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LIFEOLOGY Change the World and Still Be Home for Dinner. What is Your Dream ?. Lettuce or Salad?. Life is a Question…. That Only Has a Spiritual Answer. 3 Big Questions:. Design. Who am I?. What do I want?. Desire. What matters?. Drive. What we want: Fulfillment. WORK LOVE PLAY.
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LIFEOLOGY Change the World and Still Be Home for Dinner
Life is a Question… That Only Has a Spiritual Answer
3 Big Questions: Design Who am I? What do I want? Desire What matters? Drive
What we want: Fulfillment WORK LOVE PLAY Relationships Make a difference Personal Interests Change the World and Still Be Home for Dinner
Am I a Slugbot? Am I a Slug?
1st CatastrophicError I Can Manage My Time Better and Find Fulfillment. PROBLEM: Life cannot be scheduled Trying to balance leads to more anxiety. Balance is not fulfillment. “If I schedule time with my children, my spouse and at the gym, I will feel balanced.”
2nd CatastrophicError I Can Achieve My Way to Fulfillment. • “If I do what I should…” • I will be acceptable, loveable, appreciated. • My life will turn out the way I need it to. • I will feel fulfilled…insecure, confident, perfectionist. PROBLEM: Salt water will not quench your thirst.
3rd CatastrophicError Magical Thinking will Make Me Happy. “If I follow my heart, live my dream, find my bliss… I will be fulfilled.” PROBLEM: Self deception can lead to a counterfeit calling.
Lifeology: Fulfilling Your Life’s Purpose • To Fulfill Your Unique Design. • To Do Your Unique Work. • To Live in Life Integrity.
The Truth How fast are you moving?
Both + And is Reality • Marriages are good and bad. • Jobs are satisfying and dissatisfying. • There is more than one right way. • The truth is always more than we know. • We can be happy no matter what.
Beyond Work/Life Balance Life Integrity INNER Design DriveDesire OUTER Relationships Lifestyle Career
Our dreams are discovered when our Design and Desires meet. GTV Dream Life Desire Success Interest Mediocrity Willingness Failure Avoidance Design Incompetence Capability Skill
WHO AM I? What am I? • I am not my body… • I am not my emotions… • I am not my thoughts… • I am not my roles…
Our Super Theory Determines Our Identity Design: Traits & Talents 10% Meaning Achievement, Job, Thoughts 55% Success Tribes 35% Pleasure Body, Emotions, Traumas
WHO AM I? Design • Traits • Talents • Track Record
Who Am I?Traits • Enduring Strengths • How You Experience Reality • How You Want to Offer Value
WHO AM I?INNATE TRAITS • Humility/Modesty • Prudence • Self-regulation • Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence • Gratitude • Hope • Humor • Spirituality • Creativity • Curiosity • Open-mindedness • Love of Learning • Perspective • Bravery • Persistence • Integrity • Vitality • Love • Kindness • Social Intelligence • Citizenship • Fairness • Leadership • Forgiveness & Mercy
Who am I?Talents: 3 Clues • Compliments • Energy, Effort, Ease • Desire for Mastery
Discovering Your Talents • What do you most value about me? • What would you like me to do more of? • What would you like me to do less of?
Just Who Do You Think You Are? Identity Integrity Decisions Values Thoughts Results Actions
What do I want? What does my soul desire?
Disaster Movie or Hero’s Journey? We are clear on what we don’t want. • Illness • Poverty • Loneliness • Boredom • Powerlessness • Meaninglessness
One Life, Now 1. Life Alignment Career Lifestyle 2. Life Autonomy Relationships 3. Life Achievement
Take the Dream Life Assessment AmericanDreamProject.org
Desire Lifestyle, Relationships, Career • Deepest longings. • Choice if no one cared. • Energy gain.
How We Think Intuitive | Practical | Analytical
Lifestyle PositiveEmotions, Passionate Engagement, Personal Meaning Where YouLive | How You Live | Why You Live
Wisdom Work(Judgment) Creative Work(Ideas) Knowledge Worker(Facts) Process Worker(Labor) Evolution of Work Value CAREER
Future Proof Your Life: Design & Drive is What Counts Stand Out, Don’t Fit In Become an Expert with High Emotional Intelligence
So How Great Do You Want To Be? The Best in Your Field. The Best in the World. Good Quite Good Very Good Source: Paul Arden
The World Still Needs Cowboys Be Unique. Don’t Compete You already are. Just turn up the volume.
Relationships • Without Love there is no happiness. • With Love there is no emptiness. • Relationships are the source of all human meaning.
Romance TIME TOUCH THOUGHTFULNESS
All Feelings Decay into a Concept Intrinsic: You are uniquely loveable. Practical: Are you meeting my needs? Analytical: Are you doing what you are supposed to? - - - - - + - + + + + +
The Quality of Our Relationships Comes from Our Super Theory Design: Traits & Talents Active Advocacy Integrity Aggressive, Bargaining Achievement, Job, Thoughts Demands/Threats Goals Insecure, Undermining Body, Emotions, Traumas Pleasure Passive
REAL Love Intrinsic 1. Understand + - - + + Practical 2. Affirm + Systemic 3. Involve
Our Drive is Our Message Love or Fear
Drive: Prime Motive Give Grow Gain Gain Grow Give