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Parenting Teens Week 3

Parenting Teens Week 3. Things my kids have told me about MY parenting…. I always felt supported, and encouraged. “Is THIS the kind of movie we ought to be watching as a FAMILY?” I appreciate, now, how you allowed me to fail.

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Parenting Teens Week 3

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  1. Parenting TeensWeek 3

  2. Things my kids have told me about MY parenting… • I always felt supported, and encouraged. • “Is THIS the kind of movie we ought to be watching as a FAMILY?” • I appreciate, now, how you allowed me to fail. • Dad – you did that all wrong… All I really wanted you to say was “I’m sorry you had a bad night at RIOT”. • Thank you not discouraging my dreams. • Dad, I really think you have been traveling too much, and haven’t been around much. I don’t like that.

  3. Where we are heading: • the Word as it relates to our role as parents. • the Word as it relates to the father parenting a teen. • the Word as it relates to the mother parenting a teen. • How does God “parent” us? • How did Jesus “parent” (mentor) his disciples? • Other questions: • What if mom and dad are split? • How do we make our kids go to church/group? • Others???

  4. Other questions – so far… • What if mom and dad are split? • How do we make our kids go to church/group? • What is the “other shoe dropping” when you have compliant children? • What do we do with the prodigal? • What do we do if our teens are not believers? • When is the right time to allow our teens to fail?

  5. Other comments, so far… • God wants our hearts! • His Grace is mighty! • We have the help and guidance of the Holy Spirit which enables us to parent our children! • Samson’s parents did everything right…

  6. From week 1. • We have the ultimate responsibility for training our teens. (Deuteronomy 6). • Our teens should know the story of our salvation. (Deuteronomy 11). • We are being watched by our teens. • Love never fails. (1st Corinthians 13)

  7. From week 2: • Fathers will set the tone in the household. Our teens will model: • the way we treat our wives. • the way we handle conflict. • Fathers - we should strive to be deacon quality men. • Unless the chain is broken, our children are destined to repeat the sin of the father.

  8. The Word as it relates to the mother parenting a teen.

  9. Ephesians 5 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. A reminder that we are called to mutual submission.

  10. Matthew 18 15 “If your brother sins against you,[b] go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. 16 But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’[c]17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector. Are our teens able to approach us – to share a way we have sinned against them? Is this a working model in our families?

  11. Matthew 5 23 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift. Are we able to humble ourselves when we sin against our teens?

  12. Proverbs 15 A gentle answer turns away wrath,but a harsh word stirs up anger. Have we tried this approach with our teens in the “heat of battle”?

  13. Ephesians 4: 29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. What does this look like when we are angry at our teens?

  14. Ephesians 5 22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Why are women given this specific command? What does this have to do with parenting teens?

  15. 1 Timothy 2 9 I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, 10 but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God. What does this have to do with parenting teens?

  16. 1 Timothy 3 8 Deacons, likewise, are to be men worthy of respect, sincere, not indulging in much wine, and not pursuing dishonest gain. 9 They must keep hold of the deep truths of the faith with a clear conscience. 10 They must first be tested; and then if there is nothing against them, let them serve as deacons. 11 In the same way, their wives[b] are to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything. What does it mean that a deacon’s wife is to be “worthy of respect”? Why are women cautioned against malicious talk? What does this have to do with parenting teens?

  17. 25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;she can laugh at the days to come.26 She speaks with wisdom,and faithful instruction is on her tongue.27 She watches over the affairs of her householdand does not eat the bread of idleness.28 Her children arise and call her blessed;her husband also, and he praises her:29 “Many women do noble things,but you surpass them all.” Proverbs 31 What strikes you most about this picture of the Proverbs 31 woman? What does this have to do with parenting teens?

  18. How does God “parent” us?

  19. Stepping back …

  20. Stepping back …

  21. The name of the Lord is a strong tower;the righteous run to it and are safe. Proverbs 18:10 • YHVH Shammah – the LORD who is there How do we demonstrate safety and strength as we parent our teens – what does this look like?

  22. 26 He said, “If you listen carefully to the voice of the Lord your God and do what is right in his eyes, if you pay attention to his commands and keep all his decrees, I will not bring on you any of the diseases I brought on the Egyptians, for I am the Lord, who heals you.” Exodus 15 • YHVH Ropheka – the LORD who heals How do we demonstrate healing as we parent our teens – what does this look like? Through here.

  23. So what? • Mothers are called to support, encourage, and affirm in the household. • Our households should reflect (though imperfectly) the names of God.

  24. Resources • Growth and Development, Ages 12 to 18—What You Need to Know (paper written by Pastor Cory) • The Strong Willed Child (James Dobson) • Jesus on Parenting (Teresa Whitehurst) • The Five Love Languages of Children (Gary Chapman, Ross Campbell) • http://www.homeword.com/pass-your-faith-your-kids-ta-a-1106.html?buffer_share=f89e7&rmmf=Mjc0NSw1NzcwOTQsMA== • Mark Degner email = markd@freshlookmarketing.com

  25. Resources • 31 Days of Prayer for My Teen (Susan Alexander Yates) • Professional Life Coaching – (101 Parenting Coaching) • Mark Degner email = markd@freshlookmarketing.com

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