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Chemical Dependency and the Family Family Roles and Family Stages
Family Roles • People assume roles to protect the family. • These are not healthy for anyone. • These roles help them to cope and survive. • Many times outside help is needed to break these roles.
Behaviors • makes excuses for the user • may lie to protect chemically dependent person • takes responsibility for the person • blames others for the problems
Behaviors: • high achiever/perfectionist • very busy and active • seeks approval • keeps things running smoothly • keeps the family together
Behaviors: • tests limits • breaks rules • gets in trouble • gets blamed for the family problems takes attention away from real problem • usually has most realistic picture of the family • wants to spend all their time away
Behaviors • seeks attention through humor and acting out • uses humor to keep people at a distance • hides the problem • seldom serious
Behaviors • quiet – shy • daydreamer • spends time alone • may have a make believe world • avoids conflict • doesn’t talk about problems
Family Stages When a family member becomes a victim of alcoholism or another drug addiction, the rest of the family tends to react in predictable ways.
Stage 1: DENIAL • Members deny any problem • Hide the problem • Want to protect reputation • Family makes excuses for the drug abuse • They try to create the “perfect family” illusion
Stage 2: HOME TREATMENT • Family tries to control the drug use • Eliminates the supply • Socially isolated • Blames themselves
Stage 3: CHAOS AND DISORGANIZATION • A crisis occurs as a result of the drug • Disease can no longer be denied or hidden • Family feels helpless • Children become confused • Family violence may occur
Stage 4: REORGANIZTION • Family tries to reorganize • Dependent person is ignored or treated like a child • Other members may feel guilt, fear, anger, resentment