Soft Steps Forward

1. Soft Steps Forward The importance of soft skills in obtaining work EU Seminar SUCCES December 9th 2010 (Kortrijk, Belgium)

2. Proces of the workshop • Guest Speaker: Jos Wouters (Gebruikersoverleg Handicap, Chronische Ziekte en Arbeid) • Group exercise and evaluation: Tess Tebboth (Community Connections) and Justien Jonckheere (Mentor vzw) • Link to SUCCES: Medway Council

3. A face has two sides ! or from The painted bird (Jerzy Kosinski - 1965) till now

4. The painted bird ?

5. The painted bird • What I remember from this book : - it’s a very pessimistic, dark book - it’s a story about a boy that gets no place anywhere, because he differs from other people. - it’s like a bird that has not the same colors on his feathers, and therefore he’s excluded from everything (food, sheltering …)

6. The painted bird • What is on this moment my interpretation of this book : - I have other feathers but I have the right to participate like anyone else - the color of my feathers can be an advantage, I can add something special in an organisation - I have to compensate in another way to solve (some) problems (what means that there are different ways to solve the same problem) - in interacting with other people, I can learn them that differences will not cause problems but will make it possible to have better (and more) solutions for the same problem

7. A little bit of (my) history

8. My own network : • Very nice parents that has always said, “you are a human being like everyone, so act like everyone else” • Very nice neighbourhood : I always had a place there, the others gave me a place like anyone else (because I acted like anyone else)

9. Education • Regular or special education : my parents (in communication with myself) have always chosen for regular schools. It is better to climb a mountain, to practice life like all the other people. “Other people” have to do it the same way. • Technical skills or study to go to high school : there was a very big discussion when I had to go to secundary school. “Isn’t it better to choose a technical study ? When you choose a general direction, you have to study high school and perhaps that isn’t possible for you?”: in fact in daily life I have a disability when doing practical things … i don’t understand how to do it  … I’ve studied economics-modern languages till age 18. • High school : studies of informatics and then university, sociology of labour markets and organisations, … without big problems, I had found my “core business” ! (high school was a very nice time … study hard, work hard but being of person like all the others !)

10. From school to work ? • Big problems in the transition from university to work • We had an economic crisis that time : 1981! • Employers : fear to recruit me, … a disabled person, two diplomas in contrast with problems in communication … “You are too intelligent” … (The painted bird !) • Three years of unemployment (a lot of time to do the things I wanted to do but no money to spend!)

11. From history to the reality of today

12. Working now ? • Do I tell about my disability or not ? Not a problem for me : when I start speaking my disability is there (exception : hidden disabilities or some chronic illness) • What can I do in my job inspite of my disability, example : working in a hospital with patients, later on I’ve worked in housing of persons with intellectual disabilities … development of people isn’t a straight line ! • Expectations : others have high expectations (he has come so far, then “the sky is the limit” for him, we give him difficult things), or low expectations (he is disabled, we won’t ask him for difficult tasks, which (in my case) means much contact with others people. The reality is : we are men and women like others, but some tasks are impossible, … (in my case in contact with other people, when it is a difficult situation, always go with two persons, but don’t exclude me from that contact) • Wage : Because I am disabled, my productivity is low, result : low wage … inspite of several studies, and a lot of experience

13. Mechanism • Imaging of disabled people in a specific way (“they can’t participate in society”) and stereotyping • Exclusion : the feeling I haven’t a place anywhere. Important : My “own” attitude plays also a role in the problem of exclusion (try to be invisible) • In Flanders : a strong special circuit of schools and sheltered companies, with leads to underdevelopment / inaccessibility of regular activities in the regular circuit

14. What can we do ? • Disabled people want to participate like all other people : accessibility of society in all domains • In communication,“nothing about us, without us” • Changing of the image : there is no one that reaches all (100 %), and there is no one that reaches nothing (0 %), changing that is a responsibility for all members of society (included disabled persons) • Development of measures to support people • Change of the attitude of disabled people (we also can have a role in society)

15. In one sentence … From helping people to supporting them

16. Contact Jos Wouters Koningsstraat 136 1000 Brussel 032498431041

17. Group exercise Picture-puzzles with profiles on the back Find the pieces that match yours to complete the puzzle

18. Group evaluation The hot-air balloon: uplifting approaches 0. What are the barriers that keep the beneficiary from a durable employment? >> Write this around the balloon 1. Which soft skills should the beneficiary gain to take steps to durable employment. Which soft skills can lift him/her up to the next level? >> Write this in the balloon 2. Where would you go with the beneficiary, which direction/approach would you take? >> Write this on the steering device 3. What are the skills and talents that the beneficiary already has? What does he/she already carry with him/her? >> Write this in the basket 4. What aspects would you throw out? What would you NOT focus on during the guidance? >> Write this in the air under the basket

19. My name is Chloe, I am 32 years old. • I worked as an Account Executive, for five years before I was made redundant. • I have a Masters degree in Business Management and pride myself in my academic excellence. • Due to the length of time I have been out of the workplace, employers are telling me I no longer have relevant work experience. I am reluctantly applying for roles of a slightly lower grade. I am being rejected because employers fear I will not stay in the role due to my level of seniority. • There is lots of money available for people to re-train on a lower educational level. There is no funding for people like me. • Employment Centres have no relevance to me – they do not advertise executive jobs and do not understand my background, issues or needs. • My employment adviser has tried to help me with my CV and job applications. I do not need help I am extremely capable, I just need someone to give me a job. • My partner is a law student and we have three children - a three year old daughter with autism and one year old twin boys. • We have had to move into rented accommodation since I lost my job. Our house is smaller and further out of town. • My friends have since found work. I am unable to participate in our social calendar because I do not have the same levels of expendable income. • I have to use public transport as my partner now uses our car for getting to University. • I refuse to look at basic wage jobs. I have worked hard to get to the position I reached. Why should I start all over again, doing a minimum wage job that will bring me the same income as I get now?

