From coffee morning to Sunday morning

1. From coffee morning to Sunday morning Session 2: Preparing the church

2. Session 2: Preparing the church Three Christians arrived at the gates of heaven. “And what have you brought with you?” St. Peter asked. “I’ve brought my rosary” said the Roman Catholic. “Very good”, replied Peter, “in you go. And what about you?”. “ Well I’ve got my Bible with me”, the Baptist said. “Fine, on your way”. The Methodist meanwhile lifted up the tea towel on top of the object she was carrying and smiled: “And I’ve brought a casserole!”.

3. Session 2: Preparing the church • Discuss together how each of these: prayer, the Bible and hospitality, could make a good starting-point for our relationships with people • Which would you feel most comfortable with? • What would you appreciate most if you were on the receiving end? • Why?

4. Session 2: Preparing the church • Two basic concepts • 1. All you need is love • The motive for any kind of outreach has to be love. If we care about people then we will want them to discover, as we have, the reality and relevance of a living relationship with Jesus. If we don’t have this motivation at the centre, then all we end up with is a ‘hit list’. • Bible Focus: Mark 12 verses 28-34 • Make a note together of two or three of the main things you do in the church. Discuss to what extent the love that Jesus speaks of is the main motive behind the church doing them.

5. Session 2: Preparing the church • 2. Where are people coming from? • People are not unspiritual today, rather the opposite, on a spiritual quest and feeling highly vulnerable without proper spiritual ‘roots’ • However, church is not seen as relevant to the top issues of their daily lives, so we need to develop trusting relationships, a key aim of this course

6. Session 2: Preparing the church • Tanya starts taking her baby to the nearby church’s mother and toddler club; • The Minister drops in there regularly and Tanya makes some new friends. • She is nervous about talking to the Minister about baptising her baby but, when she eventually plucks up courage, finds her “surprisingly nice”. • Tanya senses a genuine welcome at the baptism service; • Starts praying for her baby; • Makes friends and finds the church relevant; • Comes to a pram service;

7. Session 2: Preparing the church • Starts to feels God is real; • Prays more; • Buys a children’s Bible for her toddler and reads it herself; • Comes to Back to Church Sunday and later to a children’s service; • Finds the words begin to make sense and starts to look forward to the services; • Comes to an Alpha course which makes her feel “challenged, excited, happy, stretched, confused”. • Somewhere along this three year journey she realises she has become a Christian.

8. Session 2: Preparing the church • Discuss together whether your church has put linked steps in place for someone like Tanya, • or is she likely to fall between the cracks somewhere and never end up at this destination?

9. Session 2: Preparing the church • Practical things to do • 1. Know who your friends are • Draw up a list together of church activities through which you meet people who are no longer regular churchgoers. • From this, identify the type of people you mostly know: families, retired, or whatever it may be. Not a list of names – we’re not making a ‘hit list’!

10. Session 2: Preparing the church • Practical things to do • 2. Spot the gaps • We’ve looked at people like Tanya, but what gaps are there without any stepping-stones for other types of people you have identified, between ‘coffee morning and Sunday morning’?

11. Session 2: Preparing the church • Practical things to do • 3. Provide the right activities • Think of the sort of ‘stepping-stones’ that need to be put in place. • There is no need to draw up a full list now as some examples are given in later sessions. So simply be content to jot down a few ideas to come back to later

12. Session 2: Preparing the church • Practical things to do • 4. Equip your people • The members and regulars of the church will need resourcing well in order to play their part in the ways we are going to discuss in the following sessions, including helping them discover their gifts and grow in their faith, and providing suitable booklets and other material. • Is the church doing enough to help people grow in this way? What more could it do?

13. Session 2: Preparing the church • Bible focus: Romans 12, verses 4-13 • Discuss which of the gifts and qualities set-out here are reflected in the life of your church? What could we learn from this passage?

14. Session 2: Preparing the church • And finally ... • 1. Look closely at what you are and do • Without going through it in detail – at least not now – it is worth taking a quick look at the typical characteristics that are found in healthy and growing churches. • NB: These are more about who we are than what we do – which might come as a surprise to many Methodists who usually measure ourselves by how full our diaries are!

15. Session 2: Preparing the church • And finally ... • 2. “Pray without ceasing”! • Nothing much of any consequence will happen without ongoing insistent prayer. • How can the church provide a wide enough range of opportunities, not only a conventional prayer meeting but other types of prayer environment for those who feel uncomfortable to pray out loud or ‘off-the-cuff’?

16. Session 2: Preparing the church • Bible Focus: 1 Thessalonians 5, verses 16-19 • Discuss together some things you can learn in your church from these four instructions. These are only four of quite a long list contained in verses 12-22 but they are key.

17. Session 2: Preparing the church We close this session with the course prayer And now we give you thanks because by the Holy Spirit you lead us into all truth, and give us the power to serve you as a royal priesthood and to take the joy of the gospel into all the world. Amen (Methodist Worship, p.56)