How can I stop addiction to sex

1. How can I stop addiction tosex Especially when you are trying to create a new identity for yourself and move from acting with a sex addiction brain to becoming a loving companion. So how you can understand sexual compulsion and help yourself get over sexual addiction? We explore here and invite your questions about sexual addiction at theend. Why Is It So Hard To Stop Acting OutSexually?

2. Stopping, really stopping, a sexual compulsive behavior or addiction presents a major challenge. Some of us can actually stop or at least curb our behavior but we never really feel out of the woods. We continue to feel that we are prone to relapsing. Intellectually we may know that the bad choices we might make are harmful, even wrong, yet we still know that if we get to a certain tipping point, all logic or maturity might just fall away. But why is that we just can’t seem to really let go of our acting our behaviors – “our inner addict” — at least not all the way? Why we can’t stop looking at women, can’t stop feeling addicted to porn, can’t stop contacting sex workers…is because sex has become a securityblanket. Letting Go Of The Inner SexAddict

3. How do you let go and finally break up with “your addict”? Many people who struggle with sexual compulsive behavior look at their struggle as a sort of Jekyll and Hyde or good versus evil battle. If you are a person who grapples with a sex or porn addiction, have you ever considered that your acting out behavior is something, some aspect of you that you actually rely on? It can be helpful to check out the ways the use of porn or sex works for you. How does this behavior, your addict, attempt to help you cope with yourproblems? Your Identity As A Sex Addict: Friend OrFoe? It is possible to begin to look at your addict as a friend, not a foe. I believe we often overlook the emotional relationship or dependency we have on sex or porn. It’s like that favorite toy or activity that we used to use to feel comforted, to feel safe. I often conjure up an image of Charles Schulz’s Peanuts character, Linus, and his attachment to his ever- dependable blanket … the quintessential comfort object. These items—teddy bears, blankets, a favorite toy, for example—provide familiarity, and safety during trying times. As children and adolescents, we may have used comfort objects to soothe, to cope, to feel better when we experienced hard feelings. They helped us bridge the gap as we matured through the stages of our humandevelopment. If you’re struggling with sex addiction, might porn or addictive behavior be working like a security blanket? Think of how long you have actually had your behavior around. Perhaps at first maybe it was just fantasy and masturbation. Eventually you progressed to more frequent and/or severe behavior. Your comforting behavior, your addict, has likely traveled with you for most of your life. Maybe you relied on porn for many reasons—like when you were bored, lonely, angry, etc. to self-soothe. In this sense, the addict is like an oldfriend

4. that provides familiarity and (short-lived) comfort. But, is this addict part of you a friend who really has your best interests in mind? How To Change The Relationship WithYourself • If it is hard to break up with your addict, how about growing him up instead? How can you go about changing the nature of this relationship? Can you see what your addict is trying to accomplish and then find other ways to cope rather than acting outsexually? • Here are some questions to examine to help you dothat: • How long has your addict been around? At what age did you start actingout? • How does your addict help you? What do you get out of acting outsexually? • What would it be like to stop? Can you see a life without acting out? Have you experienced that already and what was itlike? • Understanding this concept can be an important step in actually changing your behavior. Examining why you act out, the relationship you have with your sexual behavior, will begin to tell you how and why you rely on your addiction. Then you have a chance of either breaking up with the addict part of you — or helping that aspect of you to mature, helping that part find ways to find comfort and safety that are notdetrimental.