20. My name is John, I am 48 years old I am married with Coleen for 28 years, she works part-time in a factory.My daughter is 25 years of age, she still lives at home. I have a son of 27, he moved out with his girlfriend.After school I did some temporary jobs and after that I worked for a contractor for over 25 years.I did not finish high school and have no other degrees or certificates.I am unemployed for 3 years.Working in outdoor-construction is out of the question, I have a back injury.I will never find a job again, nobody wants me.I went to every enterprise in the neighbourhood to introduce myself for the job of handyman but did not get any positive answers.Cooking for friends and family is one of the things I like the most.My kids say I am to friendly and polite, I would help everyone, even if this means that I don’t have any time left for myself.Now that I am unemployed, I spend most of my time doing small chores for friends, family and neighbours. In the time I am home, I have build an outhouse for my tools, I painted the kitchen, I repaired all small defects in the house and I installed a new bathroom. I enjoy creating things with my hands and helping people out. I hate the feeling of being useless.I feel I am to old to learn something new, it’s to late to start a training.

21. My name is Peter and I am 49 years old. • I live on my own. • I used to be in the military for 20 years but when I left I found it difficult to get a job. At last I got a driving job, driving a van. • The company I drove for did not have insurance on the van and when I got stopped by the Police I was given 6 points on my licence. I have not been able to get driving work since. • I have been out of work for nearly 2 and a half years. • I have put on a lot of weight as I am not very active and this has resulted in back problems. • I don’t get out very much. • I received help for an organisation who paid for me to take a Portable Appliance Testing course a year ago but I have not been able to find work since.

22. My name is Sarah, I am 19 years old. • I am a single mom of 2 sons, Seth (1,5 years old) and Aaron (6 months old). • Since I got pregnant during high school, I dropped out and didn’t graduate. • I get alimony for my children, but it doesn’t cover my expenses for them. • I don’t have a permanent employment, but sometimes I do temporary jobs, mostly as cleaning lady. • For child care I can rely on my parents, they are very helpful. • I feel guilty that my sons don’t have any luxury, I don’t have the means to do fun things with them. • When I am looking for a job, it has to be close to my home, because I have to get there by bus. • I try to have a clean, nice and cosy home, but it isn’t easy with a small income. • I am worried about the future, I don’t have any savings. I am in debt with several credit companies. What if something happens to me or one of my children?

23. My name is Steven, I am 28 years old. • 10 years ago, I graduated as a carpenter. I was very creative and good with my hands, so I got a job in no time. • After working for the same boss for 5 years, I got bored. I got some problems with my employer and with my parents. I started drinking and doing drugs in the weekend to escape my problems. • My parents do not want to have anything to do with me. They think I am a quitter. • I currently lost my job because of my problems with my employer and I lost my place to live because I couldn’t pay the rent. • For now, I am living in a shelter, where I also get guidance for my addictions to intoxicants. • Once I am sober and healthy, I want to move to a place of my own, but I don’t have any money to finance it. • I want to look for a job, but which address should I give to an employer? I can’t tell anyone I am living in a homeless shelter. • I still want to work with my hands, I am totally capable of working as a carpenter again.

24. My name is Karima, I am 38 years old. • I moved from my country Iran 8 years ago. In this 8 years, I never worked, but I did learn the language and now I can understand, speak, write and read it. • In Iran, I was a respected woman. I had my own pharmacy and I worked together with my husband. • Because my husband and I couldn’t live in the strict conditions of the leader of Iran and we did not want to raise our children in a dangerous environment, we moved here to live with family. • Since I am here, I took care of my household, my children and the children of my family that also live here. • My husband works as a landscaper. He loves his job and has a good boss. It’s a totally different job than a pharmacist, but he loves the outdoors and working with his hands. • I want to work, not because we need the money, but because I want to feel useful. • I already responded to job openings for cleaning lady, in childcare, in factories, … but I am told that I don’t have any relevant experience. I think it’s because I am from a foreign country and I have a strong will, nobody can push me over. I am not the suppressed Muslim-wife that everybody expects me to be. • I am willing to learn something entirely new, if an employer gave me the chance to prove that I am a hard worker and a loyal employee.

25. My name is Helen, I am 35 years old. • I live with my parents and help to care for my mother, who has alzheimers. • I help out around the house a lot. I do the shopping each week and always make sure the house is clean and tidy. • When I was at school, I was diagnosed as having a learning difficulty. It took me a bit more time to learn things than the other children, but I was always very hardworking and tried to keep up. • None of the teachers ever gave me much extra help though, and as a result I don’t read and write very well. • I haven’t ever worked although I would love to have a job. I wouldn’t really mind what I did, as long as I knew I was capable. • I have been volunteering for the past 5 years in a charity shop. I help to sort out the items that come in to the shop to be sold. Sometimes, I operate the till. I really enjoy being at the shop, and especially chatting to the customers and the other volunteers. • My parents never really encouraged me to get a job. They didn’t really want me to start volunteering although they have got used to it now. My dad says that no-one would ever pay me to do a job because I’m too slow. He’s probably right. • I don’t go out very much and sometimes feel lonely. I used to have a good friend who I’d go to the cinema and other places with. She moved away though and since then, I’ve found it hard to meet other people.

26. Link to SUCCES • Round up of the general themes that emerge from the workshop • How does this relate to SUCCES? • General way in which we approach working with clients

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