Do You Know What Your Children Are Doing Online?

1. Do You Know What Your Children Are Doing Online? Presented by: Jenny John, School Counselor Renee Johnson, School Counselor Erin Hockenberry, School Counselor Kristina Shaw, School Psychologist

2. Bullying…. • Is aggressive behavior that intends to cause harm or distress • Usually is repeated overtime • Occurs in a relationship where there is an imbalance of power or strength

3. Cyber Bullying Defined “Bullying through e-mail, instant messaging, in a chat room, on a website, or through digital messages or images sent to a cell phone.” Kowalski, Limber & Agatston, 2008

4. What’s Different About Cyber Bullying? • 24/7 and the invasion of home/personal space • The audience can be very large and reached rapidly • People who cyber bully may attempt to remain anonymous • The profile of the bully and target

5. Flaming Harassment Denigration Impersonation Outing Trickery Exclusion Cyber Stalking Examples of Cyber Bullying - Virginia Department of Education, 2008

6. Warning Signs Of Bullying • Depression • Subtle changes in behavior may indicate potential problems that should be discussed. • Isolation could indicate a more severe stage of emotional crisis. WWW.ISAFE.ORG

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8. Mathews County Acceptable Use Policy Unacceptable Uses Submitting, posting, publishing or displaying any obscene, profane, threatening, illegal, or other inappropriate material. Cyber bullying, threatening, or using the computer system to disrupt the school learning environment. Network Etiquette Each user is expected to abide by generally accepted rules of etiquette. Use of computers and other electronic devices in a manner that disrupts the learning environment, activities or events is prohibited. Excerpt from MCPS Policy “IIBEA-R/GAB-R”

9. Mathews County Acceptable Use Policy • Use Of Appropriate Language • The use of obscene, lewd, profane, threatening or disrespectful language is prohibited. • Users shall not post or print in electronic or paper form, personal contact information, including names, home, school or work addresses, telephone numbers, or photographs, about themselves or others unless they have received written permission form that person or the posting and printing meets all district and school policies and regulations. Excerpt from MCPS Policy “IIBEA-R/GAB-R”

10. School Rules On Cell Phone Use • Must be turned off and kept in the student’s locker or car during the school day. • Any cell phone that is visible or used during the school day will result in the cell phone being confiscated and the phonewill only be returned to a parent. • For any subsequent violations of the policy, the student will be suspended for one day. • The use of video cameras or video phones is prohibited during the school day.

11. Possible Consequences for Cyber Bullying • Legal action against individual and/or parent if individual is a minor • Civil • Criminal (Class 1 Misdemeanor to Felony charges)

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16. Parental Controls for Cell Phones

17. Parental Controls for Cell Phones

18. Parental Controls for Cell Phones

20. Social Networking Sites

21. What Is A Social Networking Site? • Internet resource which allows individuals to interact with one another • There are thousands of social networking sites – each constructed for different reasons

22. MySpace

23. Facebook

24. YouTube • YouTube is a video sharing website where users can upload, view and share video clips • Unregistered users can watch most videos on the site, while registered users are permitted to upload and view an unlimited number of videos • Some videos are available only to users of age 18 or older. These may be of an explicit nature • Videos are not permitted to be longer than 10 minutes in length

25. Internet & Video Games • Individuals can network through internet gaming sites & video game systems

26. What You Should Do If You or Your Child Are Being Cyber Bullied?

27. The 5 R’s • Recognize –people online are not always who they say they are and take note of the bully’s screen name or e-mail address. • Refuse –to open or read any message from a cyber-bully. • Record –document the attempts of cyber bullying for law enforcement officials. • Respond –by ignoring the bully at first and never respond to a bully out of anger. • Report –cyber bullying to the internet service provider, the school (if school related), a trusted adult, or law enforcement to stop it immediately. WWW.ISAFE.ORG

28. Websites • www.OnGuardOnline.gov – Federal Trade Commission • www.iKeepSafe.org – Internet Keep Safe Coalition • www.i-safe.org • www.netsmartz.org – National Center for Missing & Exploited Children • www.mcgruff.org – National Crime Prevention Council • www.staysafeonline.org – National Cyber Security Alliance • www.staysafe.org • www.wiredsafety.org • www.teenangels.org – trained teens & preteens that promote internet safety • www.teenchatdecoder.com – ability to decode chat/text messages • http://www.mathews.k12.va.us/internetsafety.html – Mathews County Public Schools Acceptable Computer Use Policy

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