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What Happens Next? Adjusting to College

What Happens Next? Adjusting to College. Advice from Crosby, Stills, Nash & sometimes Young. Linda Locher, Ph.D., Director, Psychological Services 570-577-1604. “You, who are on the road…”.

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What Happens Next? Adjusting to College

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  1. What Happens Next? Adjusting to College Advice from Crosby, Stills, Nash & sometimes Young Linda Locher, Ph.D., Director, Psychological Services 570-577-1604

  2. “You, who are on the road…” Parents & Students share the same road (college) but it looks very different from one generation to the next. Who are they “who are on the road” and what are they facing?

  3. Beloit College’s “Mindset List” For the class of 2011: • What Berlin wall? • Humvees have always been available to the public. • They have grown up with bottled water. • Nelson Mandela has always been free and a force in South Africa. • Rap music has always been mainstream. • The NBA season has always gone on and on and on and on. • Classmates could include Bart Simpson. • Eastern Airlines never “earned their wings” in their lifetime. • Wal-Mart has always been a larger retailer than Sears. • Stadiums and rock tours have always had corporate names. • Fox has always been a network. • MTV has never featured music videos. • Avatars have nothing to do with Hindu deities. • Chavez has nothing to do with iceberg lettuce and everything to do with oil.

  4. Beloit College’s “Mindset List” For the class of 2012: • Harry Potter is old enough to be a classmate. • GPS satellite navigation systems have always been available. • Coke and Pepsi have always used recycled plastic bottles. • Clarence Thomas has always sat on the Supreme Court. • IBM has never made typewriters. • There has always been Pearl Jam. • The Tonight Show has always been hosted by Jay Leno. • Lenin’s name has never been part of the name of a major city in Russia. The Soviet Union has never existed. • Caller ID has always been available on phones. • Club Med resorts have always been places to take the whole family. • There have always been charter schools. • They have really known only two Presidents of the United States. • Iran & Iraq have never been at war with each other. • “Whatever” is not part of a question.

  5. The “Generational” differences:A Comparison of Generations

  6. Generation Myths • Baby boomers - Generation of protest, activism, liberalism!? • 1969. Less than 1/3 of all undergraduates (28%) had participated in a demonstration. • 1970. During the week following the shooting of students at Kent and Jackson state universities, 43% of the nation’s college and universities were entirely unaffected. • 1969. Only 33% of undergraduates described themselves as liberal or left of center. • 1969. Fifty-nine percent of students came to college to get training and skills for an occupation. Forty-nine percent saw the chief benefit of a college education as increasing their earning power. • Levine & Cureton1998

  7. “You, who are on the road…” 1. Name one thing that you think is easier, and one thing that you think is harder, for college students today as compared with college students and the world a generation ago.

  8. “Must have a code that you can live by…” Measure twice, cut once. You only live once. Golden rule. Platinum rule. Wisdom from both sides: • Despite “whatever”, they listen. (Values) • Pencils & erasers. (Perfection isn’t enough) • Dyslexic faculty (Failure is part of growing)

  9. “Must have a code that you can live by…” 2. Identify one value, belief or principle that has guided you in times of difficulty or doubt.

  10. “Become yourself…” • Theory and Research regarding college student development. • Challenges across the years.

  11. Social-Emotional Development The Age of: Identity Instability Self-focus Feeling in between Possibilities The Age of: Letting go Defining and assessing personal fulfillment in life Caring for aging parents - role reversals Trusting, Faith & Hope

  12. Challenges

  13. Challenges across the years First Year Students Transition Doubt - “Did I make the right choice?” “Will I succeed?” Separation anxiety - homesickness, loss of childhood security, not being part of the family Excitement of freedom and Experimentation Competence & Confidence Negotiating living with a “stranger” Parents Transition Empty nest - Loss and Freedom Letting go Loss of parental identity Trust Loss of control

  14. Change in First-Year Students’ Self-ConceptHurtado, S., Sax, L.J., Saenz, V., Harper, C.E., Oseguera, L., Curley, J., Lopez, L., Wolf, D., Arellano. L. (2007). Findings from the 2005 administration of Your First College Year (YFCY): National Aggregates. Los Angeles: Higher Education Research Institute.

