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MAN-UP: A 3-Step Framework. …for Cultivating the Mature Masculine Power YOU KNOW You Have Inside of You. Who am I???. Bryan Ogilvie How to “Get Focused…” 100% Virtual…. What We’ll Build On…. Women & Dating, Self-Esteem, and Mind Power Disclaim #1: “I ain’t all that…”
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MAN-UP: A 3-Step Framework …for Cultivating the Mature Masculine Power YOU KNOW You Have Inside of You.
Who am I??? • Bryan Ogilvie • How to “Get Focused…” • 100% Virtual…
What We’ll Build On… • Women & Dating, • Self-Esteem, and • Mind Power • Disclaim #1: “I ain’t all that…” • not a total guide/opinion • macho & money (vs. internal aspects) • Disclaim #2: “Make ME make it clear…”
The “Tree of Life Science.” 1.) Women & Dating… (Results) 2.) Self-Esteem (Inner Game) 3.) Your Subconscious Mind…
A “Self-Controlled” Man… • A brother who’s in control of himself and in control of his reality (world) • Not “controlling” or domineering, but “context-independent.” • “Comfortable in his own skin…” • NOT approval-seeking… • what I’ve found • spectrum
Examples • first date example • praise-example • feelings-example • always asking • annoying (i.e: not attractive) • But all these are EXAMPLES – the main thing is “being a chump vs. being a magnetic force.” • You are the value…
Qualities that Attract Women • These are general • Mix & match NATURALLY: • Humor • Imagination • Intelligence • Dedication/Commitment • A sense of order • Courage • Social currency • Compassion/Empathy • Ambition • Leadership • Simplicity • Thoughtful • Sexual Confidence • Adventurous • Class/Culture • Disinterested/Challenge
The Approach… • Observation – Converse – Close • Be present • Show your personality • On Fear/Anxiety • “wielding to fear creates the feared result…” • Repetitious exposure • Always take the next step…
3 Deadly Mistakes… • “Rescuing” her… • White-knight fantasy • Accept her for who she is, BEFORE you get that involved with her • Pitying her • Healthy women choose healthy men. • A woman’s choices reflect HER self-esteem. • “Understanding” her • Read excerpt
Additional Advice… • She’s a HUMAN BEING • Idolize/Objectify spectrum • Have male friends (who are successful) • Have female friends (like a girl you’d like) • Have everything going for you you can • Keep your apartment/dormroom neat • Keep your haircut (done), fingernails, etc. • Anything that’s within your realm of control.
More Resources • My blog post “What Do Women Want (Bryan’s Take On It…)”: dotheknowledge.com/ transcend/women • “Double Your Dating” by David Deangelo: doubleyourdating.com
Session II: On Building Self-Esteem “Ability determines the quantity of women you attract; IDENTITY determines the quality…”
Defined… • Self-esteem is the relationship you have with your own process of perception • How well you honor your intuitive thoughts and feelings • Mental-esteem (Judgment) • emotional esteem (Self-worth) • Child example/media example/ social pressure • Some steps: • Stop equating your identity with your results • FORGIVE YOURSELF for mistakes you’ve made. • Book excerpt…, and lastly
Modeling…. • Physical Modeling • Alert eyes • Relaxed jaw • Relaxed face • Chin naturally aligns with their body • Arms hang in a natural, relaxed way, • Relaxed posture, • Purposeful walk • RELAXATION • Behavioral Modeling • Way of walking, and disposition express JOY • Speak about accomplishments and failures/shortcomings HONESTLY • Comfortable giving and receiving comliments AND criticism • Spontaneous • JOYFUL & HONEST
If you want to learn something, associate with people who know it…
Additional Resources • Radio show called “The Dynamics of High Self-Esteem: Insights & Techniques for Greater Confidence”: • dotheknowledge.com/transcend/self-esteem • The Dragon-Slayer w/ a Heavy Heart by Marcia Powers: http://amzn.to/cebfHj
Session III: The Subconscious Mind “Men are anxious to change their circumstances, but hesitant to change themselves…they therefore remain bound.”
Definition: • The subconscious mind is the totalitarian government of the population known as your thoughts, feelings and consequent behaviors.
As We All Know… • The mind is a computer…but, WE can be the “computer programmer” • 95-99% of thinking • Habits of thought • Self-image/Identity • View of what reality is • We “think” our thinking is objective…
The Analogy is “Source Code” • Here’s a typical website:
In order to alter the website (thoughts, feelings and emotions), you need to learn “hand-coding” (skills that allow you to re-condition your subconscious thought) • NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) • Eastern Meditation • Free Association (Psychotherapy technique) • Self-Hypnonsis (don’t get shook) • Affirmations
“Get Your Mind Right” Software • Technically, “Think Right Now Intl. Accelerated Success Conditioning for Thought & Behavior Modification”
More Resources… • My blog, “Fundamental Mind-Power Skills that Make ANYTHING Possible…”: • dotheknowledge.com/transcend/habits • Think Right Now Intl.’s programs: • dotheknowledge.com/think
In Conclusion • There’s an INTERNAL dynamic to mature masculine development that most males completely ignore: • Seeing yourself as the source of power • Honoring the relationship you have w/ your own perception, judgment and instincts • Exercising conscious control over your thinking process….
Remember the Tree: Results in life are REFLECTIVE of internal states and subconscious limitations. If you want to change the website, you have to change the source code FIRST…
Recommended Scrolls • Reading isn’t just fun-damental, it also “FUNDS the mental.” • From Niggas to Gods (by Akil) • http://amzn.to/cqH1rG • The Alchemist (Paulo Coelho) • http://amzn.to/9r2cm5 • The Way of the Superior Man (David Deida) • http://amzn.to/dyFLRV
CONTACT: bryan@dotheknowledge.com WEBSITE: dotheknowledge.com RESOURCES: dotheknowledge.com/man-up PEACE!Any questions??? “The fool who ask is a fool for five minutes; the fool who keeps silence remains so for the span of his life…”