1 / 36

Oshkosh: a Civil Community

Oshkosh: a Civil Community. The Oshkosh Civility Project April 2011. The Oshkosh Civility Project Major Financial Benefactors. Speak Your Peace Oshkosh!. Credits to: Dr. PM Forni – Johns Hopkins University Truckee-Tahoe Community Foundation Duluth-Superior Area Community Foundation.

ophira
Download Presentation

Oshkosh: a Civil Community

An Image/Link below is provided (as is) to download presentation Download Policy: Content on the Website is provided to you AS IS for your information and personal use and may not be sold / licensed / shared on other websites without getting consent from its author. Content is provided to you AS IS for your information and personal use only. Download presentation by click this link. While downloading, if for some reason you are not able to download a presentation, the publisher may have deleted the file from their server. During download, if you can't get a presentation, the file might be deleted by the publisher.

E N D

Presentation Transcript

  1. Oshkosh: a Civil Community The Oshkosh Civility Project April 2011

  2. The Oshkosh Civility Project Major Financial Benefactors

  3. Speak Your Peace Oshkosh! • Credits to: • Dr. PM Forni – Johns Hopkins University • Truckee-Tahoe Community Foundation • Duluth-Superior Area Community Foundation

  4. Getting Started • Visit to Truckee-Tahoe Community • Exploration of efforts in Duluth-Superior • Politics • Letters to the Editor • Blogs – Anonymous and Otherwise • Economic downturn • Mood of the public • High visibility incidents – Rutgers & Tucson

  5. Our Goal • Can’t we do better? • Aren’t we known for friendliness and hospitality? • We should set a higher mark! • Provide a common framework to discuss civility-related issues.

  6. Let’s Agree to AGREE • This is NOT a campaign to end all disagreements … this is a campaign to make it safe to disagree. • Focus: Improving the character and quality of interpersonal communication.

  7. Key Strategy • Involve all major stakeholders • Attract interest ~ secure buy-in • Work small ~ grow bigger • Encourage grassroots interest & involvement • We are not just targeting those who are uncivil, but those who allow uncivilized behavior to happen.

  8. Choosing Civility • National speaker • Recognized authority • Provide visibility • Conceptual structure

  9. What we did … • Concern -> ACTION • Core Group • Formulated Plans • Truckee Leadership Breakfast • Forni Community Breakfast • Forni – Library & School Board • Mayor’s Proclamation • Website • Continued outreach/dialogue • Promotional Materials

  10. Choosing Civility

  11. Civility in the Public Schools

  12. A Day of Civil Discussion • The people of Oshkosh were urged to reflect on the importance fundamental values • Respect • Understanding • Compassion • befitting a proud community with a rich history & heritage of an active, engaged, informed and involved citizenry. Feb. 24 2011 Walter Scott & Mayor Paul Esslinger

  13. Civility Defined • “Benevolent awareness of others” • Civil ~ when weave restraint, respect and consideration into fabric of awareness • Civil ~ when we care about others and treat them well

  14. What does civility do? • Strengthens social bonds • Reduces stress • Increases satisfaction • Increase work quality • Good for relationships • Good for business • Civility does the “everyday busywork of goodness”

  15. Incivility At work Costs us all • >90% of workers experience incivility • 50% lost work time worrying • 13% left the company • >50% American workforce has high stress levels • >1/3 identifies “people issues” to cause of stress at work • Workload is #2 • Estimated cost of workplace stress: $300 billion per year • Source: P.M. Forni

  16. Nine Tools of Civility

  17. Civility: City & Society Me, Myself & I “The Other” Known Other Group Unknown Other Group My Group To be Revisited …

  18. 1. Pay Attention Be aware and attend to the world and the people around you.

  19. 2. Listen Much of the conflict in our lives can be explained by one simple but unhappy fact: we don’t really listen to each other.

  20. “We in America have everything we need except the most important thing of all—time to think and the habit of thought.” Norman Cousins

  21. 3. Be Inclusive Welcome all groups of citizens working for the greater good of the community. Remember to “Invite the Stranger.”

  22. www.OshkoshCivilityProject.org

  23. 4. Don’t Gossip Don’t discount the power of your words. Speaking with consideration and kindness is at the heart of civil behavior.

  24. 5. Show Respect Disagree without being disagreeable. Respect includes recognizing that others are entitled to look at the world differently.

  25. The Principle of Respect for Persons We ought to treat others as ends in themselves rather than as means for the satisfaction of our immediate needs and desires PM Forni

  26. 6. Be Agreeable Two key ingredients for being agreeable in conversation: 1. The ability to consider that you might be wrong. 2. The ability to admit that you don’t know.

  27. 7. Apologize Be sincere and repair damaged relationships Simple, decent words, that soothe the bruised soul: “I’m sorry.”

  28. Life today is more about feeling good and less about being good. “We spend much more time tending to the quality of our emotional lives than to the quality of our moral lives.” Joshua Halberstam

  29. 8. Give Constructive Criticism Intention must be to help, not to humiliate. When disagreeing, stick to the issues & no personal attack!

  30. 9. Take Responsibility Don’t try to shift blame onto others. Share disagreements publicly.

  31. Civility: a Model Me, Myself & I “The Other” 1 Pay Attention 2 Listen 3 Be Inclusive Relationship Focus 5 Be Respectful Relationship Focus All Others 6 Be Agreeable 7 Apologize 4 Don’t Gossip! 8 Constructive Feedback 9 Take or Accept Responsibility!

  32. Responding to Rudeness • State the facts • Inform the other person how you were impacted by their actions • Request that hurtful behavior not be repeated SIR

  33. Choose Civility • Engage others • Inform others • Learn from others • Learn with others • Model or establish • ideal community • standards

  34. Choose Civility! • It is quite possible to be true to one’s beliefs and be civil at the same time • The issue is not whether to stand firm or to compromise, but how to express our firmness

  35. Just Say YES to Civility • www.OshkoshCivilityProject.org

More Related