Unconventional Sexual Behaviors

1. Unconventional Sexual Behaviors © 2011 John B. Pryor Illinois State University

2. unconvention sexual behaviors paraphilias Abnormal?

3. Criteria of abnormality: • Statistically rare • Deviates from cultural norms • Causes discomfort • Causes inefficiency • “Bizarre” • Causes harm to self or others

4. Paraphilia (DSM-IV definition) • Mental disorder • Recurrent intense sexual urges, sexually arousing fantasies, or behaviors • Lasting at least 6 months • Involving a)nonhuman objects, b) suffering or humiliation of oneself or one’s partner c)children or other nonconsenting people • Person has acted upon the urges or is markedly distressed by them

5. THEORETICAL PERSPECTIVES ON PARAPHILIAS BIOLOGICAL VIEWS • higher testosterone among exhibitionists LEARNING VIEWS • experimental evidence that fetishes can be conditioned • clinical histories

6. THEORETICAL PERSPECTIVES ON PARAPHILIAS SOCIOLOGICAL VIEWS • S & M subculture MONEY’S LOVEMAP ANALYSIS

7. John Money (1986) - some ideas on paraphilia “Lovemaps” - cognitive templates of idealized lover and idealized erotic relationship Lovemaps are influenced by culture, family experiences, & other childhood experiences (e.g. rehearsal play).

8. John Money (1986) - some ideas on paraphilia • Paraphilias develop when children are indoctrinated to distinguish the pure from the profane. • WORLD OF LOVE = PURE, SAINTLY, & UNDEFILED • WORLD OF LUST=SINFUL, DIRTY, & DEGRADING

9. John Money (1986) - some ideas on paraphilia • Lovemaps are defaced by such experiences as punishment for sex play. Paraphilia represents a rescue of lust.

10. Some Unconventional Sexual Behaviors • Fetishism • Transvestism • Sadism & Masochism • Voyerism • Exhibitism • Necrophilia • Beastiality • Asphyxiophilia

11. Fetishism • Fetishes may be conceived as a continuum ...................................... MILD PREFERENCE STRONG PREFERENCE NECESSITY SUBSTITUTE FOR HUMAN Considered “Abnormal”

12. Shoe Fetishes - example of form fetish

13. Leather Fetish - example of media fetish

14. Rubber Fetish -another example of a media fetish A popular event in London, England is the annual Rubber Ball

15. Sometimes people want to do unusual things with the fetish object Example: Anal Insertion

16. Surgery Magazine(1986) Case 1. A 39-year-old married white male lawyer presented with a self- inserted perfume bottle in his rectum that he was unable to remove using various objects, including a back scratcher. He had inserted this bottle on previous occasions. Edema of the rectum and sigmoid colon precluded the successful manual removal of the object in the emergency room. The 3 by 17 cm object, "Impulse Body Spray," was removed manually after a spinal anesthetic.

17. Survey from Surgery Magazine (1986) Previously reported recovered rectal foreign bodies- Object Number Recovered Glass or ceramic Bottle or jar 31 Bottle with attached rope 1 Glass or cup 12 Light bulb 7 Tube 6

18. Foods Apple 1 Banana 2 Carrot 4 Cucumber 3 Onion 2 Parsnip 1 Plantain (with condom) 1 Potato 1 Salami 1 Turnip 1 Zucchini 2

19. Wooden Ax handle 1 Stick or broom handle 10 Miscellaneous or unspecified 3 Sexual Device Vibrator 23* Dildo 15

20. Kitchen devices Dull knife 1 Ice pick 1 Knife sharpener 1 Mortar pestle 2 Spatula (plastic) 1 Spoon 1 Tin cup 1

21. Miscellaneous tools Candle 1 Flashlight 2 Iron rod 1 Pen 2 Rubber tube 1 Screwdriver 1 Toothbrush 1 Wire spring 1

22. Inflated devices Balloon 1 Balloon attached to cylinder 1 Condom 1 Balls Baseball 2 Tennis ball 1 Miscellaneous containers Baby powder can 1 Candle box 1 Snuff box 1

23. Miscellaneous Bottle cap ** 1 Cattle horn 3 Frozen pig's tail 1 "Kangaroo tumor" # 1 Plastic rod 1 Stone 2 Toothbrush holder 1 Toothbrush package 1 Whip handle 2*

