Goals

1. Goals Value = Goals = Behavior = Self-esteem

2. Long vs. Short • A short term goal is achieved quickly (finish term paper, wash dishes, mail Christmas cards by Friday, etc.). They help you achieve your long term goals. • Long term goals will take months, years, all your life. For example: graduate from college, become a pilot, lose ___ pounds, etc.

3. Oh the Places you will go • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IQRWeZy-S8Q

4. Do you believe you can achieve? • We need to learn how to dream. • Keep the dream alive, reach your goals • Some people don’t decide or have a vision of what they want out of life. NO GOALS!! • People with goals can see what they eventually want to achieve and they can see just how to get there.

5. Dreams and Goals Box • “Cloud 9” • We need to learn how to dream • Dream “snatchers” put them away or steal them • Keep the dream ALIVE to reach your goal • Share story: Another Check Mark On The List by: John Goddard

6. Activity: Garbage Can Why was it easier for the student who was not blindfolded to make a basket? • One student had a clear view of where to shoot, the other couldn’t see • One had a purpose, the other was uncertain

7. No Goals • Some people are like this, they don’t decide or have a vision of what they want out of life. • NO GOALS!!!!!

8. Goals • People with goals can see what they eventually want to achieve and they can see just how to get there

9. Things to remember: • Goals must be realistic – you can’t lose 40 pounds in one month • Must prioritize – rank in order of importance you, can’t accomplish it all at once. • Do you have the resources you need to reach your goals (money, information, health, energy, skill, etc.).

10. Individual Assignment: • Write a long list of the goals you think would be important and worthwhile for you to accomplish. (a dream list) • Now have them look at their list and ask themselves the following questions: • Does it fit your values? • Is it realistic? • Is it flexible? • Does it fit in with your other goals? • Will the rewards be worth what you put in to it? • Is it what you want? • Complete Dreams Do Not Just Happen

11. Elephant and Feather • Belief- Dumbo believed in the feather • He believed he could fly if he had the feather • Did the feather really make him able to fly or was it the belief in something?

12. Belief • - Hold on to someone else’s belief in your until you believe in your self • If you do not believe you can do it, this is why you don’t succeed.

13. Belief Activity: The “I can’t funeral” • write down on a piece a paper everything you can’t do. • Next write a list of ‘I CAN’. Keep this in your note book/journal.

14. “I Can’t Funeral” Friends, we are gathered today to honor the memory of “ I Can’t”. While he was with us on the earth, he touched the lives of everyone, some more than others. His name, unfortunately, has been spoken in every public building. We have provided “ I Can’t” with a final resting place. He is survived by his brothers and sister, I Can, I Will, I’m Going To Right Away. They are not as well known as their famous relative and are certainly not as strong and powerful yet. Perhaps some day, with your help, they will make an even bigger mark on the world. May “ I Can’t” rest in peace and may everyone present pick up their lives and move forward in his absence.

15. I Believe I can fly • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LbUpPVOEkdA • This feather is to remind you that you can do anything you set your mind to, as long as you BELIEVE

16. “Success is in the bag”. • You need purse-severance • It requires the same amount of energy to be successful as it does to be unsuccessful. • 99% of your assets are standing in your shoes. • 80% of success is showing up

17. Examples • Students spend their entire summer making up credits from the previous school year • Parents who divorce, spend energy rebuilding a new family, new rules, dealing with the hurt and anger • Choosing to not advance your job skills. Having to work TWO jobs at lower pay

18. If you are not working to where you want to be, you are AUTOMATICALLY working to where you don’t want to be. • Keep your most important values in mind at all times when you are making LESS important decisions. • Don’t sacrifice what matters most for something that doesn’t matter that much to you. There are always trade-offs

19. Build a bridge and get over it • You will have challenges • You will have roadblocks • You can have excuses or success but not both Story: “Circus Elephants and Limitations”

21. There are three types of people • Ones that make things happen • Those that let it happen • And the ones that don’t know what happened. What one are you going to be?

22. There is very little difference between mediocre and greatness. • The boiling point is only 1 degree different than very warm water. • The difference is tremendous. Steam can power many things. • The difference between a race horse that wins first place and a second place is often fractions of a second.

23. Seven goal areas Family/home Social Educational Religious Achievement/recognition Career Physical/health

24. Writing goals – • SPECIFIC! • written down • MEASURABLE • TIME FRAME • read out loud frequently • posted visibly

25. Student Assignment: Set a goal and fill out Goal Packet Worth 60 points