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Tonya Leigh on creating a life that your 90-year old self will toast and say, “Well done, darling.”. http://rachelrofe.com/tonya-leigh-on-creating-a-life-that-your-90-year-old-self-will-toast-and-say-well-done-darling
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Tonya Leigh On Creating ALife That Your 90-year Old Self Will Toast And Say, “Well done, darling.”
Tonya Leigh is master trained life coach, a former registered nurse, trained sommelier and devout Francophile. She owned the company: French Kiss Life Incorporated. With the chic travel society and online programs, Tonya fuses personal development with luxurious lifestyle to inspire women to live with ease, elegance, and everyday ecstasy. She has worked with Oprah and the IKEA Life Improvement Project and spoken to audiences from Paris and Monaco to the deep South on living a well-lived life, the art of femininity and creating heart-centered companies.
She’s most proud of her 16-year old daughter and asa parent just watching her daughter grow up and make mistakes and learn from them and see her on her journey. She’s also proud of who she’s become.
The experience she had was never an epiphany. It was day by day realizing more of what she wants and what she doesn’t want. She remembers particular night in her life. She was working as a fulltime nurse and she was a single mom, they just moved to small apartment. She had no furniture. She had bean bag and her daughter had a bed, thank goodness, and she had a TV.
She was in a such depressed state of mind and totally felt trapped. That time her daughter called asked “Mom are we going to be okay?” It was like her heart exploded. She start to look around and say "Even in this time in my life where I'm so down, don't know what's next, there's still beauty all around."Because of that mindset shift, she was in a better state of mind. Her state of being began to change and slowly over time she’s landed to where she is now, which is a completely different place. The point of that is even the little subtle shifts that you make in your life, they lead to beautiful changes over time.
To continually evolve herself, she decided to put her tennis shoes on!!
She has a program called "Slim, Chic and Savvy." One of the first things that she does with the women is have them think about, "If you were at your ideal weight, if you had your ideal man, if you were in your ideal career, how would you feel? what are your essence words, and begin to embody those daily and let them guide your choices and your decisions.
She always wants to surround herself with people who call out the best in her, people whose lives she admires, people who have a beautiful, positive energy about them.
How did she get people out from her life who didn’t love their energy… The way she looks at the world is everything is energy and like attracts like. As you begin to intentionally go about your day, She always say the universe makes those decisions for you. As she held her energy in a certain space, what she found is that she looked around and no one was really wanting to be around me.
For Tonya, it was just like those who wanted to join her in where she was going, they stayed on board. Those people who didn't, she doesn’t know how it happened, it wasn't like she looked at them one day and said, "I'm not going to have anything to do with you." It's like she turned around and they were no longer there.
She grew up in the deep South and she grew up in a religion called Pentecostal Holiness. Basically being a worldly woman of any type was a sin, so no makeup, no pants, no jewelry—all the things that she loves.
She remember those moments in her interest in the world of wine. Put herself out there and she started reaching out to food and wine magazines. The next thing she knows she’s doing food and wine writing and restaurant reviews and creating wine programs. That was the first step in this world that she’s living in now.
How to find out what you’re passionate about!? One of the illusions, is that passion is found out there. We are passionate beings. The more you show up and you bring passion to everything that you do, the more you open yourself up to finding what you are passionate about. What you focus on grows. If you think you need to be fixed, you're just going to grow a problem that you really don't have.
Look at how you are showing up in that situation? Are you showing up with dread? Are you showing up with anger? You're only recreating who you are. Begin to show up as the woman you want to be in every situation of your life. It's often our thoughts that make things hard, not the circumstance.
Easing your life when you feel super busy!!! One,be mindful of what you tell yourself. Two, you get out of your creative zone of genius. Three, when you change your mindset, everything else changes. Four, begin to look at what are the practical in your external world that you can begin to work on.
Tonya is a firm believer… She’s a believer in elegant system which she uses to create her year in advance. She creates it not just from business perspective but from a life perspective. She’s also a firm believer of automation, she automates her investments and bills or anything that can be automated. She has another system, Stitch Fix. This is to free up her time so she can enjoy her time and the things that she loves to do and focus on the things that really matter to her.
If you kept telling yourself, "I'm so tired. I'm so tired." The more you recited that in your mind, the more tired you became. Then you realized you had a few more things you needed to do before the end of the day so started telling yourself, "I'm full of energy. I'm excited about getting this done," and your mindset over powered your body. All of the sudden, you felt this burst of energy.
There's a Catch 22 here in that the mind is really powerful and at the same time you really need to honor what your body is saying and trying to figure out what is creating this constant fatigue.
Look in your life what can you appreciate right now. What is abundant in your life right now? The more you begin to appreciate where you are in your life right now, you begin to feel better. As you begin to feel better, you make better decisions. As you make better decisions, you create better results. It's always about reaching for the better feeling thought..
If you're feeling stuck in life, if you feel like life's not moving in the right direction, begin to look at what are you telling yourself? What are the beliefs that you keep thinking over and over again? Those are what's creating the feeling of being stuck. Equally, how can you begin to maybe change up a few things in how you're presenting yourself to the world, the things that you're doing in your daily life to being to shake your world up a bit? That's how you can begin to get out of where you are right now.
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