Conflict Remaining Calm Under Pressure Resisting Peer Pressure

1. Conflict • Remaining Calm Under Pressure • Resisting Peer Pressure • Dealing with Disrespect and Dealing With Authority • Solving Conflicts with Parents and Teachers • Making Good Choices

2. Under Pressure • Situations where you need to stay calm?

3. Situations Which Need Calm Reactions? • Medical • Cops and radio talk

4. Skills To Deal With Pressure I • What is the problem/event making you loose your self-control? • What are you feeling? • Why are you feeling this way? • Talk about it with someone outside the problem. • What do you want to happen (positive outcomes) 6. Try to stay self-controlled (take a step back, count to 10 7. Decide where your anger should be placed: is that a person really causing you to get angry, or is he/she just making an existing feeling worse? 8. If you can’t change a situation, can you live with it? 9. Tell an adult about the situation.

5. Resisting Peer Pressure • Name 2 negative aspects of peer pressure • Name 2 positive aspects of peer pressure • What is the most difficult thing about dealing with peer pressure?

6. WHAT IS DISRESPECT? • What does disrespect mean to you? • Is disrespect always planned?

7. What Is Disrespect? Peer pressure is very strong and can be a real problem when we have to save face in front of our peers. We never want to just take it when someone shows us disrespect. We all hope to gain the respect of others, our peers, our parents and teachers, our employers. But what happens when one of our friends, or a superior, disrespects us? How do we feel? And how do we react? Does our reaction Tend to make the problem better or worse? Today, we are going to look at some ways we can deal with a really negative situation, and find some ways to defuse the situation and not make it worse.

8. WHAT IS DISRESPECT? • Read Doctor Accused • After having read Doctor Accused • What was done to embarrass the person? • What behaviors would you interpret as being disrespectful? • How did the person respond to the embarrassment? • What are the consequences of a violent response to a disrespectful person? • How would you have handled this embarrassing situation? • How might the situation been handled differently if there had not been an audience to the event? Why?

9. What Is Disrespect? • What is disrespect? • Is disrespect always planned? • What might cause unplanned disrespect? • How should the victim deal with unintentional disrespect? • If disrespect is intentional, what might the intention be? • How should the victim deal with intentional disrespect?

10. Doctor Accused Turn to blue workbook # 88 Doctor Accused Read and answer the following on a piece of paper. We will discuss and you will turn in your responses. • What was done to embarrass the person? • What behaviors would you interpret as being disrespectful? • How did the person respond to the embarrassment? • What are the consequences of a violent response to a disrespectful person? • How would you have handled this embarrassing situation? • How might the situation been handled differently if there had not been an audience to the event? Why?

11. Group Projects • You will be assigned to groups. You will receive one of the four topics: • Decision Making/Problem Solving with Teens • Talking to Parents or Other Adults • Friendships, Peer Influence, and Peer Pressure During Teen Years • Coping with Conflict Your group will produce: • Colorful, large poster summarizing the information in the topic • Include important vocabulary • Presentation in which ALL members participate (you may use skits) During the presentations EACH student will: • Divide the large, provided paper into 4 sections and take notes (use graphic organizer, classic outline, or Cornell style notes) • For homework you will use the back side of your note page to produce your choice of one,large, colorful Public Service Announcement on a topic - make sure to use a catchy phrase to help people remember your public service announcement.

12. Solving Conflicts With Parents and Teachers No matter where, we will find ourselves in situations where we come up against an authority in the form of a teacher, a parent, an employer, or the law. We must learn to deal with discipline and punishment without responding in a way that will make the situation worse than it already is. We will look at the differences between punishment and discipline and situations where each is appropriate or inappropriate.

13. Forms of Discipline Take a moment to consider the following graphic organizer

14. Teachers and Disrespect Movie Lean on Me Want to become a teacher? Lean On Me is a good film especially for school administrators and people who are thinking of becoming an administrator some day. It gives us a lot of insight in handling different challenges faced by administrators.” Your task: • Respond to opening quote "Discipline is not the enemy of enthusiasm”

15. Solving Conflicts With Parents Now that we have discussed and debated the various forms of discipline, you will write a letter to your parent(s). In the letter you should: • Explain to your parent(s) why you are writing the letter • Explain what you feel their most effective form of punishment was and why you feel it was effective. • Explain what you feel was their most ineffective form of discipline and why you feel it was so ineffective. • Conclude the letter in a logical way. • Be sure your format has all of the required components of a letter

16. Agenda • Turn in Shonna’s Dilemma and your response # 82 in yellow workbook • Review strategies of dealing with conflicts • Making Good Choices • Two situations • Movie Lean on ME • Homework: Interview family member on situations and responses