will become a medical examiners case and perhaps there will be an autopsy to determine manner of death If your loved one died at home and was under home care or in the hospital or nursing home, you will be calling the funeral home that will transfer your spouse into their care In either case having a plan is essential. Whether expected or not, death is messy and traumatic, and those without a plan will suffer needlessly
Lets See if We Really Do Have Any of our Funeral Ducks in a Row It’s 11 AM, and you are sitting at a round table at the local funeral home with your loved ones, waiting for the funeral director. The room is quiet, with light music playing in the background. You’re exhausted. Your brain isn’t working properly from overwhelming grief and lack of sleep. Most likely you and your family are in shock. In a few minutes, the funeral director will walk through the door to begin a two to three hour meeting. He will be expecting that you know what type of funeral you want, and that you have answers to all his/her questions in this next two to three hour meeting. Unfortunately when someone dies, this is the time when irreversible decisions have to be made. Are you prepared to make them?
Final Arrangement Planning Many Personal Options are Available • Personal choices • Worry Free • Suitable for every budget • Many options • More personalized services • No two people are the same so no two services are exactly the same
Final Arrangement Planning What Kind of Final Goodbye Do You Want? Say Goodbye the Way You Live Your Life • Traditional Full Service • Religious • Nondenominational • Memorial Service • Celebration of Life • Direct Burial • Direct Cremation
Final Arrangement Planning Products and Services What Are You Paying For? • Fee for Funeral Director & Staff • Facility Charges • Vehicles • Cash Advances
Final Arrangement Planning More to Decide - Preparation and Merchandise • Preparation – Basic/Embalming • Caskets –Wood – Metal • Cremation Containers • Urns • Memorial Packages • Keepsakes • Cash Advances Obituary • Honourariums • Reception/catering
Final Arrangement Planning Cremation • Cremation has nearly doubled in the last 15 years • Cremation rates are highest where more people are unaffiliated with organized religion • By 2019, cremation rates are expected to be over 52% • Cremation families are choosing unique and personal services • Baby Boomers have the highest standards when making service arrangements and expect personalized services so we provide these types of services and merchandise offerings • Most people are not educated on all the cremation options and are overwhelmed at the time of death • Women make 86% of the decisions when making arrangements
Final Arrangement Planning Cremation • People often think this is the “easy” option. “I just want cremation” • The reality is that there are more options with cremation than there is with burial so it is extremely important to understand all of these option and that this will not be easy for your family if this is your choice • Family gathering to say goodbye before cremation • Type of preparation of loved one • Type of service • Formal viewing/Rental casket • Type of cremation container • Prayers • Type of urn • Final resting place of cremated remains
