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A Family Affair: Getting Dad Involved

A Family Affair: Getting Dad Involved. Ted Greiner, PhD 1st Regional Conference on Human Lactation Breastfeeding for Healthier Generations November 14 – 15, 2007, Dubai. Fathers are proud of their children. And want the best for them. Fathers influence how babies are fed.

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A Family Affair: Getting Dad Involved

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  1. A Family Affair: Getting Dad Involved Ted Greiner, PhD 1st Regional Conference on Human Lactation Breastfeeding for Healthier Generations November 14 – 15, 2007, Dubai

  2. Fathers are proud of their children And want the best for them

  3. Fathers influence how babies are fed. Mothers who even perceive the father to be negative to breastfeeding will often not do so or shorten the period.

  4. In one study in Baltimore (Kessler et al, 1995), 65% of Afro-Americans and 85% of White women chose the father as the person whose opinion mattered most in deciding how to feed their baby.

  5. About 65% of both male and female significant others preferred breastfeeding. • When they did, women were 59 times more likely to intend to breastfeed. • Women intending to do so were 67 times more likely to initiate breastfeeding.

  6. In Texas, Freed et al (1993) found the following attitudes among men, depending on how their partners planned to feed (expressed in per cent):

  7. Yet the mothers’ ability to guess how their partners responded to these questions was no better than random guessing.

  8. But no matter how supportive they feel during pregnancy, fathers often develop concerns about breastfeeding: • It prevents them from developing a relationship with the baby. • It separates them from their partner.

  9. They are jealous of the close bond between mother and baby. • Reduces the mother’s interest in sex and/or interferes with sex. • Has a negative effect on the breasts (size, shape, dripping, “belong” to the baby).

  10. What to do to prevent this?Discuss in advance, between partners: • The many ways in which having children often can damage a couple’s relationship • The benefits of breastfeeding for mother, baby, and even father (less sickness, lower cost)

  11. Discuss in advance,between partners: • The kinds of problems men tend to have about breastfeeding, even if he does not feel that he will have them.

  12. Discuss in advance, between partners: • The acceptability of, • styles of (for example clothing choice, extent of breast exposure), and • potential locations where it’s “okay” to breastfeed in public from his point of view

  13. Try to find a way to discuss these issues both before and after birth with other men (with no women present); if possible including a good role model. • Fathers should participate actively in preparations for birthing and be present during delivery.

  14. Getting a father to feel supportive of breastfeeding • Men respond well to scientific evidence on the benefits of breastfeeding • Focus on “What’s in it for me?” • The previous slide presents a major argument • However, don’t put the baby between mother and father in bed • Their heels are strategically placed to give dad a very unpleasant awakening…

  15. All babies, not just prematures, benefit from kagarooing. Men can and should spend a lot of time skin to skin with their babies.

  16. From an early stage, find realms in which the father on his own works out how to care for the baby and takes responsibility for it. • Burping, comforting and diapering are helpful, but bathing has the advantage that he can be the sole or main bather. • At six months, let the father become the main solid feeder.

  17. A new idea: can fathers be educated aboutthe benefits and safety of exclusive breastfeeding and serve as protection for their partners from interference by their mothers?

  18. We must consciously strive to create a new norm for what it means to be a father who is involved with and actively engaged in the life of his baby.

  19. Here are some examples of what is out there now and threatening to become the norm if we remain passive.

  20. How to get men more involved? • They need to get empowered, • Learn what to do. • They need to learn this from other men. • They need space to develop their own ways of caring for their children.

  21. Doing things with other fathers makes it more fun and offers a rare opportunity to learn from each other

  22. BUT they must somehow learn where the thresholds lie for: • Hygiene, • Nutrition, • Safety, • Children’s needs for attention, body contact, stimulation.

  23. I was never educated, but things just worked out. I spent a lot of time with my sons while working on my PhD. I was alone with them for six months when they were 4 and 7. We had a lot of fun together, but sometimes it was exhausting.

  24. Then I was alone with them again for 3 years starting when they were 10 and 13. In this picture we are on a trip to Rome together when they are 12 and 15.

  25. Finally, I was alone with the younger one from the time he was 18 – 21. Fortunately, at the same time as he moved out, a new, then 16-year old step-daughter moved in and I’m enjoying a new kind of fathering!

  26. Ted’s Email: tedgreiner@yahoo.com Ted’s Website:www.global-breastfeeding.org

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