Bullying Review

1. Bullying Review What is bullying? What does it look like?

2. Bullying Definition • Bullying is unfair and one-sided. It happens when someone keeps hurting, frightening, threatening, or leaving someone out on purpose. To be bullying, there must be: • Repetition • Imbalance of Power • Purposeful

3. R.I.P. • What does R.I.P. stand for when we are talking about bullying? • Repetition • Imbalance of Power • Purposeful

4. Teens talking about Bullying • http://kidshealth.org/teen/school_jobs/bullying/teens-talk-bullying-vd.html#cat20181 • Facts about bullying: • http://www.dosomething.org/tipsandtools/11-facts-about-school-bullying • Types of bullying: • http://www.stopbullying.gov/what-is-bullying/definition/index.html

5. Let’s look at scenarios and determine if it’s bullying using R I P Scenario #1: Every day during lunch, AJ pushes Junior out of line to get ahead of him. AJ is older and louder than Junior, who is usually shy and quiet. Junior asked him to stop several times, but AJ keeps doing it. R– Repeated (more than once)I – Imbalance of Power (involve or be characterized by)P - Purposeful (intent to do harm)

6. Scenario #1: Every day during lunch, AJ pushes Junior out of line to get ahead of him. AJ is older and louder than Junior, who is usually shy and quiet. Junior asked him to stop several times, but AJ keeps doing it. • R: It happened every day during lunch. If it happened twice, it would be enough to meet the repeated requirement. • I: AJ is older and thus may have more power. Imbalance of power can also include who has more friends, or different personality types. For example AJ is loud and Junior is shy and quiet. • P: Junior asked him to stop, and AJ didn’t. This shows that AJ knew it was unwanted behavior and it was hurting in some way. Junior continued to be hurtful on purpose.

7. Scenario #2: A week ago Allie got a new haircut, and since then, a group of girls at her school have been telling her she looks ugly. Allie told them that it hurts her feelings and even started to cry one day. The girls didn’t stop and continued to make fun of her. • R: The incident started a week ago, and it’s implied it’s happened several times since then. Even if an incident happened in the morning and on the same day another incident happened in the afternoon, it would be considered repeated. • I: A group of girls has more power than a single girl; this is called social status or social power. • P: Allie told the girls it hurt her feelings and they continued to make fun of her. They knew she didn’t like it and they continued to be hurtful on purpose.

8. Three people involved in Bullying: • The person bullying • The person being targeted • The bystanders (people who watch/witness the bullying)

9. What can you do? • http://www.stopbullying.gov/videos/2013/04/be-more-than-bystander.html (be more than a bystander) • http://www.stopbullying.gov/videos/2013/04/be-the-hero.html (be the hero)

10. Telling/ Reporting vs. Tattling

11. Is it Telling or Tattling? • Kelly tripped me on purpose in the hallway • Bob didn’t do his homework • Billy says if I don’t let him copy off my test, he’ll beat me up. • Sofia took out her cell phone during class even though we’re not supposed to • Kim’s desk is messy. • Jose told us not play with the new kid

12. Is it Telling or Tattling? 7. Ana is saying bad things about Katie behind her back. 8. Tim always pushes and shoves to cut in line at the cafeteria. 9. Carolina didn’t put away her books when the teacher asked us to 10. My friend plays with matches at home when his parents are not there. 11. Devon never puts the library books back in its correct place.

13. What to do when we see bullying? • Watch video: • https://becon223.eduvision.tv/default.aspx?q=X3Y5NcZVhaBVHHxxOd2EBw%253d%253d • Review Direct/ Indirect Approaches

14. Be More than a bystander • View website and videos: • http://www.stopbullying.gov/respond/be-more-than-a-bystander/index.html

15. Be More Than a Bystander • Be their friend • Tell a trusted adult • Help them get away • Don’t give bullying an audience • Set a good example

16. If you think you have been bullied or witnessed someone being bullied… • Talk to a staff member- they will help you figure out whether the incident was bullying or an annoying/frustrating situation • Fill out an Is this bullying? worksheet • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iXXKMehgiAk (bullying or not?)

17. Milestones Policy • If someone is suspecting of bullying, MDS administrator will conduct an investigation • Asking people questions, finding out what happened • Students will meet with the principal • Parents will be notified • If bullying has occurred- there will be consequences, such as: • Writing an apology • Detention • Suspension

18. What about cyberbullying? • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2QqeDfkJ5uo • Report to parents • They will let the school know if it involves another student • www.cyberbullying.us

20. Lindsay has just moved to town from Oregon and enrolls in the local middle school. Very pretty, outgoing, and funny, she quickly wins the attention of a number of the school’s football players—much to the chagrin of the school’s cheerleaders. Bonnie, the head cheerleader, is concerned about Lindsay stealing away her boyfriend Johnny, who plays quarterback. With the help of her cheerleader friends, Bonnie decides to create a “We Hate Lindsay” Web site, where girls can post reasons why they hate Lindsay and why they think she should move back to Oregon. Soon, the entire school becomes aware of the site’s Web address, and many others begin to post hurtful sentiments about Lindsay. Desperately wanting to make friends in a new town, Lindsay is crushed and begins to suffer from depression and a lack of desire to do anything aside from crying in her bed. • What should her parents do? • What should her school do? • What could her best friend do to help?

21. Bullying in the News • http://www.boston.com/sports/colleges/womens-basketball/2014/03/17/coach-under-fire-for-bullying-accusations/LnXyADx4WeLYsy5StUBZMO/story.html