Unit 5 The Tapestry of Friendship

1. Unit 5 The Tapestry of Friendship

2. I. Introduction • Do you keep in touch with your childhood friends? • What do you keep friends for?

6. Song • The theme song is called "I'll Be There For You." It is sung by the Rembrandts. The music is by Michael Skloff and the lyrics by Allee Willis.

7. Lyrics: • So no one told you was gonna be this way [four claps] • Your job's a joke, you're , your love life's D.O.A. • (life,broke)

8. It's like you're always in second gear • When it hasn't been your day, your week, your month, or even your year • (stuck)

9. CHORUS: • but I'll be there for you (When the rain starts to ) • I'll be there for you (Like I've been there ) (pour,before)

10. I'll be there for you ('Cause you're there for me too) • Then, the extended version continues with: • You're still in bed at ten and work began at eight • You've burned your breakfast; so far, things are going great • Your mother warned you there'd be days like these • But she didn't tell you when the world has brought you down to your knees

11. CHORUS BRIDGE: • No one could ever me, no one could ever see me • Seems you're the who knows what it's like to be me • Someone to the day with, make it through all the rest with • Someone I'll always with • (know only one face laugh )

12. Even at my worst, I'm best with you • Yeah! • It's like you're always stuck in second gear • When it hasn't been your day, your week, your month, or even your year, but • CHORUS

13. Friendship (famous) • "My friends are my estate."- Emily Dickinson • "I can never think of promoting my convenience at the expense of a friend's interest and inclination."- George Washington, (as above)

14. "True happiness consists not in the multitude of friends, but in their worth and choice."- Samuel Johnston, (as above) • "The only reward of virtue is virtue; the only way to have a friend is to be one."- Ralph Waldo Emerson

15. Negative quotes • "A woman can become a man's friend only in the following stages - first an acquantance, next a mistress, and only then a friend." - Anton Chekhov • "Men kick friendship around like a football and it doesn't seem to crack. Women treat it like glass and it falls to pieces"-Anne Lindbergh - Sent in by Sandy Macbeth

16. "A friend in power is a friend lost" - Henry Adams, sent by Troy Edwards

17. Religious quotes • "Friends always show their love. What are brothers for if not to share troubles?"- Proverbs 17:17 • "Some friendships do not last, but some friends are more loyal than brothers."- Proverbs 18:24 • "Forsake not an old friend; for the new is not comparable to him: a new friend is as new wine; when it is old, thou shall drink it with pleasure."- Sirach 9:10

18. International Friendship Day • August 6 is International Friendship Day for 2006, time to recognize your friends and their contribution to your life. Friendship helps to bring peace and positivism to the globe - a great reason to celebrate! • Friendship Day occurs on the first Sunday of August - only once a year - so make the most of it! :) • Friends come in many shapes, sizes and guises: school friends, work colleagues, siblings, partners, parents, pets and neighbors. Pull out all the stops and

19. Men v.s.women friendship • "The difference between men friends and women friends is that men tend to do things together, women tend to just be together."-Art Jahnke

20. In childhood girls talk about school, clothes, and their wishes and needs. • Boys on the other hand talk about sports, motors, and locations (Fehr, Beverley 1996, p. 199). Men have a tendency to avoid a high degree of intimacy with each other, but do however acknowledge intimacy and friendship in the form of joking and laughter.

21. Women talk about themselves, their feelings, doubts, fears, love relationships, families, homes, and problems. • Men talk about competition and aggression, and things they have seen or heard. They discuss work, sports, politics, social issues, money, business, cars, weather, and traffic (Monsour, p. 147) "Men's friendships are often built around shared activities attending a ball game, playing cards, working on a project at the office." (Devito, p. 371)

22. Woman friendship • "Friendship is not possible between two women one of whom is very well dressed."-Laurie Colwin

26. Girls • feel the strongest when leaned on. • the benefit of having someone to talk to is the backbone to maintaining a close relationship "Communication, in all its forms and functions, seems much a much more important dimension of women's friendships." (Devito, p. 371)

27. The nurturing aspect of a woman is brought through the relationship • Their senses of nurturing follow most of the rules of friendship just by being there and talking with their friends, which helps maintain a strong relationship (Argyle, P. 120).

28. "Women honor friendship and love their friends; two women can be seen as open, honest, warm, and helpful to each other as the best blood or love relations; • most women are far more empathetic and emotionally intimate with their casual friends, and that is what makes them close friends." (Pogrebin, p. 280)

29. Men friendship

31. Men storytelling sharing them with others laughing about them amongst each other (Monsour, p. 144). "The one thing men do not trade with their buddies is the truth about them," (Rubin, p. 244).

32. men resist comforting their male friends simply because they are too accustomed to competing with them (Monsour, p. 145). Telling the truth would mean admitting some loss, and no man can afford to reveal his losses to the competitor (another man).

33. By late adolescence the male emotions are well defended. The man can allow another man to call a man a fat ass, and not be offended. "If a slightly overweight friend is hurting, he takes it "like a man"; he suffers in silence (Fehr, p. 187).

34. Buddies:chumcompanioncomradefriendpalpartner 1 A good friend; a comrade. 2 A partner, especially one of a pair or team associated under the buddy system. 3 Friend or comrade; chum. • a bosom buddy • 好朋友,密友 • Watch it,buddy. • 兄弟，当心

35. Get out of my way, buddy! • 滚开，你这个家伙！ • Hi,buddy! good to see you here. • 你好，老兄！很高兴在这儿见到你。 • Yesterday I met my ace buddy in the street unexpectedly. • 昨天我在街上无意之中碰到了我最好的朋友。

38. II. Text Analysis • The text distinguishes two kinds of friendship: that between men and that between women.

39. Para 1-2 • The author reveals what kind of film the woman had just seen and what attitude she had to it. • Qs: • What kind of film did she see? Portrayed all aspects of friendship between two women: its fragility, its resiliency and its connecting function. No car chase of fierce funfight.

40. 2.What did she think of it? Gentle and moving

41. - It was, in many ways, a slight movie. In many aspects , it was a simple, ordinary movie. • big-budget chase scene: A car-chase scene that costs a lot of money

42. -cosmic • very great Eg: The earthquake was a disaster of ~ scale. 2)relating to the universe What happens in their lives is influenced by ~ forces.

43. Affecting: Inspiring or capable of inspiring strong emotion; moving • an affecting scene • 惨状 • an affecting sight • 动人的情景

44. -slowly, it panned across the tapestry of friendship… Step by step it gave an all-sided view of the complex structure of friendship…

45. Tapestry: 1 A heavy cloth woven with rich, often varicolored designs or scenes, usually hung on walls for decoration and sometimes used to cover furniture. • tapestry carpet • 用染色经线织成图案的地毯 • tapestry satin • 织锦缎 2 Something felt to resemble a richly and complexly designed cloth: the tapestry of world history.

46. vintage tapestry pillow

48. Budget: a family budget 家庭收支预算 budget plan 分期付款 You have a budget of letters on your desk. 在你的桌子上有一大堆信件。

49. Vt. budget one‘s time 安排自己的时间 vi. budget for the project 为工程编制预算 Adj. a budgetdress 廉价的服装

50. drastic • adj. • a drastic remedy • 烈性的药物 • take drastic measures • 采取果断措施[激烈手段]