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Forging a Family of Friends. Calgary Families. Five Increasing Trends. More lone parent families More single dads More common law couples More same sex couples More and more young adult children (20-29) at home. Crisis Response. 2010 – 6636 calls per month
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Five Increasing Trends • More lone parent families • More single dads • More common law couples • More same sex couples • More and more young adult children (20-29) at home
Crisis Response 2010 – 6636 calls per month Over 200 calls per day in Calgary!
Ephesians 6:1-4 • Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this right. “Honor your father and mother” – which is the first commandment with a promise – “that is may go well with you and that you enjoy long life on the earth.” Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”
Goal of Parenting • To disciple children into fully independent adults, who love and serve God, and with whom we have a friendship.
Phases of Parenting • 1. Discipline Years – ages 0-5 • 2. Training Years – ages 6-12 • 3. Coaching Years – ages 13-17 • 4. Friendship Years – ages 18+
Phases of Parenting • 1. Discipline Years – ages 0-5 • Key danger - inconsistency • 2. Training Years – ages 6-12 • Key danger – trying to be friends too early • 3. Coaching Years – ages 13-17 • Key danger – Discipline that embitters • 4. Friendship Years – ages 18+ • Key danger – controlling instead of letting go
Ephesians 6:1 • Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this right.
Damaging Dynamics Deserve Discipline • 3 Things that deserve the harshest correction: • Disobedience (Defiance)
Damaging Dynamics Deserve Discipline • 3 Things that deserve the harshest correction: • Disobedience (Defiance) • Dishonesty
Damaging Dynamics Deserve Discipline • 3 Things that deserve the harshest correction: • Disobedience (Defiance) • Dishonesty • Disrespect
Ephesians 6:2,3 • “Honor your father and mother” – which is the first commandment with a promise – “that is may go well with you and that you enjoy long life on the earth.”
Big Questions ? ? ?
The Promises Happiness
The Promises Unity
The Promises Enjoy long life
Ephesians 6:4 • Fathers, do not exasperate your children;
What exasperates children? Unrealistic expectations
What exasperates children? Unrealistic expectations Criticism
What exasperates children? Unrealistic expectations Criticism Excessive, unclear, or inconsistent rules
What exasperates children? Unrealistic expectations Criticism Excessive, unclear, or inconsistent rules Being treated as less mature than you are
Ephesians 6:4 • Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”
How can parents effectively train their children? 2. Clear, realistic expectations with clear consequences
How can parents effectively train their children? 3. Compassionate discipline
How can parents effectively train their children? 4. Using influence
How can parents effectively train their children? 5. Aspire to excellence
Parenting has great rewards Best Parent