Fetish Themes Black Encouraged – any effort appreciated

2. Fetish • Themes • Black • Encouraged – any effort appreciated

3. Socialising • Dressing Up • ‘Play’ • Scenes • Role Play • Service • See and Be Seen!

4. What is a DM? • How are they chosen? • Who are they? • What do they do? • Monitor play for safety • Facilitate / Act as an intermediary • Explain use of equipment • ‘Watching Eyes’ • Answer questions! • DM Decisions are made on behalf of the group and are final

5. First Aid Kit • Fire Extinguisher • Wipes • Sharps disposal • Non-Smoking • Music • Social areas • Recovery Area(s)

6. May have many roles in BDSM • No need to label yourself • Real names vs. Scene names • Use the name requested by someone, even if you know them by another name • Honorifics • No need to use honorifics • No one can make you use them! • Not using them is not disrespectful • In a scene, you may negotiate use of honorifics

7. That’s yes Mistress to you, boy!

8. During a scene, senses are heightened • Loud unexpected noises can break a scene • Comments from observers are easily heard • Long conversations are best taken to the social area

9. What happens at a party stays at a party! • Venue • Who was there • What they did • Even what you did, if it might reveal someone elses involvement

10. At discretion of hosts – usually controlled or not welcome at most parties • All people in a photo must know and agree to being photographed • Photos are not for ‘publication’ unless with full agreement of all parties • May be an official photographer, or official photo area • Be aware of flash disturbing other scenes • Supervision of photography by DMs

12. Alcohol may be taken to a party • Moderate consumption OK • Intoxicated people • won’t be allowed to play • at DMs discretion may be removed from venue

13. Illegal drugs are not permitted at parties • People under the influence of drugs will be told to leave • Endorphins are legal, and encouraged

14. People • Touching, even hugging, may not be appropriate unless you ask first • Venue • Equipment • Club • Personal • Damage

15. Club Equipment • Ask a DM if you need help using it • Some needs more than one person to use safely • Personal Equipment • Label it if possible • Keep it contained, neat and tidy • Remove from play space when you’ve finished • Ask permission before touching or using another persons equipment • Report any damage!

16. Condoms • Gloves • Cleaning wipes – use before and after playing on equipment • Sharps, Blood etc • Personal hygiene • Declare your STD status!

18. Using • Entering during scenes • Door Open vs. Door Closed

19. Consist of three main parts • Negotiation • Play • Sub Space/Dom Space • Aftercare • Some of these things may occur before or even after the party! • May not be obvious to others • Do not interfere! • If you see something which concerns you, ask a DM

21. Two or more people • Many types of play • Impact, Role Play, Electrical • Sensation Play, Wax, Watersports • Mummification, Bondage, Humiliation …. • “Edge Play” • Needles, Knives, Blood, Suspension, Asphyxiation

23. Experience Levels (Top *and* Bottom) • See the Negotiation guidelines • DMs will help with negotiation at play parties – just ask • Trying things for the first time

25. Play stops instantly! • Intervention from outside a scene • Party Safe word vs. personal safe words • “Traffic light” system

26. Materials • Restraint methods – possible need for fast removal • Avoiding pressure points • Checking for circulation problems – finger check • Never leave restrained person unattended • Gags and blindfolds – non-verbal safewords • Warmth/cold

28. Thud verses sting • Go slowly until you establish likes and dislikes and levels of play • Areas of the body for impact play • “Safe” areas • “No-go” areas • Wrapping

30. Wax • Types of candles – avoid beeswax and metallic candles • Variation in melting points • Removal methods • Use of drop-sheets • Ice • Feathers, wool, fur, textures • Mummification

31. Can be less visual type of play • Is still a scene – do not interfere • Be aware this type of play can cause “triggering” • Safe words are just as important

32. Need for robust negotiation and health issues • Types of electrical toys • Areas to avoid i.e.. Across the body

33. Needles, knives, blood, suspension • Discuss with a DM before starting your scene • Be prepared to answer questions about your level of expertise in the area • Accept the DMs decision • Be aware people may not wish to watch, use a private area or wait until later in the night • Provide your own safety gear and be scrupulous with clean up

35. Nudity is OK • No staring – watch with respect • Sex is OK • Not all groups allow it • Barriers provided, recommended • Water Sports • Only if ‘wet area’, will be announced at start of party • Scat, Underage, Animals • Not permitted

37. People get into ‘altered spaces’ during play • ‘Drop’ • Sub drop • Top drop • Aftercare is expected! • Normally Doms responsibility • *DO* ask for help if you need it • Approaching people after a scene

39. Many of same rules regarding safety apply • No DMs around, but your local group can help • Meeting people from internet/ads • Public place i.e.. Café • Get lots of personal info and write it down • Have a safe call in place if possible. Your local group can provide this for you • Park in a well lit area • Not a good idea to play at first meeting