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Why Don’t You Get on My Nerves Anymore? Socioemotional Aging. Karen L. Fingerman Professor Human Development & Family Sciences Faculty Affiliate, Psychology Department University of Texas at Austin. Relationship Problems. Poor Mental Health…. With age, adults report fewer problems with:.
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Why Don’t You Get on My Nerves Anymore? Socioemotional Aging Karen L. Fingerman Professor Human Development & Family Sciences Faculty Affiliate, Psychology Department University of Texas at Austin
Relationship Problems Poor Mental Health…
With age, adults report fewer problems with: • Friends (Blieszner & Adams, 1995) • Spouse (Carstensen, Gottman, & Levenson, 1995) • Children (Fingerman, Chen, Hay, Cichy, & Lefkowitz, 2006) • Grandchildren (Fingerman, 1998) • Sibling (Bedford, 1989) • Relationships (Akiyama, et al., 2003; Fingerman & Birditt, 2003; Rook, 1987)
Why do they have fewer problems? • Person Changes… • Emotions • Cognition • Brain • Social Context… • Selection of most rewarding partners • Roles
Person Features Partner’s Input Adult’s Socioemotional Response Relationship Features Social Input Model of Socioemotional Response Fingerman & Baker, 2006; Fingerman & Pitzer, 2007 Fingerman & Charles, 2010
Social Partner’s Input…. Social partners may hold views of older adults that influence their behaviors towards that older adult. Perceptions of remaining time. Interpersonal dyadic reactions.
Overview of Social Problems(N = 187) • TEENAGERS (aged 13-16) • YOUNG ADULTS (20s) • MIDDLE-AGED (40s) • YOUNG OLD (60s) • OLDEST OLD (80s) NIA, Grant # AG1448401, “Adults’ Reasoning about Social Problems”Fingerman, Hay, & Birditt (2004) Journal of Marriage and Family
Social Problems Study Demographics, vocabulary, & health Social desirability Kahn & Antonucci measure Measure of problematic ties Open-ended questions about interpersonal problems, behaviors, and emotions Ratings of behaviors and emotions
Classify relationships as: • Close only • Problematic only • Mixed or ambivalent
Average Number of Relationships Classified as Problematic Only
Overall Findings…. Older adults experienced fewer ambivalent as well as fewer problematic only ties. People of all ages experienced the greatest ambivalence towards close family (spouse, child, parent)… Which means that older adults somehow manage to avoid getting upset with their close social partners….
Young and middle-aged adults are most ambivalent and upset with close family
Adult Family Study • Phone interviews (CATI) individually • Background Information • Positive and Negative Qualities of Relationships
Adult Family Study 158 Families (N = 474) • Son or Daughter (22 to 49, M = 34 years) • Mother (40 to 82, M = 60 years) • Father (43 to 84, M = 62 years) • Stratified sampling by age, gender, ethnicity Fingerman, NIA Grant AG17916-01, “Problems between Parents and Offspring in Adulthood”
Positive Emotions Happy Relaxed Interested Pleased Proud Delighted
Negative Emotions Irritation Disappointment Guilt Worry Jealous Disgust Embarrassment
Intensity of Negative Emotions Offspring worry Parent feels loved Hay, Fingerman, Lefkowitz (2007)
Negative for the offspring But positive for the elderly parent
Socioemotional Processes as Interpersonal Transactions Individual Reading Cues & Responding to Partner Individual Reading Cues & Responding to Partner
Age Differences in Behaviors Tell me about the last time you were irritated, bothered, hurt, or annoyed with (name of social partner) What did you do in this situation? Birditt & Fingerman (2005) Journals of Gerontology
Coding for Responses Constructive: discuss problem, ask person to stop, tried to solve the problem Avoidance: Remain calm, pray, do nice things for person unrelated to the problem Confront: Argue, yell, name call Neglect: Ignore person, sulk, not talk to the person
A bit more about the codes Reliability established across 100 out of 833 responses (12% of data) Kappas ranged from .79 to .93 7% of data did not fit any codes (cry, harm another object, exercise)
Behaviors in Daily Interpersonal Problems National Daily Diary Study (N = 1,242) • Part of the MIDUS study • Adults aged 25 to 74 • Participants completed interviews about daily stress each day for 8 days • 666 participants who indicated that stress involved another person (n = 1,618 responses) Birditt, Fingerman, and Almeida (2005)
Replicate Findings • Older adults were less likely to argue or use confrontational behaviors than were younger adults • Older adults were more likely to “do nothing” or describe a non-specific passive behavior
Summary….. Older adults attempt to avoid interpersonal tensions Younger adults more confrontational… But older adults were interacting with other older adults, younger adults interacting with younger adults….
But in the real world…Social partners come prepackaged by age…
So, how do social partners treat older adults?.....
Holiday Card Study….. Fingerman & Griffiths, 1999
Mother/Daughter Problems Study(N=96) • Mothers • Over age 70 • Well-educated • Healthy • Daughters • Mean age 45 • Live within 50 miles of their mothers • Study Design • Individual interviews, joint interviews, questionnaires
What’s going on here? • Daughters see problems But, in the best relationships tone down their responses in their mothers’ presence • Why? Don’t have much time left She’s not going to change.
Relationships have Time Perspective Ho 1: Perception that time in the relationship is running out leads social partners to behave more “positively” Fingerman, Miller, Charles, 2008
Younger Participants Aged 22 to 35 n = 70 M = 25.64 years 57% women 67% college degree Older Participants Aged 65 to 77 n = 71 M = 70.21 years 51% women 79% college degree Sample
Procedures: Within Participant Design Report on the young adult (aged 18 to 35) feel closest to Report on the older adult (age 65+) feel closest to NOT their romantic partner
Young adult: Joining cultural immersion program in Peace Corps Older adult: Moving to retirement community in Hawaii Manipulation of Time Perspective
Reaction to Negative Behavior: Insult Manipulation Now, imagine the following situation: You are talking in a group of people, describing a problem you are having. (Name of older/younger adult)_______ responds by saying something highly critical and slightly insulting about you. You are surprised and hurt by these remarks.
3 behavioral responses to insult Confront 2 items: Confront, raise voice, a = .58 Engagement 3 items: Calmly discuss, try to find, solution a = .79 Avoidant 4 items: Situation blow over, accept nothing can do, avoid dealing with, act as if nothing going on a = .83 Control for: Typicality of the situation
Other measures Individual Time perspective(Carstensen & Lang, 1996) Emotional expressivity (Kring, Smith, Neale ,1994) Stereotypes (Packer & Chasteen, 2006) Relationship Time perspective of relationship How close, how long known, relationship quality
Multilevel Models: Predictors Target Age Manipulation: Away on an island or not Future Time Perspective for Relationship Length of Relationship Positive Relationship Quality Negative Relationship Quality Importance of Relationship Blame other party How upset about situation Typicality of situation Participant Age Participant Gender Participant Future Time Perspective Emotional Expressivity Stereotypes of aging