SAME SEX MARRIAGE

1. SAME SEX MARRIAGE Lucas Mtimkhulu

2. INTRODUCTIONS • Same sex marriage is the marriage between people of the same sex. • Man marries another man=gayism • Woman marries another woman=lesbianism • They are homosexual couples. • It is a great threat to the family and institution of marriages. • The topic is inevitable as the Scripture is undermined.

3. DEFINITIONS • Another word for “gay” is homosexual. • Lesbian is a female homosexual. As an adjective “lesbian” may also describe a sexual and/or romantic relationship between two women. • Homosexuality is defined as a deficit in the child’s ability to relate to the parent of the same sex in general (coupled with) a corresponding drive to make good the deficit- through the medium of same sex or homosexual urges.

4. FOUR DISTINCT STAGES • There is a change in behaviour. • There is increased self-esteem. • There is a deepening same-sex relationship. • There is also the discovery of the heterosexual or complementary-sex relationship.

5. LEGALISATION • It is true that it has been legalised in S.A. • If same-sex marriage is legalised then people can marry their pet. • Words like “husband/wife” “mother/father” are meaningless • This means there is no more adoption. • No consideration is given to birth of babies.

6. GOD’S WORKMANSHIP. • Gen 1: 27- Created in the image of God. • Male and female He created them. • Not male and male/female and female. • He commanded them to be “fruitful”. • Male and male cannot be fruitful. • Female and female cannot be fruitful. • Male + female=multiplication.

7. WHAT IS VERY GOOD? • Compare Gen 1:25 with Gen 1:31 • After the creation of plants and animals He said “It is good”! • After the creation of male and female He said “It was very good”!! • Very good because it was male and female and not male and male or female and female.

8. WHO SAID IT? • Genesis 2:18-25 • The Lord God said it, no one can change it. Rev 3:7 • “It is not good”-The Creator speaking. • “I will make him an helper comparable to him…” • Animals were brought…to no avail!

9. WHAT A PLAN! • Since no helper comparable was found, God came up with a plan…Jer. 29:11 • He came up with “…thoughts of peace not of evil…for the future (creation) and hope. • “And the Lord God caused a deep sleep…” • That was the first operation conducted by God Himself. • Adam responded positively.

10. GOD’S FIRST OPERATION • “He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh in its place…” Wow! • And He made a woman (He equiped her with a womb) and took her to Adam. • Adam acknowledged her (maybe the drug was still on) “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh…” • “She shall be called woman… for a reason”

11. A WOMBED MAN! • Womb + man= wombed man in short woman i.e a man with a womb. • Adam gave her the name woman because he saw a womb in her. • Reason for the name “…because she was taken from a man.” • “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife…”

12. INSEPARABLY LINKED! • Mat 19:4-6- So they are no longer two…(of the same sex)…but one (of different sexes) • “…what God has joined together, let not man separate.” • Don’t separate (put asunder) man from woman. • “Because God created this organic union of the two sexes, no one should desecrate His art by cutting them apart.” (The Message)

13. WHAT A DISTORTION!(Jer.29:11) • Homosexuality, fornication, adultery and prostitution are all in the same group. • God came up with a “plan” for sex. • Animals decided to obey God’s plan. • Man decided to go his own way and defy his maker. • This is a distortion of the Maker’s plan!

14. SODOM AND GOMORRAH.Gen 19, 2Pet 2:7, Jude2 • “The men…said; Where are the men that we may know them carnally?” (v4-5) • Lot said “Please, my brethren, do not do so wickedly!” (v7) • Lot said “I have two daughters…you may do to them as you wish…” (v8) • “Only do nothing to these men…this is the reason they have come under my roof.” • “Escape for your life! Do not look behind you! Escape to the mountains (Calvary)!!. (v17)

15. GOD COMMANDS!Lev 18:22 • “Do not lie with a man as with a woman, that is detestable.” • Mark 7:20-23 All these evil defiles a man! • Mat 5:27-28 You better cut it off! • We have to quote the whole Bible for clarity! • Lev 20 Penalties for breaking the law!

16. PAUL’S VIEW ON HOMOSEXUALITY. Rom1:18-32 • Watch out “The wrath of God!” (v18) • They changed the glory of the incorruptible God. (v22) • They dishonour their bodies among themselves. (v.24) • They changed the truth of God for a lie. V25 • Lesbianism and gayism. (v26-32)

17. HOMOSEXUALS WILL NOT INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD • 1 Cor.6:9 “Do you not know?” • “The unrighteous will not inherit the Kingdom of God.” • “Do not be deceived!” • Fornicators, idolaters, adulterers, homosexuals, sodomites, thieves, covetous, drunkards, revilers and extortioners are all in one basket!

18. WHY HIV AND AIDS? • It is not necessarily a direct judgment from God. • It is, but a devastating consequence of sin. • It is as a result of sinful behaviour.

19. JESUS’ SILENCE. • His fulfillment of the law is recorded in Mat 5:17-19 • Adultery in the heart. Mat 5:27. • Homosexuality is the only exception for divorce.. Mat 5:31-32. • His teaching on celibacy. Mat 19:11-12

20. HOMOSEXUALITY AND DEMON POSSESSION • It is caused by demons which still exist today, hence the existence of problems. • A person can be demon possessed. • In Greece: daimonizomai= demonized. • They can invade a Christian’s life. • Hammond says there are 53 types of demons.

21. HOMOSEXUALITY AS CONDUCT DISORDER • An impediment of psychosexual development. • This is a sign of undeveloped aspect of their personality. • Homosexual behaviour and homosexual orientation. • Biblical passages: Deut 23:17, 1Kings 14:24;15:12, 2Kings 23:7. • Not genetic. Dysfunctional family relationships. Sexual abuse, incest or gay lifestyle.

22. HOMOSEXUALITY AS AN ALTERNATIVE LIFESTYLE • A homosexual Christian? • Caused by discrimination by society and church. • The different cultures and periods of time. • Some churches accepts them and allow them to worship God. • The Christian gay theology. The gay pastor?

23. IS THERE A CURE OR TREATMENT? • For the demonic possession, the cure is spiritual and instant. • Change is possible through the grace and the power of God. • For the emotional and/or psychological origin, the cure would be psychotherapeutic • For a lifestyle, there is no reason to be cured.

24. THE FOUR STAGES OF HEALING1.CHANGE IN BEHAVIOUR • The first step is change in behaviour. • It will produce a new perception of who you are. • Gen 4:6-7: “Why are you angry for your brother?” • A complete cutting off of all associations with gay friends. • Eze 33:11,14,15: Obedience is very important. • Making these first steps can be traumatic but God is faithful if only we obey.

25. 2.SELF-ESTEEM • Establish self-esteem for yourself. • Remove the guilt of the past. • The love of God embraces you. • See the love , grace and forgiveness of God in your life. • Accept yourself who you are. • Learn to see yourself as God sees you.

26. ESTABLISH SAME-SEX FRIENDS • Establish good friendship with good friends. • It is needful to heal the hurts of the past. • Forgive those members that were hurt and ask for forgiveness from those you have hurt. • After the heal achieve full health.

27. ACCEPT THE REALITY • Accept the reality about the heterosexuality. • This can only happen when the same-sex need has been addressed. • After accepting yourself as a member of the same-sex gender then attraction from the opposite sex will begin.

28. THE SOLUTIONJer. 8:22, Jer. 46:11 • Is there no balm in Gilead? • Why then are the daughters of my people not healed? • Go up to Gilead and get a balm for the healing. • All else will be in vain. • John 3:16 “For God so loved the world…”