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Understanding Homosexuality. Sue Bohlin Probe Ministries www.probe.org. LIE #1: “Homosexuality is normal and healthy.”. LIE #2: “Being attracted to the same sex means you’re gay or lesbian.”. LIE #3: “Since you were born that way, you can't change.”.
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Understanding Homosexuality Sue Bohlin Probe Ministries www.probe.org
LIE #2:“Being attracted to the same sex means you’re gay or lesbian.”
LIE #4:“Embrace and celebrate your gay identity because gay life is cool.”
Why Some Teens Experiment with Gay/Lesbian Relationships • Normal crushes on same-sex friends • Emotional dependency • Need to belong • Simple curiosity • Others have labeled them: trying it on • Anxiety about growing into adolescence and the responsibilities of adulthood
Boys Attracted to Other Boys • Unmet need for connection with dad • Unmet need for connection with other boys • Disconnection with his masculinity • 1/3 to 1/2 - sexual abuse
Girls Attracted to Other Girls • Unmet need for connection with mom • Unmet need for connection with other girls • Disconnection with her femininity • At least 2/3 - sexual abuse • They act as if they were (“lesbian chic”), and then a habit develops
“I Don’t Understand My Feelings and Desires” • Gender insecurity • Age 10: attraction for the same sex begins • Emotional • Non-sexual • Involuntary
“I Don’t Understand My Feelings and Desires” • With sexual maturity, hormones (esp. testosterone) can eroticize God-given needs for: • Attention • Affection • Approval
“I Don’t Understand My Feelings and Desires” WHAT TO DO: • Invite Jesus into your longings, your desires, your dark and hurting places, your unmet needs • Pursue healthy same-sex friendships • Don’t keep it a secret! • www.livehope.org
“I Don’t Get this Whole Gay/Lesbian Thing” • Be compassionate • You don’t know who’s struggling because they’re keeping it private. • Same-sex strugglers are wounded people. • Be a grace giver • Those with SSA have been lied to. • Pray for them to see the truth.
“I Don’t Get this Whole Gay/Lesbian Thing” “I Don’t Get this Whole Gay/Lesbian Thing” • Be respectful. • No gay jokes (e.g., “That’s so gay!”) • Don’t throw around words like “homo” or “fag” or “lez”