Resilience & Stress Management: Coping with Pressure vs. Stress, Facing Reality, and Achieving Goals

1. Resilience Stress & Resilience

2. Goals Get an insight into stress and burn-out How to face reality How to cope with stress and failure Living well, a healthy lifestyle Europartners

3. Stress versus Pressure Pressure Pressure comes from without; a challenge in the form of a project or a situation It stimulates so that we can accomplish more than what at first seems possible.   Stress Stress comes from within; it is the pressure that we put on ourselves. This leads to frustration or even a sense of hopelessness. Pressure motivates, stress drains and smothers. Europartners

4. Stress versus Pressure Exhausted Mistakes and errors Confused and rushed Performance Optimal Performance Time Europartners

5. Character and Ambition Gap? Character, duty and ambition, calls and demands Burn-out Skills, competencies, talents, energy (ageing) There is a need for contentment Europartners

6. Reasons for Stress Emotional overload Lack of control Lack of praise Poor working environment, conflicts and bad relationships Injustice Conflict in values and personal convictions Bad personal circumstances, trouble at home and in thefamily, a demanding job Europartners

7. To Face Reality Physical symptoms Headaches, stomach aches, stomach complaints, heartburn Shortness of breath or hyperventilation Sweaty and shaky hands Back complaints, neck and shoulder complaints Chronic fatigue, trouble getting up in the morning Heart palpitations Europartners

8. Facing Reality Changes in behaviour: • Increase of alcohol use • Use of drugs • Smoking more than usual • Nail biting • Excessive eating • Poor appetite • Lack or increase of sexual desire Europartners

9. To Face Reality Emotional changes: • More irritable • Restlessness, lack of concentration • Dreading work tasks, shifting and postponing appointments • Less sociable, less communicative • Angry, taking your frustration out on others • Low-spirited, depressed Europartners

10. Small Group Discussion What do you recognize? How can we reduce absenteeism dueto workplace stress? What are your stress indicators? Europartners

11. Resilience Accepting your personality and who you are A healthy lifestyle Positive relationships Beneficial rhythm Working in the right place Feeling, meaning and purpose and being able to contribute (next time) Europartners

12. My downsides Internal Conflicts and Dialogue These are there, but I don’t allow them to be in my life Me, How I want to be How I want to see me I feel ashamed and try to hide them but these are also needs My standard, • These are coming from my: • upbringing • experience • culture • convictions • peers/friends and therefore also my self judgement

13. Example Need for Your judgementYou act Feeling at ease No one can be trusted Independent, control Relaxation time Laziness Keep working Conflict Quarrelling/brawling Harmony Justice You are not allowed to Strong and suffer blame someone else (feel a victim) Praise Haughtiness Inferiority

14. Shame Is about judgement and rejection We see and we are seen Knowing and loving cannot be combined It is personal and painful and we feel inferior Inwardly We would like to put it away, to hide it, keep it at a distance We would like to destroy it, make sure it is not there But when it is me, you decide to destroy a part of yourself

15. Central Discussion

16. Working time What do you recognize? Where do you reject yourself? Make a table with two columns:on the right your virtues and on the left your vices What do you feel most ashamed of? - What are you constantly trying to avoid? - How can you take this on board and build it in to your life? Are there other things from the past that sometimesdetermine your feelings and behaviour? Europartners

17. Small Group Discussion Talk about it in your small group and share your answers and thoughts Europartners

18. Discipline and a Healthy Lifestyle Sleep Nutrition Sport and training Silence, times of reflection (and prayer) Europartners

19. Positive Relationships Clear identity Being known and loved Being able to love Europartners

20. Life from a Beneficial Rhythm Start on time Do things at the right time Stop on time, take breaks Focus on the work itself and not on finishing it Be open and friendly Bless everyone in your thinking, speaking and working Take the seasons of life into account Europartners

21. Working in the Right Place Personality strengths Talents and competencies The rightworking place Inspiring and positive environment Values and convictions Europartners

22. Small Group Discussion What touched you the most in this session and why? Does your lifestyle help you to be resilient? What are your energy levels like during the day? What ways do you bless and love people? Are you working in the right place? What opportunities do you have to make a change? Europartners

23. Central Feedback Europartners

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