The Good News: Understanding Sexual Arousal, Pleasure, and Response

1. The Good News Sexual Arousal, Pleasure, & Response

2. What causes arousal and desire? • Chicken-or-egg effect • External stimuli, fantasy, visual/aural stimuli, unconscious thoughts can all create arousal and desire

3. Kissing • May have developed as an extension of mother-to-child feeding in apes • up to 10% of human cultures don’t kiss • Do pheromones play a role?

4. Why is kissing so awesome? • Skin on the lips is thin and sensitive • Kissing releases oxytocin (orgasm, bonding) and cortisol (stress relief) • Kisses give our bodies info about the other person

5. Foreplay • When does it start? • When does foreplay end and sex begin?

6. “Good Chemistry”

7. The Masters and Johnson Sexual Response Cycle • Excitement phase • Plateau • Orgasm • Resolution

8. Excitement Phase WOMEN • Transudation • Engorgement of vulva and clitoris MEN • vasocongestion • Engorgement of corpus cavernosum and corpus spongiosum Sex flush and swelling of nipples

9. Plateau phase • Orgasmic Platform • What if there’s no orgasm?

10. Orgasm phase • Release of tension • Men: emission and expulsion • Women: muscle contractions

11. Resolution • Hypersensitivity • Refractory period • Multiple orgasms

12. Males Females

15. Other theoretical models of the sexual response 1.      Kaplan’s Triphasic Model (Desire, Excitement, Resolution) 2.      Zilbergeld and Ellison’s Model • Interest or desire • Arousal • Physiological readiness • Orgasm • Satisfaction

16. What is orgasm for? • In male mammals, orgasm is generally necessary to expel semen and fertilize the egg • In female mammals, orgasm is not necessary for fertilization to occur • However, all female mammals have a clitoris

17. ORGASM A.    Orgasmic sensation B.     Erotic stimulus pathway 1.      Seduction phase (memories and rituals) 2.      Sensations phase (extension of Plateau Phase) 3.      Surrender phase (“psycho-physiological surprise” of orgasm) 4.      Reflection phase (evaluating the experience)

19. Controversies about female orgasm • Freud: Mature vs Immature • Masters and Johnson: No g-spot orgasm • Is female ejaculation real?

20. Types of Female Orgasms • Clitoral • Vaginal/cervical • G-spot • Anal • Via breast stimulation • U-spot • Blended • Tension • Relaxation • Pressure • Multiple • Fantasy

21. Sex Toys

22. Why use sex toys? • Increase chances of orgasm • Experimentation • Disability

23. Sex Toys vs. The Real Thing • Fears about being replaced • Vibrators can’t desensitize sexual response • Sex pleasure vs. relationships

24. A Brief History

25. Lubricants • Oil based • Water based • Silicone • Ingredient to look out for: glycerin

26. Dildos • Materials: phthalates, silicone, vinyl, glass, steel • Shapes: realistic, g-spot

30. Butt Toys • Importance of the flared base • P-spot toys • Movement vs. plug

33. Vibrators • Clitoral stimulation • Dual action • Varying power

36. Cock Rings • Helps to maintain erection and increase intensity • Wearable for up to 30 minutes

37. Masturbation Sleeves

38. Penis Pumps

39. Shopping for sex toys • Kinds of shops - increasingly there are “woman/couple friendly” shops • Don’t spend a good chunk of change until you know what you like • Check out return policies