24. Collections (one case of each) 2 Glass tubes 72 1/2 Jeweler's saw Oil can with potato stopper Piece of wood, peanut Umbrella handle and enema tubing 2 Glasses Phosphorus match ends (homicide) 402 Stones Toolbox ## 2 Bars soap Beer glass and preserving pot Lemon and cold cream jar 2 Apples Spectacles, suitcase key, tobacco pouch, and magazine total of 14 collections, with approximately 500 objects

25. Infantilism:Example of how fetishes are oftenincorporated into elaborate rituals • A fetish involving objects associated with infants. • Infantilists are typically heterosexual males. • The fetish usually includes using one, or all of the following: Diapers, Plastic or Rubber Pants, Baby Bottles, Pacifiers, Bibs, etc.

26. Infantilism (from a survey by Speaker, 1987) • 50 % - Were Bedwetters as children • 22 % - Remember wearing daytime diapers beyond the third year. • 63 % - Remember wearing night diapers beyond the third year. • 100 % - Resumed wearing diapers between the age of 4 and 29. • 96 % - Resumed wearing diapers by personal choice.

27. Infantilism • 55 % - Resumed wearing diapers between the age of 12 and 20. • 81 % - Have erotic feelings while wearing diapers. • 65 % - Wore diapers with no one's knowledge. • 96 % - Have/Had sexual intercourse without wearing diapers. • 74 % - Have/Had sexual intercourse while wearing diapers.

28. Infantilism • 77 % - Non Drug users. • 88 % - Prefer and enjoy being an Adult Baby. • 100 % - Sexually excited while wearing diapers. • 100 % - Masturbate while wearing diapers. • 77 % - Are currently involved in a sexual relationship. • 66 % - Are involved with a female partner. • 66 % - Think of Infantilism as a lifestyle.

29. Transvestism • Cross-dressing

30. Some macho actors? Wesley Snipes JohnLeguizamo Patrick Swayze

31. Cross-dressing in the movies Patrick Swayze JohnLeguizamo Wesley Snipes To Wong Foo Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar (1995)

32. More Movie Stereotypes Tim Curry as Frankenfurter in The Rocky Horror Picture Show

33. Some famous politicians are rumored to be cross-dressers in their private lives…probably just a rumor

34. In one survey, 70%of transvestites werefound to beheterosexual.Many are happilymarried.

35. Survey by BULLOUGH, BULLOUGH, SMITH (2002)

36. The web is full of product sources and how-to books for cross-dressing

37. Sadism & Masochism • Marquis de Sade • Leopold von Sacher-Masoch • “A Guide to Erotic Flogging” manuscript available from the Society for Human Sexuality, University of Washington • Baumeister’s theory of escape from self

38. “The dominatrix (female dominator) commands me to clean a toilet, then ‘rewards’ me by allowing me to chew on one of her dirty socks.” The Notorious Betty Page SM Film Star of 1950s

39. Amsterdam’s Red Light District has prostitutes who openly advertise SM specialties

40. Bondage Website from Japan SM seems to be common in many cultures

41. Preferred D & S activities from a survey of gay S & M men • Spanking • Master-slave relationships (servilism) • Oral sex • Masturbation • Bondage • Humiliation • Erotic Lingerie • Restraint • Anal Sex

42. Weinberg, Williams, & Moser (1984) study of “Nonclinical” D & S • Consensual • Sexual scenes are acted out • The amount of pain, if any, is controlled by the submissive partner • Often, participants switch roles

43. SM as a continuum • What are some behaviors that contain elements of sadism & masochism or domination & submission, but are relatively “normal”? • At what point does it become abnormal or a problem or a fetish?

44. BITING DURING SEXUAL PLAY OR INTERCOURSE AMONG ISU STUDENTS

45. BITING DURING SEXUAL PLAY OR INTERCOURSE AMONG ISU STUDENTS

46. BITING DURING SEXUAL PLAY OR INTERCOURSE AMONG ISU STUDENTS

47. BITING DURING SEXUAL PLAY OR INTERCOURSE AMONG ISU STUDENTS

49. Voyeurism • Arousal from watching others nude or performing sex acts - "looking without consent." frames from a hidden camera in a women’s restroom taken by a high tech voyeur the absence of consent is often more important than the nature of the visual image stolen