  15. Change in First-Year Students’ Self-Concept

  16. Change in Student Behaviors Over One Year

  17. Change in Student Behaviors Over One Year

  18. Challenges across the years Sophomore Students Allegiances & Decisions Hall-mates new and old Fraternity & Sorority membership What does “Home” mean? Decisions about majors Has the relationship lasted? Parents Allegiances & Decisions How do I divide time among other children, job, new interests & my college student? Rejection - Do I convert his/her room? Why doesn’t she/he want to come? Elder parent care How much to I give advice, money, problem-solve and how much do I let my son/daughter take responsibility and consequences?

  19. Challenges across the years Junior Students Stretching & Resilience In-depth involvement in major and sport Assuming leadership roles Decisions about studying abroad & Culture shock adjustments Relationships intensifying - commitment questions Parents Stretching & Resilience How do I parent an adult child? How do I welcome a possible future son/daughter-in-law? What expectations do I have for my son/daughter to contribute to the family? How do I let my son/daughter help me?

  20. Challenges across the years Senior Students Transition Self-reliance & Intimacy Good-byes Excitement and anxiety about possibilities Commitments - to job, relationships, contributions to society, family Parents Transition Pride & Anxiety Good-byes New life goals & roles for personal fulfillment Am I ready for becoming a grandparent?

  21. “Become yourself…” 3. Name one thing that makes you different from your son or daughter (answered by parents) from your mother or father (answered by students) Name one thing that makes your similar...

  22. “And you, of tender years, Can’t know the fears That your elders grew by…” • Helicopter parents? • Taking on the responsibilities as an adult child - son/daughter

  23. “Helicopter” Parents?Lafayette College’s First-year Parents’ & Students’ Survey (1999)

  24. “Helicopter” Parents?Lafayette College’s First-year Parents’ & Students’ Survey (1999)

  25. “And you, of tender years, Can’t know the fears That your elders grew by…” 4. Identify one challenge you expect to face this year. How could your parents/son or daughter help you with this challenge?

  26. “ Feed them on your dreams…” • Taking on the responsibilities as an adult son/daughter • Dialogue - Initiative - “nature abhors a vacuum” • Negotiate - Give and take • Empathic perspective - Recognize flaws in parents & self

  27. Talking about My Generation’s GoalsThe Pew Research Center for The People & The Press. (2007). How young people view their lives, futures and politics: A portrait of “Generation Next”, Washington: Pew Research Center. Source: 2006 Gen Next Survey. Respondents were asked to choose the most important and next most important goals from these five options.

  28. 2007 College Senior Survey Institutional Profile – 17,156 respondents from Private 4yr. colleges Student objectives noted as “essential” or “very important”

  29. “ Feed them on your dreams…” 5. Identify one thing you’d like your parents/son or daughter to appreciate about you. 6. Name one dream that you haven’t previously shared with your parents/son or daughter.

  30. “ And know they love you…” Poll: Young people's heroes are parents • By Alan Fram and Trevor Tompson, Associated Press Writers  |  August 20, 2007 • WASHINGTON --When it comes to those they most admire, young people do not look chiefly to the worlds of music, today's wars or history. Instead, they turn to their own families. • Asked to name their heroes, young Americans surveyed by The Associated Press and MTV make their parents the collective top pick. Twenty-nine percent choose their mothers, 21 percent name their fathers and 16 percent pick their parents without specifying which one. Allowed to choose as many heroes as they'd like, nearly half mention at least one of their folks. • Jacquelynne Eccles, a University of Michigan psychology professor who has studied young people, says surveys she has helped conduct since 1980 have consistently found that parents are youths' most oft-named heroes. The AP-MTV poll was conducted by Knowledge Networks Inc. from April 16 to 23, and involved online interviews with 1,280 people aged 13 to 24. It had a margin of sampling error of plus or minus 3 percentage points.

  31. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p6pphVs8bF0 • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XKySbfgvyVw

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