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Parenting from the Heart and the Brain

Parenting from the Heart and the Brain. Jennifer Scholes , MA Child Welfare Partnership Portland State University. Please note. This training is based on the policies and procedures of the Oregon Department of Human Services Child Welfare Program.

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Parenting from the Heart and the Brain

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  1. Parenting from the Heartand the Brain Jennifer Scholes, MA Child Welfare Partnership Portland State University

  2. Please note This training is based on the policies and procedures of the Oregon Department of Human Services Child Welfare Program. If you are certified by another agency, we recommend consulting with your agency for guidance.

  3. Learning Objectives • Describe what blocked care is • Identify the impact of blocked care on • caregivers and children • Practice effective parenting strategies

  4. BB • Brain Based Parenting • Daniel Hughes • John Baylin

  5. What What makes parenting rewarding?

  6. hatWhatW What happens when parenting isn’t rewarding? “Going Limbic” vs. Blocked Care

  7. Bloc Blocked Care How does it feel? What does it do to us?

  8. Pp • Plan A - “The Good Life” Plan B – “I can’t trust that adults will meet my needs”

  9. PlPlan B’s Results • Fear conditioning • Search for the negative • Hypervigilance

  10. The Combination in turn… • Creates premature self reliance plus mistrust of caregivers • “The Rules”

  11. Where’s the hope? • Most children can eventually move to Plan A. • Three things that make a difference

  12. Parenting Related Systems • Parental Approach • Parent Reward Child Reading Meaning Making System Executive System

  13. Attachment Style Parenting Child expresses need We experience ourselves in a positive way We identify the need & meet it Child relaxes Child is soothed

  14. Reactive Style Parenting(Blocked Care) Facial expressions, eye movement, subtle change in tone of voice Over-reaction to nonverbal communication Child is a threat to well being We see few parenting options We judge the child and ourselves Yelling timeout, grounding “I am not a good parent” We go into survival mode Quick, emotions based action

  15. Kinds of Blocked Care

  16. Chronic Blocked Care • Unmanageable levels of stress very early in life

  17. Acute Blocked Care • A huge event limits ability to parent

  18. Child-Specific Blocked Care

  19. Stage Specific Blocked Care “The Twos and the Teens”

  20. Overcoming Blocked Care Not just self-care More than deep breathing A learned parenting style

  21. PACE Parenting

  22. PRegaining Perspective

  23. Reconnecting the heart and brain

  24. PACE Parenting • Playfulness

  25. Acceptance

  26. Curiosity

  27. Empathy • “I’m doing the best I can.”

  28. Putting it all together • Watch for small successes • Watch for reciprocity • Watch for Revised Life Rules “What’s a Parent to Do?”

  29. Thank You

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