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Good Enough Parenting. As a concept. Phrase coined by Winnicott Unrealistic and unhelpful to demand perfection Vast majority of parents are ‘good enough’. To parent:. Active verb which denotes positive activities undertaken by parents/adults towards children
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As a concept • Phrase coined by Winnicott • Unrealistic and unhelpful to demand perfection • Vast majority of parents are ‘good enough’
To parent: • Active verb which denotes positive activities undertaken by parents/adults towards children • A cumulative process not an event • Anyone concerned with and involved in the care of a child can be seen as part of the parenting process
Importance of Parenting • Most intense in first 5 years of a child's life • Child most dependent on parents for physical and emotional nurture and protection • Good enough parenting delivered consistently over this period enables attachment and fosters child's basic sense of security
Importance of Parenting • This sense of security is essential for subsequent mental health, self-esteem and positive relationships • Once acquired it is a firm foundation for life
Components of Good Enough Parenting • Basics: physical care, nutrition, protection • Emotional needs: love, care, commitment, consistency • Limit setting: boundaries and limits • Facilitation of overall development *
Components of Good Enough Parenting It is the long term provision of these aspects of parenting that will ensure the child grows up into an emotionally secure, fully developed and competent adult.
Basic Good Parenting • Low level of criticism • High level of warmth and praise • Time spent with children • Child focused activities
Basic Good Parenting • Communication • United Front • Enjoy each other • Reasonable limits
In short: Parents need to provide • LOVE, CARE and COMMITMENT That is: • CONSISTENT and UNCONDITIONAL In an • ACTIVE and POSTIIVE way
Potential Consequences of ‘not good-enough’ parenting • Lack of love, care and commitment = • Insecure personality, problems with attachment, low self-esteem, problems with relationships, problems with parenting
Potential Consequences of ‘not good-enough’ parenting • Lack of control and limits = • Conduct disorder, delinquency, criminal behaviour, aggression, poor impulse control
Potential Consequences of ‘not good-enough’ parenting • Lack of facilitation of development= • Education failure and social deprivation